I have to say chinese marrages are so stressful and sometimes i wish it was the oppersite way around and i did not have to pay. ARGH, anyone else gone through this nightmare yet?
I'm gonna be honest and say I hate weddings ever since the day some asshole's wedding occur on the same day as my birthday
Have a friend help you with the planning. If you do it all yourself, you're likely to stress and have arguments between you and your fiance. I have two friends getting married this year and they're asking a group of friends to help with the planning and the organizing. Now when it comes to negotiating with your in-laws, you're on your own. You can try to ask a nice auntie or uncle to help you. =]
stressful, but a tradition to follow it's just one day, once in ur (wife's) life time, so just get over it. $$issue.......u received a lot when u're young, it's like giving them out again, that sucks i won't experience this pain in another couple years.........GL
No, cos my birthday celebration has to be put back for a day cos of that...And flames isn't happy having his 17th birthday celebration been push back a day. And the guy who got marry was my dad's superior, so he got no choice but to go...thank god that superior left or else evil flame will have to do some black magic on the dude
well isn't it .. the parents pay for the majority of the wedding...and in the end ur money is her money...so even if it was the opposite its the same
^ kdotc .. are you drunk? i forgot to mention .. if you think getting married is stressful .. wait until you get a divorce; not that i wish it on you but these days, marriage is more of a risk investment than lifetime commitment.
What I find a bit peculiar is that the guy has to give some money to the family of the girl. As if he actually "bought" her. ^^
What is wrong with all the WEDDINGHATERS up in hereeee.... of course its stress but if u dun want stress just throw a small wedding party lor.... if its too expensive keep it simple... its supposed to b the most important day of ur life so plan it the way U like Why is it fair if the girl pays????? Thats BS..... I think its fair if the couple pays together... i mean after wedding u guys are sharing everything anyway....so why not just just arrange like that?
If I know my stuff .. in Chinese traditions, the guy has to pay the family $$$ and the wedding itself. In AMERICA, the gal has to foot the bill for the entire wedding. WHY I think it's FAIR? That's a question you have to ask your parents. They can answer it better cuz I am not Chinese .. lol
^ ur the one who says tis fair if the girl pays everything... which doesnt make sense to me at all... marriage is not risk investment... .... marriage is just fail when ppl dun wanna compromise.....(btw so are relationships on the long run) *haai* so negative... u should change ur name to negativboy
^ why i think it's fair cuz men have to pay for everything when they are dating .. hello!! women have the natural tendency to expect men to PAY so don't go telling me that's not the case .. perhaps you're not but 90% of them out there feel otherwise. i am not negative about wedding or marriage because i still want a family. but it's a risk investment .. why? there are more divorces nowadays than marriages .. need i say more? people don't see marriage as lifetime commitment or sacred vow till death do us part like the old days. some even use it just for financial gain or whatever .. you know that divorce means BIG payday if there's no prenupt but if you bring up prenupt = bad start or no wedding .. so yeah .. it's not like once you're separated, both people just move on with their lives .. it's a lot more complicated than that .. yeah, not everyone is like that but these days, you simply don't know .. people change all the time. you can be a total giver now but 3-5 years from now if you're divorcing, you'll can become a total taker ..
nowadays thats not the case anymore... i dont think im the only girl who wouldnt let her husband pay everything.... lots of friends split the costs during wedding la... unless the guy is a lot more wealthy then its kinda more usual for the guy to pay more... a woman takes all ur cash after divorce? well thats ur own problem... if ur that loaded or u dun wanna give her anything after a divorce, shouldve put everything on paper contract... u can do it in nl so u should b able to do it in US too.... once everything is on paper u dun have to worry.... abt any woman taking ur cash Is that was ur ex Mrs. is doing? also... u make it sound as if all women (after divorce) are golddiggers....???? if u already think like that then whats the use in getting married anyways? Ud be slping with one eye open, scared of ur wife wanting to divorce n "change" into a money hungry monster... Of course there are golddiggers out there... i admit.... but hey, if my husband cheated on me id go all bitter, fuck him over too by.... taking his cash....what else can a woman do to piss a guy off lol.... i cant get back the time i wasted sitting n home, growing older by the day while hes cheating either... the guy goes away with another chick or just has his fun time so i think its what i guy deserves.... besides... u dun have to take another risk n remarry if u dun want to anyways... u already broke the rules/tradition by divorcing so who cares *shrugs*
^ i wouldn't be able to do a prenuptial agreement, it just doesnt feel right, like you dont trust each other and are already planning for a divorce, but if i end up loaded it would present a problem, maybe i would have to find someone in my own wealth bracket, i really dont know but you would certainly have to marry a person for who they are rather than how they look, unless your 80+ then its all about the looks it seems as they know they cant take the money with them when they die and they probably pushed all their family away in their youth in the pursuite of money >.<..
^ I know, it doesnt feel right to me either.... its not something I'd suggest but i do kinda understand in some situations... in NL when ur married n ur husband is in huge debt the wife will be held responsible for it too... imagine if u have kids... ur house gets sold n stuff... its kinda risky..... haha, its def true that u should fall for someones personality e.g honest average looking person rather than for hot looks... once u get married ur gonna have to put up with someones shit... n even if my hubby would be daniel henny i still wouldnt be able if he was a shitty person i think thats a mistake a some ppl make... ppl marry cuz their infatuated n stunned by other's looks, everything is so fun at the beginning....lol n then it turns out to be a superficial shitty marriage... *shrugs*
