Ok, i ve dated a guy abt the fourth time and yet, we 're still paying our own part.(The guy did not insist or suggest of paying ) As a girl, and mostly asian girl, i ve an impression of a really mean guy. I mean the guy already works but i 'm still a student. Well may be for some of u this isn't a matter... So what i wanna know if it is me the matter or there is indeed a matter???
I think what matters more is how long you've been dating. lol anyway, the guy seems stingy. is he worth your time? cause he seems kinda like an ass of a boyfriend lol. or is it that he doesn't think you're worth his money? (sorry a bit harsh) And I hope guys aren't thinking omg why do guys always have to pay. It's not even that. It's just that it would be nice if they offered. Kinda shows how much of a gentleman he is. Personally, I wouldn't want a guy to pay for me all the time. It makes it unfair imo. After all, us woman are always looking for equality. But it would still be nice if he could offer. lol
Whether I am working or not, I still prefer to pay for both of our dinners or meals when I go out with my girlfriend. I want to give her the sense that I can take care of her and afford her.
so it's actually not my problem ... i don't want to be awayls treat neither but it just gives me a good impression
first few dates the guy should pay then in the relationship once in a while...i don't believe the guy should pay for EVERYTHING EVERYTIME but offering is good but the girls shouldn't have to accept the offer every time =)
I think you do have a problem if you recognized that as a problem already. Your mentality that the guy should pay or whatever is a wrong start, don't you think? Dating? Are y'all actually dating one another .. officially?? Sometimes, there are people that just hang out with one another .. not really dating per se. How far are we talking about? 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or HOME already?? Yeah, there are stingy guys out there .. but then again, when you start working .. there are so much you gotta worry about .. taxes and bills (car insurance, rental insurance, health insurance, gas and car maintenance, cell phone, school loans, utilities, rent, parking fee, groceries, and social spending) .. imagine all those that requires money for someone just stepping out of college and working ... that's a lot to be worrying about .. don't you think? Yes, a guy should at least offer to pay once in a while but I believe you should rid of that mentality .. waiting for the guy. If you feel good being with him, then "paying" shouldn't be something you should care so much .. if you're close enough, then tell him straight in the face. If you don't like him, then why bother continue to hang or date him. Move on.
Actually, the mentality of the man paying for the bill is just a gender role most men fulfill within society and has become the expectation of the women. It is not "mean" to not follow chivalry. Actually, if you look at the history of chivalry, there was a time when a man had the right to rape a woman whenever he wants and it was not considered a crime; it was chivalry. Now are you saying this because of the difference of occupation and income level? Or merely a gender thing? But also, this is exactly why your dating him, to see if you two share the same beliefs. If it's not working out for you, just move on. Food for thought.
puhaha went out for drinking the other day with a friend , paid 120 in the end cuz he was broke. split the bill if u can afford to please ladies.
