So I've been wondering...if you ask a girl out...just to like hangout, etc. & she accepts, but tells you that she wants to invite along some of her friends, and she also wants the guy to invite some of his friends.. is that a bad thing? Does that mean she doesn't trust the guy? Is she being defensive or what?
To me, that means she sees you as a friend material only (and you're generally not interesting enough). If you are interested with just being friends with her, then yes, bring more friends. If you are interested in dating her, then don't bring anyone else because it wouldn't make sense to bring in more competition.
Usually, for a first time meeting (or as my friends and I like to call it, the "meet and greet"), it's less formal when there is a group of people with different interests and personalities hanging out together. For girls, bringing friends along is a good idea for many reasons: 1) Safety in numbers. 2) More people means more conversations, ideas, fewer awkward moments, and it takes the sole attention/focus off the two people who are the initial reasons for the get-together. 3) Possibly an indirect way of getting "the nod" from her girls that you're an OK guy and whatnot. We are in some ways a reflection of our friends as he may be a reflection of his friends. When I met my last bf, I brought 2 of my girls with me. I told him that beforehand and he told me that he was fine with it. I asked him if he would like to bring his "wingmen" with him, but he decided that he wanted to come alone. He sat next to me, in front of "the panel" and we jokingly warned him that it would be an interrogation. It's not a bad idea to bring friends along for the first (or even second) meeting, but after that, someone looking in from the outside might start thinking that he's dating the girl and all her friends. My advice is to know your intentions, manage your expectations, and hope that everything will fall into place just as they're supposed to. If she already accepted the invite, chances are she’s interested in something. What that is is up to you to find out. But really, there's no need to look so deeply into such a matter. Simply accept it and enjoy it for what it's worth.
she mite feel uncomfortable with just you there and thinks that there will be awkward silent moments, so she wants others to be there to break any silence
the girl thinks ur a friend. if she realy liked you, the friends would interfere wit u guys. so the girl thinks your just asking to hang out n not like a date
It just means that she don't want to be alone with u, becuz she might not like the guy, or that she thinks the guy is too boring to be alone with so she wants more ppl.
Well, maybe she doesn't know that you wanted a DATE and she thought you just wanted to hang out...I think you should've made yourself more clear...she could've thought you wanted more company or thought you were gonna bring your friends anyways.
Yo, you might as well bring along your attack dog, cuz you never know how scurry her friends might be... LOL
Nothing wrong with that just to want to be comfortable before really want to make a decision so be patient.Just wait and see how it goes nothing much to lose and everything to gain if things works.
shes making sure that u know its not a "date" and just a boy/girl hanging out.. sorry dude, shes prob not into u however, if u guys had been 'dating' and then she got u to bring ur firends out then it might me she just wants to meet ur friends afteral, she wants to be part of ur life...
I hate it when girls bring a bunch of friends cuz "she" will barely speak to u unless u try really hard. 2 or 3 might be ok tho
maybe the girl just shy, it is ok for girls to bring her friends out with for few early dates but NOT after 1month or so. if she continue to do that i think she not interested to futher the relationship
it's not a bad thing actually since u said just to hangout only... but if it's date,then she's bein defensive,which she sud be.
