Dreams Or Responsibility? Depending on the issue of course...but for me...not to sound conceited or anything. I grew up kinda without a childhood. kinda. For starters, i transfered through public schools. 3 to be exact. Could imagine...not many friends. Quiet. Being the "Good Girl" and smarter than anybody else...I always thought I wanted to be happy you know? That was up until fifth grade where my life made a turn for the worst...It was really sudden but my whole family started arguing and split up after my grandmother died. Knowing a lot about people in the city these days, people started to go in debt and everything. Why? Because of parents gambling, parents borrowing things from places and friends and stuff like that. Some ended up killing themselves. But my mom didnt inherit much stuff from the will that my grandmother left behind...money wasnt one of them. That was a harsh time for me...I had to grow up and be mature, know whats right and wrong kinda thing in a short period of time...I spent my whole time in middle school figuring out what i wanted to do for a career...then i remembered that there was a time where i was really really good at dancing and acting. Dancing...it wasn't like the waltz or anything...its more like...G style, the ghettos, sexy style that New Yorkers do and korean style, i can mix in both really really well. Not all but most. Acting...I love acting...Being the girl that likes to hide everything. I can cry whenever. I can yell and act mad. Good memory too. But my mother disapproved. Like all chinese parents, she says "Grow up, graduate from college, get a good job and start helping out the family! We are in need of cash!" blah blah blah. After she started saying it more often, That was the time I became rebellious in a way. I bet that a lot of kids are like this, there family and everything, being pressured and stuff like that...And on top of all that, my mom is so super stitious! She even uses that as an excuse to reason with me about why i'm so rebellious like "the evil spirit took over you." I mean...there are times where i don't care what religion and I don't get what's the big deal about choosing a religion, no offense to you people that are reading. But honestly, i'm a half and half. Catholic and Bhuddist. It may be wrong to some people that are reading and saying i should just trust one. But that isn't even half about what is worse. So then...my mom started saying ; if you become a actress / dancer, i don't know you. The reason why? There are people who would want to get "some of this" and " some of that" and you would end up being a slut / hor. Wells, for some reason I think she is wrong, not ALL companies and managers and bosses are like that. Mayeb most companies, but not ALL. Some just want pure talent and the company that i had and still planning to join only has people that are pure talent. I'm not kidding either, and its not really the childish view. The second reason? There are so many people controlling evil spirits out there, they might possess you. I think sometimes...she's saying that to hold me back from doing this. But when ever i talk to my current friends...They say go for what i want to do...Life is better off living happily than dreadfully and you only live once or so they say. I believe that i live once and i want to make the best out of it...so i decided to go after what i dreamed to do...is that so wrong? There is more...but if i type it out, it would be like a mile long...these are just the "major" points im thinking of. So what do you think? Dreams or Responsibility? Answer truthfully too. =] And if you wish, just type in a short story about it.-cool
how old are you now?... dancing is a dream, but its not really the most feasible career option. the chances of getting into dancing as a career are pretty slim, especially if you are talking ghetto and korean style lol... unless you are a musical superstar you would probably just end up a backup dancer to some random black R&B artist and probably be pretty bored of what you do. being an actress isn't a bad option though, especially if you are pretty. There are lots of acting schools out there and a fair amount of opportunity in movies and tv shows, especially if you live in a place like L.A. or come to think of it, in broadway if you live in N.Y. overall i am too much of a practical person to ever think about taking a creative kind of hobby and expanding it into a career. id rather play it safe in university with business or sciences, something that i know i can get a solid job with and that will keep me fed and clothed for the rest of my life. I bet if you announced to your parents' "I want to be a doctor" they would probably jump for joy. but if thats not at all what you are interested in, then i guess you should pursue other avenues. Just don't get stuck on dancing//acting as your only choice, if it falls through its always good to have other options.
its your own decision.....as long as you're happy go for it ya ur thing was too long..i read the 1st sentence and ya..too tired its 1am lol..ill read this tomoro
dreams are dreams its always nice to get there and have it done but being realistic, u gotta live somehow its like i studied all i have, bacherlors/masters wateva was contemplating phd (even got my skolarship for it) its like i still have a great interest in biotech/bioinf, but being realistic theres not much out there but end of day, u still need $$ to get along plus i don't want parents to be in any much more of a bigger debt that we already are kinda y i moved out to professional services its like do what u need to get along, help family etc in ur spare time, do what u love and like its always ideal to to work in your dream area but don't think it actually happens much
Dream! keep it as a hobby or if your like me, do something about it WHILE doing the responsibility stuff Go to school, learn a successful carreer stub, but on the side, get two degrees, one in business and one in theatrical arts, and a minor in dancing join clubs at school, good way to release that love of dance that you want, and you will be able to hang out with others who like it too and who knows maybe you'll form a group while studing and find gigs during the weekend Go to School
On the practical, eventually responsibility comes first unless if you happen to live in a millionaire family, then dream would be feasible. You can go to school and at the same time, go try out modeling acting/ dancing agencies providing that you can handle both in a balance sort of way. Dream is what keeps us going mentally, but its the responsibility that feeds us physically.
hey tiffie... ive just read ur story...sorry to hear all the bad things u went through i agree with smallrini.... my opinion...if i were u id try to combine college with dance/act classes in the evening...that way u can finish ur skool and still do what u love to do... meanwhile..... u can go to auditions and try to realize ur dream...
Do both, your work allows you to livve your dreams, some people are lucky that they can fulfill their dreams and work all in one go but in reality very few people actually get that chance. Do both man ! your work keeps you alive and your dreams make it worth living!! OUSSS
I guess nobody said this.... Can you marry a rich guy? lol My advice is... You have responsibilities for your dreams. Period.
how old are u tiffie? just a curiosity...i was at a time in the same spot as u (in my teens). and now...quite honestly, i have chosen responsibility. my mom used the same tactics on me and at the time, i just felt like she was just selfish and only cared about herself. but now...it's more of a realization. our parents are old school, this u have to understand. they don't know any other way to deal with their children. they use the same tools their parents use. it just took me a long time to realize that they do care but just going about it in the wrong way to show it. instead of trying to talk to me calmly, they just yelled and screamed and threaten to disown me. for them, they see education as the key to the future. my mom always told me she did not want me to go thru the same hardships she went thru. and yes, i finally chose responsibility. some might say maybe i just didn't have enuf passion for my dreams. and maybe that's true. but without my family and us being happy, my dreams doesn't really matter. maybe one day when i'm in a secure financial place, i can take a stab at my dream again. but for now, my responsibility comes first. i hope u find a way tiffie. like a lot of the other PA members said, u should pursue it alongside school. for me, i have to always make sure i keep all doors open cause u never know when an opportunity will pop up. good luck to u tiffie. i wish u all the best. i really hope it works out for u. i know the miserable feeling of trying to figure it out.
I agree with her ^^^ even for a 16...i probably don't have the experiences that older people on this forum has...but ill just put out my opinion... i always liked singing and acting...ever since i was 3 or 4? lol..i bet lots of people are like me...and when i was 10...i started out acting classes...like improvisation...and other things related to that...till now..grade 11...i did once thought that is acting or singing a choice for me? probably not sing...i sing kinda horrible..lol..but acting...even tho i have pretty much short term memory loss...i thought to myself...i can try it out...i have a loud voice...lol...i told my parents...they said they won't disagree...but they don't like it...but they will support me...but as i knew more things in life and making more friends... i found out that there are lots of pretty girls that can sing and dance as well as acting Wayyyyy better than me...so i kinda backed out...when i told my parents that i kinda don't wanna take acting classes no more..they said acting is a good passion...but if u are not totally into it...it might be hard keeping up with the realistic society...they know that the entertainment business is really full of dirty secrets yet there are people with passion... but saying that a company with mostly pure talent and passion is kinda non-realistic... even though i can be a dreamer sometimes...i am a realistic person...so i chose not to persuade that so called dream...because i guess i only wanted to be an actress cause i saw how people can get so involved in a drama or movie...maybe someday i might want to become an actress or singer again... okay now that i finished my story...i think that maybe you still have time to think over your future... i guess u should persuade your dream...but do know that u probaly might be aproched with something other than just entertainment business...some actors and actresses get pursuade with opritunities to hit big so they end up doing something bad...but if you are prepared with your battle..then i think u might be happier like that... i know that some parents might not want their child to go their own way or knowing they are going the wrong way but trying to stop them...later on if they do chose the wrong path then they tell u..I TOLD YOU...I'M ALWAYS RIGHT....that doesn't mean they actually want to prove themselves are right..but they want to tell u that they wanted the best for u back then... hope u can think your way out...
It is not always easy to to make dreams come true.You will have to work hard and untiring efforts are needed .Otherwise dreams are just dreams and they have nothing to do with reality.
It's not just dreams or responsibility. You can try to reach for your dreams, but dreams are dreams and they don't always come true. AND is dancing/acting your dream or is it just something you found at you're good at? Myself, for example, I like to work in my mathbook, BUT I can't really imagine myself as a booing accounter in the future. Even if acting/dancing is your dream, what are you gonna do afterwards when your career is over? You also mentioned economical problms... if so acing/dancing isn't the best choice if you'd want to help 'em.
