so I've noticed a lot of people like this when they go through a breakup they look for a new person RIGHT AWAY I personally feel that I should take some time off to forget about a person, enjoy being single for a while before I go back into that market how do you guys deal after a break up?
Hi,SmallriniladyI had been too busy to log onto PopularAsians for many weeks. You broke up with that man whom you loved a few months' ago before the summer holidays? How did it happen?If I remembered correctly this young man had an elder brother, and last time there was this complex triangular relationship?! And I am sure that they were not called Bob and Ryan!
your right, they aren't bob and ryan me and that guy took a bit of a break over the summer, and i guess the break lead him to decide that dating is not his priority right now, and i was just so sick running around in circles BUT the reason for this thread is because the ELDER BROTHER is driving me NUTZ right now he and his gf broke up recently, and now he's been clinging to me. calling me every night, trying to come over all the time, even invites himself over. I was being a good friend at first, but this is beyond crazy. Same thing is happening with my best friend. Apparently when i'm too busy the guy goes and finds her. She called me one day freaking out, because he wouldn't leave. We had a conversation and i talked about this very issue. About people who are too scared to be alone that within a very short amount of time from a breakup they already are attached to someone new. And he claims that all girls are like that, and it made me VERY mad, because I am not like that. I refuse to get attached to someone until i am over my previous relationship. I hate the idea of the rebound game And on top of that, I told him that i may not be like that, but he VERY much is like that (hinting at what the hell he was doing), but he couldn't deny it
i always stay like a year single after i break up with my ex bf (not that i had that many lol)....dunno why.. it just happens...i never got myself into a relationship in shorter than 1 year break...not like its planned need time to "recover"...being alone after having a relationship is good for me.... clear my head and have lots of time for myself again... wouldnt wanna rush into something new and give up my freedom just like that... ppl who get into a relationship just cuz their scared to be alone....hmmm their kinda doomed to fail..... & i wouldnt wanna be with someone who wants to be with me for that reason only too...
Thanks for your update, after a break up it is always good to let time sort your thoughts more clearly. I am sure that you are not alone, just being single for a while. Time to rest and clear your mind out. I have never ever got myself involved in this love triangles and complex emotions. It was all very simple for us, love at first sight and there was no discussion about money, career, gifts, jewelry, restaurant, what your parents did for a living, how much do you earn, branded goods, flash car, perfume... In hindsight it was so pure,simple and passionate which we call **** and it should last till eternity.
i....never been in a relationship. When i'm very depressed and frustrated, im kinda scared of being alone...but i'm very independent. girls, when the right relationship comes, it just comes. you don't need to force urself to find it.
lol....finding a bf/gf is easy...nowadays trust me.... finding the right person, to have the right connection with that person & for him to feel the same way... thats a bit harder...
aw how come the other half of the world isn't talking i know there are ton of you out there most of my HK friends friends jump from relationship to relationship more than half of them wont break up from their current relationships unless they have the next one already lined up. And will admit, if it weren't for me liking someone else I wouldn't break up with (person)
wow....im sorry but that sounds kinda sad....so meaning...ur doing the same thing???? Why so scared of being alone? its not the end of the world....there are heaps of advantages when ur single.... and no im not saying it cuz im single.... but after break up....i just need time to BREATHE..... dont feel like putting effort and energy into something new...just need some me time....
Well some people are just afraid of being single. I have a friend who would date anyone after him and his GF broke up. There is not one day that he is single.
^ No, me and my other friends always thought it was weird. We never understand why he keeps on dating random people who we all knew he would have no future with.
Lol....the thing is...nothing wrong with just going out and have a good time after break up....i guess but to try to hook up with someone else instantly....=/....bit odd to me...
hooking up instantly, is just like finding a replacement, kinda like one-night-stand. well i guess have a good time is fine, just don't let that person think u're serious about them.
a few of my friends jump from person to person because they just want to have someone. and yeah it's pretty sad even if it's not a relationship I still wouldn't want to jump from one person to the next. I remember this one dance in freshman year, one guy asked me but then he couldn't go, then another guy asked me but then he couldn't go, and then this third guy asked, but I was like, nah I don't want to seem like I go around -unsure
i dont think of it as weird more just sad that people can't even be comfortable and happy with themselves that they place their happiness entirely on other people
