Cheating!

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by mint_T, Sep 22, 2006.

  1. mint_T

    mint_T Well-Known Member

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    This question is open for ladies, but guys who want to include their opinion may do so also.

    For Ladies:
    What would you do if you find out that your spouse has been cheating on you, eps. having an extra marital affair?

    For Men:
    Why do most men want to have extra marital affairs although you all will still say "I don't want to leave my wife or I still love her"? Pls don't give any lame answers such as my wife is not sexy/beautiful ect.... -rolleyes
     
  2. yarg11

    yarg11 Well-Known Member

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    people cheat cause they think they can get away with it.
     
  3. blackmagic

    blackmagic Well-Known Member

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    My cousin once told me that ALL Men will cheat at least once in their life time (if given the opportunity).

    Guys will always be guys. I guess it's just something we girls will have to live with.
     
  4. men say "I don't want to leave my wife or I still love her" coz they don't want to b forced to another marriage... it gives them the flexibility to get out of the affair whenever they want...

    if i found my spouse cheating what i do would really depend on whether i have any children, what kind of person my spouse is, how much i still love him and whether i'm financially independent...

    if he's a good father to my children and he wants to stay with me then i'll try to forgive him n work things out with him...

    if we don't have children and he's a decent person, and if leaving him causes me more pain than forgiving him... i guess i'll also try to work things out with him

    if we don't really love each other anymore n our marriage is only making the both of us miserable then the best option would b to split up
     
  5. Mi1ky

    Mi1ky Member

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    i dont know what i would do if my other half cheated on me.

    if they can do it once they can do it again.
     
  6. kdotc

    kdotc 안녕하세요빅뱅K-Dragon입니다

    men are bored with 1 vigina
     

  7. yes... so *thouch wood* if one day this happens to u n u decide to forgive him then b prepared to forgive him over n over again until

    a) he finally realize that all virginas r the same n stops

    b) he loses the ability to do it

    c) u've given up hope on that man n decides to leave him


    it'll b a tough ride if u choose to stick with him... there's a good chance he'll cheat on u over n over again... n u'll have hard time getting over it... but a lot of women actually puts up with it for 20 to 30 years n win their man back... :)
     
  8. Knoctur_nal

    Knoctur_nal |Force 10 from Navarone|

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    kill em all if they cheat
     
  9. loO4la

    loO4la Well-Known Member

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    either give him some free neutering or sleep with his best friend/brother
     
  10. peachey

    peachey Well-Known Member

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    My comment was in complete innocence! Look how you've corrupted it [​IMG]
     
  11. p3ps1c0la

    p3ps1c0la Well-Known Member

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    Men cheat because of the "lame" reasons you've stated or they're either bored and want someone new, or just miss the chase. Men are dogs, don't lose sleep over it.
     
  12. mint_T

    mint_T Well-Known Member

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    I guess that just further proves that the real men aren't cutting it. :D
     
  13. bigears

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    cheating

    sex without emotional is not cheating for me.
     
  14. Peacemaker

    Peacemaker Well-Known Member

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    i just wonder why people need to cheat,...
    if this is ever on someones mind he/she should question him/herself
    if something is wrong with the realtionship...
    and before You hurt someone, who is/was dear to Your You better make a clean cut...
    because sooner or later the truth will be revealed and who likes to live with a bad
    conscience?
    men and women should try to avoid making such kinda mistakes, because there is nothing respectable about the proverb that a man/women should be responsible for their sins, better avoid them then to discover in the end that he/she is a pathetic being, when he/she realizes that there is no way back, even if he/she wants to... @bigears everyone has his tastes and own opinion,... as long as You find a partner who tolerate this it is fine...
     
  15. AVANT

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    Hahaha, this topic's funny.

    Why do all the ladies sound like they are blaiming the guys? Girls have to commit to the act too you know!

    But when a society calls one side "pimps" and the other side "whores", it's only natural that woman who cheat don't speak up.

    I see it like this, a guy cheats on a girl because the girl don't know how to keep the guy satisfied (and vice versa). This applies to both emotional needs and physical needs. Solution? You girls work on your game instead of blaiming the man.

    When you have a relationship and feelings build, you don't want to lose it. That's the simple answer to why cheaters still want their spouse.

    Some people are making this all sound logical and don't see why or how cheating can happen... I say think it over again. People are not that simple to figure out.

    There's something call genetics and it messes up the way we think all the time. Why do we check out hot girls and hot guys? Because it's logical? I don't think so buddy... If you want to think it through logically, why have sex at all? If you want kids, get a test tube baby. If you want pleasure, DIY. Saves time and STDs won't spread.
     
  16. distemper

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    if you are in a loving relationship then guys would not cheat and stuff.. however if the relationship gets dull/boring then guys would have a greater tendency to cheat.. (from what i have seen in the movies :p) ... and besides.. it takes 2 cheat... so it's not always the guys fault....

    i have read that girls like married/attached guys ... so yeah
     
  17. ribsandbbqbeef

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    Women cheat just as much as men do.

    Only they don't get caught as much, and it is not publicized as much.

    Men cheat because of different reasons. I believe men cheat because their current partner either doesn't satisfy him in bed (ie do what he wants to do), or she doesn't excite him anymore (eg stop being flirtatious or wearing lingerie for him, or what have you).
     
  18. yes... women also cheat... but a man once told me there are women that don't cheat out there... but there're no men that don't cheat...
     
  19. ribsandbbqbeef

    ribsandbbqbeef Well-Known Member

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    Ah, but the man who told you that doesn't represent all men, only what he thinks from his own experiences. I'm telling you that not all men cheat; I can say that my grandfather, my father, & I have never cheated. :D

    As for women, yes many don't cheat; but I dare say that most have thought about it without acting on it.
     
  20. so ur saying u haven't thought abt it?? :p