What your opinion on this issue? What if your parents dragged you into an arrange marriage woud you go through with it? Or set you up on dates? is it traditional over new generation or vise versa? what do you think?
I'm in the same situation but I think I'm gonna follow my parents' plan not that I don't was to be a rebel but there isn't the significant that I want to fight for.
for me, I'll chuck a huge tantrum before shouting "screw arrange marriage" and not turn up on the day of the wedding, but I still get the cake and I don't mean the urinal cake
Can't see why people are so against this. So what if parents or other family members arrange for you to meet other people, it's not as if you have to go through with it. It's just another avenue for you to meet a partner, no more or less than if your friends were to do it. Ok, so it's a bit weird that it's your family members introducing you but what if the girl/boy turns out to be a real hottie/hunk? You wouldn't be complaining then would you?
OP is saying being dragged into marriage... I dont think anyone would agree to it these days (unless they dont care abt their happiness or cant find anyone themselves n are desperate) also, finding someone to get married with is not just abt looks... hence i would still complain...
arranged dates are fine. Since you never know who you might meet. If you don't like them, you don't ever need to talk to them again. arranged marriages - a big NO.
See my parents are not really to traditional thou my mother keeps tellng me that she will find someone for me if I dont start looking which is being pushy. But because I grew up in a society where you can marry whom you want its kind of hard to be pushedinto something that my parents may have gone through. I believe that my grandmothers who arranged there meetings but in the end it was there choice to marry. However I dont think I could go thought it. dating is one thing but marrying a complete stranger is another,
^arent u like, early 20s -___- ur ma's a weirdo & indians LOVE arranged marriage, they believe it's not as easy for a marriage to break off (based on the vid i watched in school)
i thoguth arranged marriage only happens in india? i unno? chinese ppl have arranged marriage? i only heard of it like once...my friend is suppose to marry this guy for business purposes.. other than that i don't know any reason y there should be arranged marriage...or maybe the girl wanna use the guy (usually ugly and can't get a girl) to get overseas citizenship? well it doesn't effect me cause i can find my own wife
its called tradition... but anyways lol i think its some sorta "tai seung" shit, i dunno if they'll actually do it complete traditional and make them wed each other after just meeting like once.
i ocasionally read that indian parents make their childen (even really young ones) marry animals... like some girls have to marry a frog or a dog.... n this has nothing to do with arranged marriage but the last thing i heard was that some farmers made their virgin daughters work on the land naked to honor the gods... hoping theyd get rain >_<
yeah my mother is weird and you can trust me I told her were to go. My distant cousin (i dont really know her but she is family) on the other hand wasn't so lucky. She was married to some guy from taiwan last year the strange thing being they have only met once, he liked her not sure if the feeling were mutual and ask if he could have her and that was that. she however doesn't speak chinese at all so how they commuicate is beyond me. But I hear there getting along fine now. but still I would never do it. I also believe the reason they allowed the marriage was that he promised to be able to provide for her and Her parents thought it was a good deal, knowing someone could take care of her for them so they dont have to worry. I think the circumstances that these thing happen in some I would be ok with but other I wouldnt. As you say different cultural view dont always match. Anyway I found this vid that looks at matchmaker. [video=youtube;cJsW2nqTgVg]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cJsW2nqTgVg"[/video]
was there a significant age difference? but damn if two strangers get married and one doesn't like the other i would imagine sex to be sort of like rape, kinda disgusting feeling. imagine having that for the rest of your life. wtllllllllllll angieee... whoa. bestiality wtf. you trippin or what.
A lot of this still occurs and this is tradition because new generations don't see it as normal. It only becomes traditional when something overtakes it. That is freedom of choice. But keep in mind, we as a race still maintain a lot of ethnic and cultural differences in society. It still occurs. Whether to maintain social royalty, like Japan/Europe, or for business purposes, or religion, it occurs. Obviously to the audience here, they'd elect to chose, but those that haven't been in relationships don't realize how difficult it is to sail the rest of their lives as a couple. They also don't realize that the divorce rate is so high because society (Western) has lost a lot of 'creed', 'moral', and 'tradition'. This tradition binds a lot of couples together, due to face, due to 'their' social implications. However, in free roaming Western world, that doesn't hold well at all, as apparent. - - - - - If I had to be arranged back then and if the 'woman' was decent, and it elevated me in all respects, I don't see why not. Sometimes having too much choices lead to headaches. This is the 2 fold of being human beings, and having free-will. That's the thing. A lot has to do with benefits, and the way the world has become. I pump 40+ hour a week into my work, not including additional study I do to maintain myself and what not. It's very difficult to meet someone, or put time for socializing or whatever. I can see why arranged marriage are good and what matchmaking occurs. But, being introduced for a chance and having a 'forced' arranged marriage are diff't things. Arranged marriages are 'arranged' b4 they even know, b4 they even have a choice. In your situation, or your mom's, or your cousin's, they just want to 'introduce' you, not force you. Pushy, I know. Think this though. Your mom loves you a lot, to the point where she wants to see, approve and 'know' w/ content that someone is there to genuinely love you and take care of you. That's the reason ya know ?! She doesn't want to just have a son-in-law, she wants to use her years as a person to judge, and make sure you find someone good! If she's marrying you off for dowry or whatever, that's another story.
