Being honest, yet hiddindg your identity

so people say, you should be honest with people, tell them what you REALLY think (espeically your friends)

so i think my friend is a bum, yes basically he's a bum, a moocher, a flake

and so on his blog today he writes about how his life is going bad

and i basically tell him honestly "your a bum" (and i go more into details)

but instead of signing in so he knows that comment is from me

i left it anoynomous, cause i dont want to get into a fight with him about it

yet at the same time, someone needs to slap him with that information

what do you guys think, should i have signed my name, or was it ok that one of his friends (dont know which one) was trying to give him a reality check

 

i think that wat u did was fine. an anonymous is prob better, u don't want to be ruining ur friendship now do ya.

 

u did the right thing... now he's going to be thinking about it.

 

i think its pretty bad you left him that message on his blog, cause everyone else is gonna see it...

if you have those kinda problems with him and its at the point where you really wana let him know what you think of him, you should have a nice and private chat with him or at least leave ur name with your comments

my opinion

 

ye hence if ur leaving a message like that on facebook to him keep it anonymous or just tell it to him in person.

 

yes yes i no, im like that too. u just have to tell the honest truth a different way xD

 

If he's a close friend of yours, I think you shouldn't have left any comment on his blog. But instead, talk to him in person, tell him you've read his blog and tell him in person why you think so. There's probably stuff on him that you don't know that only give you one perspective of his life. Have you talked to mutual friends of yours? What do they think about him?

If you're really his friend, you wouldn't have to hide yourself. It's rather childish.... and cowardish.

 

well not necessarily, it does depend on the person themselves, i mean usually u would but if this person took these things badly then i would beware cos u wouldn't want to have a broken friendship from this.

 

i agree

i've also lost friendships from mis understanding meaning
i lose a friend because i told her that her sailormoon trading card stunk (i ment it smelled, cause she got it from a candy box, so it smelled like strawberries)
but she got really mad, i guess she took the different definition of stunk, and we weren't friends for an entire year



some people dont take things well