I went to apply for a cleaning and relitho of my granny's monument and grave site yesterday at the cemetery and found out that my childhood friend's father passed away back in early June. We used to live a block away from one another back in grades school so I know both of his parents. Really closed friend (>15 yrs) However, we ended up going to different colleges. While we did keep in touch during college, after graduation, we kind grew apart. I was busy with work and eventually moved away from the neighborhood. It has been about 6 years since we last talked. Ya'll think I should pay a visit to his parent's home or just send them a card to express my condolences? The father already passed away two months ago and the fact that we didn't keep in touch, I am not sure if it's appropriate. Friendship is a two-way street .. communication should be back and forth .. he didn't sound like wanna keep in touch the last time we spoke over the phone (I called by him btw) .. didn't care kinda tone .. yeah, yeah .. hesitate to give me his cell number or email. I don't know why. I am at odd here .. I know the parents and feel like I should do something but I don't wanna be put in an awkward situation either. My wife doesn't give a damn cuz she doesn't know him. What do ya'll suggest?
if you feel like it why not? as you said your friendship is coming apart anyways. It can only improve things, if it doesn't you don't lose anything but it might feel a little awkward but small price to pay.
I think he will appreciate it if you visit him and express your condolences.Btw,did you call him after or before the funeral? There might be many reasons behind his "don't care tone",busy?worries?I myself,talk in a "don't care tone" when i'm not in the mood.
