So this happened about 3 weeks ago, my gf decided to break up with me suddenly on monday through the phone. Initially, I though it was the fact that I lied to her about something to protect her but she got mad at me. So I started to panic and asked her for a second chance to work things out in the relationship. But all she said was no and that she was looking for a person to do things on their free will and not whatever she said. After that she decided to end the conversation and went to sleep. The next morning I decided to call her and confront with her but in the end she said no she doesnt want to meet up. Next thing you know it when i called her bestfriend to go out for drinks, she was with her and she tagged along and typed a text on her phone. She gave it to her bestfriend and her bestfriend asked if that what she wants and if she is sure about it. Her answer was yes, so then she showed it to me and said that here is a second chance but were going on break for a week first. After that, we went on break but during the break she calls me and talks to me on the phone. She even came over to my house to spend time with me and we even "did stuff" together during that time. However, on thursday and friday when we spent time together to told me that shes confused and that she doesnt know what she wants. Suddenly, my heart started to sank and I'm telling to myself shes already thinking about it again. A week after, she decided to break up with on the phone again and she told me to sleep on it and she'll call me the next day. On the next day, I felt like shit and went to work until 9 pm where she started to call me but I decided to give her space and not pick up. During the whole night, she called me 15 times in a row but she told her best friend that she only called twice and that she wanted to see if im ok. After a few days later, I called her and to see why she called that many times. With the pushing and shoving, she finally told me that she was lonely and she wants to check up on me to see if im ok. So we stayed on the phone for a few hours till 5 am in the morning talking bout random stuff like huskies. The conversation was completely normal but the next thing you know it, she decided to call me on the next day and said to me "We're never getting back together ever again, I dont want to give you any false hopes cause i dont feel connected with you at all" After hearing that, my heart felt like there was a dagger that stabbing it. I think to myself why did she do that to me? Was it necessary for that? For the whole week I felt like sh*t and that I wanted closure, she also just blocked me on msn and decided to not talk to me at all. So I was talking to the mutual friends and they decided to talk to her about it to see if shes ready to talk to me about the whole entire situation. The next thing you know it, she decided to say to her friend on a saturday that its tuesday or never and she wants to get it over with. Due to test and assignment, I couldnt meet up with her to talk about it and ask her questions. So I decided to call her and tell her to change the date but she was acting unreasonable saying that she doesnt drag any of this. Then she said why not do this on the phone, I agree and asked her questions. While were talking on the phone, I could tell that she was mad cause she raised her tone of voice. 1) Why did you broke up with me? She said that she finds that im arrogant and that I treat people like shit and make myself feel superior. Also, she said that I get mad at little things and that I used the words "basically, technically speaking and for example alot, thus treating people like their kids. 2) How are you feeling? I feel fine cause I don't feel connected for you 3) What did thursday meant? It was just in the mood, dont think too much about it. 4) How did you suddenly lost the connection for me? I dunno, I cant explain it it just did. 5) Do you still want me to be in your life? I dunno, I guess at this point the answer is no As you guys can see, she was very harsh to me all of a sudden. When I look at it, the person who i spent the time with together suddenly turned to the most cold blooded person I ever know in my life. After that, she hung up on me and next her actions were to delete me off of facebook, msn and maybe even on her phone. I find it confusing cause on thursday when I held her I still feel something strong and that she didnt lose anything. When she hangs out with her friends, her friends told me that she was perfectly fine. I dunno what should I do guys???
..... talking to you the whole night, then next day break up.... you said the conversation was normal.... but maybe she wanted to find a way to tell ya that she didnt love you anymore... sry to say that.... but i think you should give up.... she blocked you on msn/ fb etc... this shows that she really want to end this relationship. i know its hard but u must accept it. :(
she didnt break up with me the next day she actually ended everything once i dunno. The whole time nothing was wrong and that it just suddenly happen like that but I sent her an email earlier and she critcized it and ranting every single word to her best friends about which I had no intentions to hurt her or anything just be friends I dunno why is she doing this to me anyways I was willing to be friends but she never wanted to be friends at all now
dude, men and women can´t be friends... thas just an illusion... u still have feelings for her, thas why u wanna stay in touch, it´s understandable, but she wants to keep distance, coz she moved on already and You haven´t... if u meet up with Your mutual friends, don´t mention her, if You can´t do it, keep a distance from them, everything else will make the situation just more awkward. there isn´t only 1 looser when a relationship goes to shambles, there´s always 2 or more,... although u feel like sh*t now just conc and focus on other stuff, do stuff You always wanted to do, but never could do during Your relationship with her.... 1 year is not much time to get to know each other and if one party gets the feeling it´won´t work out no changing or begging will solve the problem. You have still a long way to go and there are many nice moms out there with hot daughters lol. it´s better to make a painful break than draw out the agony...
dude, let it go, that is the best advice i could offer. The more you try to seek the more she will reject and run away. It sounds like she want's to break free from you and you should respect her choice. Your relationship will not work if its only you who wants it. Anyways, give her time and space and see later on if you guys still want each other, but be careful if you decide to wait for her it is your gamble and be prepared for the consequences.
dude, same scenario as me. The conclusion i have, do it without her. the reason why i did not post it up here is because i doesn't know how to express myself. yet you know. someone must be behind her talking bad stuffs about you. trust me. after the same thing happen to me, her friend told me that someone who doesn't like me, has been saying things behind my back. is a guy, that guy has a crush on her. dont worry, after 2 weeks, she'll start calling you again, DO NOT GIVE HER ANY CHANCE, i dont want to see you walk my footsteps. cause i gave her 3 chances, till i willingly found a new girl, much better than her, 3 chances in a year. she broke off with her "fling" everything after 2 weeks. then got me back. SHE BASICALLY CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT GUYS!!!! TRUST ME!!
Well the thing is that she is being indecisive through out her whole life without knowing the consequences of her actions she made during this time. Funny thing is that there is any guys behind her talking about me behind my back cause she does not have alot of friends. If i can tell you guys that she only has a handful of friends which are 1 guy friend who I also know but is dating her bestfriend and others are just girls. Do you guys think its necessary to give her the space to think about stuff? I know you guys say shes moving on with her life but the thing is that she doesnt show remorse at all and that she suddenly changed to a person who is very decisive with only 2-3 days of thinking and very direct. These attributes changed very rapidly and just to let you guys know I've let it go just that her actions are what causing me to think about it. She was analyzing everything single thing like the time where she said we're never getting back together but the conversation was a normal phone call. Of course, I am analyzing it too
As you guy could probably see she is also acting immaturely with this whole situation. Its not the fact that I want to be in touch with her cause i have feelings for her. Its that i care because she doesnt have alot of friends in life that could positively impact her life. With school, she was the same. With relationship, she did the same.
no don't go on!!! Don't give her chance!!! She's just messing with ya!!! Give it up already!!! Hope you read this advice and not like others who just ignores it!!!
Well this is a little update considering that she did alot of stupid stuff lately. First of all, she unblocked and blocked me several times on msn and the last time she put her name as "nameless you are an idoit" then blocks me again. After finding some information out, the friend said that she wants me to be out of her life cause im not physically and emotionally attractive to her. So she wants me to delete her off of msn to cut all ties with her rather than her deleting me off of msn herself which is easier. After talkin to the friend, I said she owes me money for some items that she asked me to buy. Few days later, she calls me at 1 am in the morning and i didnt pick up the call. Around 20 mins later, she emails me the reason that she called and she said that she doesnt owe me that much money she only owes me 10 dollars. I find it rather interesting now that she's doing all this stuff out of the blue. After all it was her who said she wants me to be out of her life.
-_- To be honest, why are you still fucking around with her... I mean how much money does she owes you? Just break it off, unless you want to piss her off, than that's another story
be glad she is doing this now rather than after your married and if the point she made about you making yourself sound superior is true then your a douche haha
First of all, I'm not around her. I havent spoken to her or whatever. I only did my own thing during this whole time and I BLOCKED her already. To be honest, I haven't done anything at all now, I just left it as it is and she could do whatever she wants.
lol im sorry but i think she's a hilarious individual i swear to god if my gf was like that i'd slap her in the face, tell her to grow up and leave she's playing you man, just fucking cut the ties and tell her to stfu edit: oh but in the time that i typed this, 3 posts have appeared. to answer your question, she's a 3 year old child. or at least, she acts like one. just tell her to stfu and gtfo =) or give me her number im gonna say it to her =D
