Cheatin, Cheated

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by !!!TwiLite!!!, Feb 21, 2007.

  1. !!!TwiLite!!!

    !!!TwiLite!!! Well-Known Member

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    For all the people who have been cheated on...how do you feel??..did you forgive and forget??

    For all the people who are cheating...how you all feel???...fun...gulity??

    [Truthful answers...love hurts]
     
  2. ab289

    ab289 Well-Known Member

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    how about thankful that you found out before a messy divorce?

    and how about payback is good!

    hehe ...
     
  3. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    honestly I did forgive

    more of, a ex of mine cheated on me, and then ended up leaving me for the other girl
    there was some tension between us for a while
    but i'm one of those friends before becoming lovers
    and we ended up becoming close friends again (after a bit of time apart)

    now he takes care of me alot (as friends)
    partially probebly because he feels guilty
    and mostly because he really truely cares

    he once told me "we are no longer lovers, but we can never go back to being friends, we will always be stuck somewhere in the middle"
    and i agree, i always watch over him, want him to make the best decisions, and treat his gf really nice (even though i dont like her) because i know that me liking her really matters to him
     
  4. hmm.. i like it how two ex-lovers become friends after. thats much better i find..
     
  5. bekwon

    bekwon New Member

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    she cheated on me with my best friend, so i cheated at her with her best friend...
    and i didn't felt any bad while doint it.
     
  6. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    um, how do the best friends feel now

    dont they feel bad that they did something so evil to there friend?
     
  7. kenshi

    kenshi Well-Known Member

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    its what people do that defines who they are.

    its what we do that defines who we are.
     
  8. !!!TwiLite!!!

    !!!TwiLite!!! Well-Known Member

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    true...gosh...cheatin' with ur gf best friend...nice..How do you define cheating?....not just sex...but what do you consider cheating?
     
  9. hiake

    hiake Vardøgr of da E.Twin

    Not a forgiving person. In exchange, I will totally sever the previous relationship before stepping into a new one (no cheating for me, I hate lies) -- not very multitasking in that aspect.
     
  10. i have been cheated.... just broke up with the guy.... but i dun mind talking to him after... just won't date him anymore... is that considered as forgive n forget??
     
  11. tnch

    tnch Active Member

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    I personally do not tolerate cheating at all; for me it kills all the trust that is needed in a relationship
     
  12. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    i believe that is considered forgiveness
    whether you just talk or date him now, is more considered an evaluation of your future relationship with this person
     
  13. !!!TwiLite!!!

    !!!TwiLite!!! Well-Known Member

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    i guess 2nd chances are worth taking...making a friend..then losing a friend...i would too...unless he was really ridiculous
     
  14. tdmt

    tdmt Well-Known Member

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    he cheated me, so i cheated him. i think that's fair trade
     
  15. kenshi

    kenshi Well-Known Member

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    fair trade? haha they are justa s bad as each other
     
  16. stargurl242

    stargurl242 Well-Known Member

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    Not sure if this is really considered cheating but I was with this guy then we stopped talking and after awhile I found out he has a new GF. o_O I believe in second chances but I think it would depend on how the other person was.
     
  17. adrianc

    adrianc Well-Known Member

    u still like him. LOL
     
  18. phistyle

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    you may be able to forgive but I believe u won't ever forget it...it will always be in the back of your mind...one way or another...
     
  19. kutkm2628

    kutkm2628 Active Member

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    Cheated???
    Cheating???

    I guess there is no such things in luv.
    Luv is a game. Once u play the game, u must know n obey the rules.
    There are no losers or winners. ONLY a broken heart 2 mend 4 the losers
     
  20. hiake

    hiake Vardøgr of da E.Twin

    But if you are comparing "love" or even "relationship" to a game, how can there not be winners or losers? And how can one NOT cheat to win? It's like one of those online games, some people have multiple instances going on their computer, so their level or power or EXP or whatever is really high -- they feel good about themselves for KNOWING how to cheat while others ("SUCKERS") slowly accumulate their points. But once they were found out about cheating they are forever enlisted in the hall of shame -- Rarely people respect cheaters.

    To me, it's no forgive and forget. As simple as that -- cheaters cheat because it's in their nature, I never believe in rehabilitation, how one can change blah blah. Given half a chance, I totally won't allow myself to sink THAT low to be treated like a door mat.