i feel hopeless can you guys plz gimme some suggestions.... well first of all thx to whoever that is willin to listen to me about my probs coz i appreciated very much aand this might be a bit long but hope you guys can bare with me.....well this all started several days ago.....when i was surfing around on myspazz i came across this really pretty and hot girl so i added her....but i never really expected her to reply me or anythin coz ppl on myspazz jus add you for popularity not for the sake of meetin anyone.....anyways soo she added me and she started talkin to me....first of all everything was very like subtle and like normal and we talked for a bit on myspazz so then i asked her for her msn so we can talk easier and stuff yea......and heres the major turnin pt in my story.....i added her and we jus kept on talkin and talkin......and she told me that she hardly ever add anyone on myspazz to her msn.....and i was special...i know that couldve jus been some sweet talkin which she never meant it but at least that shows she had some interest in me ya? ok.....then after a while she wanted to see me so i webcamed her and she jus kept sayin these sweet things to me and im jus like totally flattered....so we she had to go offline and she said all these oh i'll miss ya blah blah those kinda stff....and so the next day she went online and i talked to her....and we webcammed and this time she went on as well.....and i jus oculdnt believe how hot she looked and cute........and durin the entire 6 hrs conversation we had she giggled whenever i said something which was really sweeet....and i even told her that i will have a crush on her....and she does have one on me already....ok durin that time she even toook pictures of me.....and posted up on her myspace page....front page too with a screen cap of us webcamming......dude how sweet can tat be....she even put me as her profile pic.....i duno but to me that certainly sound to me that we have some feelings for each other. I know internet relationships are often screwed up and full of lies but if she is willin to show me to the public like htat doesnt that mean im special for her?? well tahts not the major problem i have....sooo the next day after all the sweet stuff that happened.....i coulndt take it i had to ask her whether all the things she had said were true or not....and she said she did but after i raised the question things seem to turn diff and she seems much colder to me than before....OK this is the devastating n dramatic bit......welll ok she lives an atlantic and the chances of us being togeterh is very slim but yea.....surprisingly my parents told me i was allowed to fly over the atlantic and visit my friends after my term N she is right where my friends are......so i jus feel this is some drama goin on in my life.....n i was kinda excited to tell thsi girl about me able to see her in real life......and then the moment i told her she stopped talkin to me.....did not reply to any of my emails or mgs.....you guys will proabbly see me as a dumb ass trustin some internet bullshit perhaps but i really do feel somethin diff from this girl n somethin is possible between us...honestly i dun expect anything i jus want to at least meet her and be friends since i have the opportunity to do so and if somethin is gonna happen then i'll deal with it but i really dun get why she has to run away and not answer me? did i freak her out? does she think im lyin or being a stalker? plz can you guys tell me whats in her mind right now coz its killin me.....i cant sleep coz of this....sorry for makin this thread so long and all the stuff i've typed are absolutely true and please believe me.......i know its hard coz i cant even believe osmethin like this is hapenin to me......that girl jus seems like the girl ive been waitin for....i duno hope you guys can help me out......thx.......
yea.. those myspace pple is all crazy.. but I mean.. did you ever try getting her number and talking to her?? hard to say if she was just playing around with you.. and it seems like she's completely ignoring you now.. so I mean.. chances are your lil internet relationship has ended... and the whole long distance thing.. sure you can fly out to see her once.. and then what?? jus webcam all the time.. =/. if you could make some kinda contact with her now.. jus ask her what is was bothering her..?/
yea i know i want to but i already sent her like 2 msges sayin like oh i hope i didnt freak her out or anything and i know she read it but shes not replyin me.....im scared to msg her again....she'll think im totally obsess or some crap....but im not its jus taht i feel that shes diff from the crowd....i duno if she was playin with me.....but when i was saw her on webcam that day.....i can say im 90% sure that she had somethin for me.....how often do you see a girl who would act funny in front of a guy? how often do you see a girl post a guy that youve jus met for a few days as profiel pic or even the homepage.....i duno...i really duno....im scared to msg her.....but you think i should at least say hi and ask her wats up even tho ive asked already ya? and right now all i really want is to at least be friends with her.....and go back to the way it was before.....do you guys think its possible? i really cant believe i was allowed to go over when i asked my parents.....its like a dream come true...wat are the chances of somethin like this happening? i feel like im in a movie or something -unsure
I am going to be frank. You screwed up big time. Trust is a huge foundation in something like this if u're to venture into the land of my space or whatnot. The fact that u two traded contacts and did the whole webcam thing showed that the girl's somewhat genuine (although u really don't know). Spending hrs on end with u like that...I mean come on...if she wasn't interested, she wouldn't have wasted 6 hrs of her life. For you to question her the following day showed doubts in the trust when she webcammed with u? What were you thinking? Better yet...were u thinking at all? I don't think you will get a 2nd chance...especially something over the net like this. What i'd do if I were in your shoes were to type an apology letter stating where I went wrong and that I wasn't thinking....Furthermore you should end it by saying something like "If you don't reply this letter or ever reply my messages, I'd understand...maybe things were never meant to be....we all make mistakes at times. I know I made a terrible mistake in questioning your words thereby losing our mutual trust for one another." Although we've known each other for such a short period of time, we've developed a connection in which I could've never imagined. I was scared....I was a fool to even question your intentions........" Crap, I probably wrote 1/3 of your letter for you. You sound like a frantic man right now. Calm down....let your heart slow down and start the letter. To build a bridge, it might take years....to destroy one, i'll take a few seconds. When a bridge is there right in front of you, are u too afraid to cross it? What are the risks? Are there consequences? Obviously you didn't ask yourself too many questions.
dc003 i know i should write a letter apologizing but the fact is that i dun even know wats goin on...i dun wanna say the wrong stuff you know wat i mean.....i know i F*cked up big time and its too late to speak of the reason why i was such a fool.....insecurity kills me....i dun like wandering around wiht no purpose, i really really wanna say hi to her and talk her over this but im scared to make the move for the fact that ive screwed up already.. also i probably did another dumb mistake of askin whether her offer for me to crash at her place or somethign is still up but i even told her i was jus kiddin.;..guess that really freaked her out....i honeslty dun get wats in her mind right now coz its like when i first told her her reaction was "WAT WHEN WHERE HOW' (which sounded excited yea?) and then she stopped talkin to me so i duno if she is jus lost and duno how to react or i duno....but anyways im very glad you told me about my stupidity in such a direct way.....wakes me up from my dream......
sounds weird i dunno it's a great opportunity to play with someone's emotion if your bored and that is what she might ahve been doing
Hmm she might just be too embarrased now about the whole thing. Just give it some time and when you try to talk to her again just apologise and tell her that you didn't mean to question her trust that way. By the way sorry to say but i found it a bit hard to follow your post. Maybe you should try and put your sentences into paragraphs just so people trying to help you can follow what you are saying. Hope i don't sound to harsh or anything. Good luck with it though.
yes.. you and wolf have damn near wrote a movie + a sequel today...-lol face it.. if she's ignoring you.. trying to message her over and over again is not going to help. 6 hours.. that is nothing... she could have enjoyed having the convo with you and liked the idea of being lil internet couples.. but the thought of actually seeing her prolly freaked her about abit..
yeeea im really sorry about the lay out and sentence and stuff....my first time posting =P but yea.....*sigH* life sux.....and why are girls sooo complicated....im so lost =(.......so i guess i'll wait ya n not say anything to her even if i see her online?
yea... not much you can do now... you keep messaging her, she'll jus get pissed.. if she really understands, she'll come around.. but she might have moved on already... seriously.. try meeting girls that you see physically.. that way.. you won't have something like this happen to you again.
thx soooo much for the replies.....i really needed you guys to "lao sang" me i know ive been stupid.....its hopelesss but i guess im gonna have to wake up from that dream of mine now
yea I mean I'm sure it was good while it lasted... but you made the simple mistake of getting too involved with someone from myspace.. let that be a lesson -nono -lol. Face it no matter how much you guys liked each other.. the long distance thing woulda been hard.. but uhh yea.. time will heal things... jus go out there and holla at them girls..
Wah... Okay...For some reason I dun think its sweet that she put ur pic everywhere etc...>.< Ott to me...but thats my opinion... I have no idea whats shes playin at... I dunno her so cant say blah blah blah... But u've done ur part right? If she doesnt reply to u or whatever then its her loss right? Dun bother wasting ur time if thats how shes gonna treat u
you should know what kinda girl she is with the comments she leaves for pple.. is she really "out there"
yea i kn ow wat you mean when you can tell hwo shes like by lookin at the comments........ibut i dun think shes really theose myspzz sluts you see around th palace......at least she know sthe realtiy of myspazz...*she was the one who told me myspazz is jus a populartity contest and there are lots of dicks up there" *sigh*
wow that is one long story with no gaps my gawddd......but i fnished it and like people said i'd just leave that 'thing' where it is right now no point dwelling on it if she no reply to you. and i would asl quit messaging her as it can be so fustrating and let her contact you if she wants to.
naruto, how can you have any doubts at this point? "Afraid of screwing up again?" You screwed up so bad the first time around, things couldn't get much worse. It's obvious that you really like her. It doesn't matter what people say about online "myths" or whatnot. Just go for it. Write the letter. Let a few days to cool your head first...then write from your heart and shoot for the moon. Do you have any other choice at this point if you want to pursue this love interest? No, not really. If you were to just msg her online to begin with, I think it's tough. How are you going to take her response or will there be any? Furthermore, how can you planning to start a conversation. Are you going to be like "Look, I know I screwed up..." or are u going to fuel the fire by saying "Hi". The choice is yours. If you can't go past your insecurities at this point, you're better off folding up your tent.
