Straight to the point. I don't want to beat around the bushes. So I really like this girl, she's got me trippin in every way and I haven't asked her out yet, but she doesn't want to be in a relationship. I don't want to force her into anything but no one wants to put time and effort into something that's not going to work out....right? Right now I'm trying to chill out, but I like her and there's nothing I can do about that. She tells me to go with the flow, but I believe in making things happen otherwise...nothing really will. I need some input, advices, past experience? anything will do. right now I'm still gonna show affection, but not strangle her about it.
I don't know, if she straight up said she doesn't want a relationship, there's nothing you can really do about it. Doesn't matter how much she may or may not like you. Maybe she's feeling you out a little bit before committing to something. Without understanding the whole situation, I will give you general advice: Caution is what I recommend but watch out for smothering affection because you're definitely going to piss her off. You're going to have to play it out. That's the game, you have to decide if you're in. I promoted a more aggressive approach in a different thread but that one I thought the outcome had a better chance of coming out okay. This one I don't think will end up that well if you pursue. Have to answer the standard questions too, are you already friends, how long have you known her, what's the situation between you two, etc.
dun push it... if both of u are best friend now... keep it that way... she juz doesnt like u enough to be her bf... and if u push it too much... it wouldnt end up good
but if u want to stay just friends now and be 2gether later on, it will be hard, girls would not date out "friends"
Actually the same thing is happening to me but role reversal: This guy is going after me and I told him I didn't want to be in a relationship - which is partially the truth. But if he is persistent and shows that I can trust him then I'm more than willing to be in on with him. From the girl's point of view, my advice to you is: 1. Be persistent but not annoying. Tell her you would be more than happy to be in a relationship but if she's not ready or doesn't want to, you're fine with that as long as you get to be with her. (this will melt her heart) 2. Show that you care! Not just sometimes but all the time. It's the little things that add up. Surprise her every now and then. Girls like guys who are unpredictable in good ways and catch them by surprise. 3. Be just a LITTLE hard to get. People desire what they can't have and if she has to work a little to get your attention... she'll feel amazing when she gets it. Hope this helps!! ps - yes girls say one thing but mean another
^ You sure you two don't know each other? Also these love thing is a gamble place your bet and wait for the result, if you're lucky, jackpot, if not then total loss and end up as friends
I was going to say the same thing! Persistance pay off!! I've heard it over and over and over. BUT, persistance doesn't mean smothering someone. Being there for them, showing them you really care. They are the qualities that causes a person to shine.
1. The guy that was chasing me said the exact thing to me! I asked him why he was still with me and getting me gifts and stuff when we both had different goals: he wanted to date, I didn't. And he just said "I dont mind if we don't date, as long as I get to be with you, although if you ever want to date. I'd be soo happy!" 2. Girls just don't speak their mind. We want guys to do stuff for us even if we say they don't have to - we want them to show that they WANT to do it for us and don't need us to remind them.
so...wait...if a girl says she doesn't have feel for you means the opposite? LOL I always thought that as GG you don't have a chance. You're stuck in friend zone now
i think u should just let the flow happen. stuff like this that rushes it in sumtimes has no good outcome. tried this once n failed. wish i would of went slow
If ur good-looking then jus ask her out but if u arent, shell just keep saying that she doesn't want to be in a relationship. You wanted advice, I gave you one.-innocent
guess i was blinded by false hope thanks guys. i've decided to give up on that thought. i haven't texted her for about 4 days. and she doesn't even bother to text me to see what's up i guess she doesn't even have me in mind whatever..guess i'll just have to move on
OH SHIT!!! MOTHERFCKER!!! Don't do that! Are you in high school or something! Because I did that one time in high school and we dont even talk anymore. And its been 5 years now and we still feel a barrier in front of us!!! There is no such thing as false hope!!! You've been warned!!!-surr
^ There is such thing as false hope...I've been experiencing so much false hope in my life its not even funny anymore...
