Can first love last forever?

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by aniking_7, Jul 11, 2007.

  1. aniking_7

    aniking_7 Well-Known Member

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    Sometime people first love was in junior high and high school but most don't last long unlike some korean movies always true love will last till marriage and other fairy tale stuff of happily ever after.
     
  2. dragonside

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    that really depends, some people do stay together with their first love and they remain in love,
    like those really old couples holding each other's hands in the supermarket =)
    it's just rare but it does happen, forever is a long time, not all people can commit to that, lol.
     
  3. aniking_7

    aniking_7 Well-Known Member

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    Will you have feeling toward someone that was your first love after you 2 broke up and will you 2 be together again?
     
  4. dragonside

    dragonside Well-Known Member

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    hum...okay having feelings towards your first love after you break up is normal,
    but being together again is iffy, if she broke up and doesn't want to be together again,
    well, you know the result.

    You'll only be together again, if there's still mutual feeling, but there should be some serious consideration.
    Like, why the break up occurred in the first place...
    so it all depends. lol >.<
     
  5. Chloee

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    It is possible that old flames can burn again. Sometimes when there are break-ups it's just the timing isn't right at the moment, misunderstandings, or just wasn't meant to be. I also believe first loves can last forever, just depends on how they work things out with each other ^^
     
  6. lee-lee

    lee-lee Well-Known Member

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    don't look to korean films on love advice dude. they are pretty much the most unrealistic portrayal of life.
     
  7. aniking_7

    aniking_7 Well-Known Member

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    Hahah I know I was giving a example these never will happen for real.
     
  8. lee-lee

    lee-lee Well-Known Member

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    okay well, there are stories against the circumstances but i find a majority of the time, first love does not work out. it's not always because the two ppl don't love each other but of the fact that time just changes ppl. i think ur pretty young (15? 16?), i remember reading ur age in another post, but anyways, over time u will grow. u will both go thru life experiences that will take u to different paths in life. eventually, one or both of u will realize that u guys aren't the same ppl anymore and that u don't really know why u are together anymore.
    the way i am now (i'm 23) is totally different from when i was in my first relationship (18). although my first bf still holds a soft spot in my heart, i would never be with him because we are just two different ppl.
    do i sound pessimistic? cause i'm not. i just find that that's what usually happens with a majority of my friends.
     
  9. 無得頂

    無得頂 Well-Known Member

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    Yes, it can last forever.
     
  10. MissCheekS

    MissCheekS Reconnaîssant ❤

    Hey, u dont sound pessimistic...ur just being real because i agree to what ur saying and im not an pessimistic person...
    ur just a different person when ur younger... u expect different things from life and ur both unexperienced....

    I used to believe in that first love thing... didnt work out for me...
    i do admire those who can make it last "forever"... the idea is kinda romantic..
    but too late 4 me lar....
     
  11. fearless_fx

    fearless_fx Eugooglizer

    never too late lahh
     
  12. lee-lee

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    thanks. i do agree that it is a romantic idea though. don't we all wish for it? when it works out with the first love, then one's own experience of love will never know pain.
     
  13. MissCheekS

    MissCheekS Reconnaîssant ❤

    fearless... it IS too late...cuz me and my ex bf not together anymore...
    and i believe hes seeing someone else already :p

    lee-lee...i dont know about that...i mean ur first lover can cheat on u or be shitty but u just decide to stay together... unless its called a perfect first love... but we all know... theres no such thing as perfect....
     
  14. lee-lee

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    haha, okay, well i wasnt talking about first love in the context of cheating being involved but first love like the kind we see on tv. but u r right, that kind of perfect love just does not exist.
     
  15. MissCheekS

    MissCheekS Reconnaîssant ❤

    hehehe....i guess now i seem like a pessimist =)
     
  16. first love last forever in one's mind... u tend to remember all the good parts of it (unless ur relationship went downhill badly n had to b ended in a bad way) n after yrs n yrs when ppl reunite with their first love the sparks r still gonna b there coz of all the good memories
     
  17. zero_c

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    ^ You will always remember your first love, and it will always have a part of your heart.
     
  18. lee-lee

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    i wouldn't say pessimistic. i guess more of a realist.

    i do have fond memories of my first love. but when i see him now, there are no sparks. more of like...ummm... u know when something reminds u of ur childhood? like a good memory. and it just makes u smile. other than that, i dont' really feel anything more than that.
     
  19. u still c ur first love often??
     
  20. lee-lee

    lee-lee Well-Known Member

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    every once in awhile i bump into him. we have mutual friends so its not a coincidence to see him when i go out. but yeah i do see him every now and then. he's in med school and has grown into a very handsome boy but i don't feel anything. sometimes, we'll have coffee and just talk about how our lives are going. there really isn't any bad vibes between us at all. we both know it's just not something that was meant to be. well, at least i feel that way.