Family first? or GF/BF first? At one point of my life I placed Girlfriend>family. I think it was a bad thought but it happened. Opinion? experiences?
i don't even think this should even be a question. and i am positive there has been a thread already. gf can be picked up and dropped. family cannot. /thread.
I believe the norm is below, although you might not have reached those life cycles. Offspring > Spouse > Family > GF/BF > Friends > Coworkers > Acquaintances
the fact that you raise this question gives me the impression that family is important to you. So the best way is to find a girlfriend/boyfriend that is close to her family too. If she/he becomes more serious as least you know that she/he won't be wedge between you and your family or least understand your position with regards to your own family.
lol not really a fact. and plus, just because op raised this question doesn't mean that family > gf/bf to op. it could be vice versa.
what if ur family is never there for u but ur gf really is.... i dont think theres anything wrong with this question... just cuz u have a good bond with family doesnt mean others do too.... one of my friends feels her life has become much better since her bf came into her life so im pretty positive shed say bf first..... n i can understand.... for me, i guess.... family first in emergencies.... but id try to find a balance if im in a real serious relationship...
I think ao_xxx meant that because the OP said it was a "bad thought" that he once placed his GF before his family, that he felt the OP highly values his family. I agree with MissAngieCheeks -- there are families out there who just doesn't give a shit about their sons/daughters.
i will always place my family first.... but that doesnt mean i dont care about my family... you just have to balance things out./.. samething with your personal life and social life... u have to have a balance in order to live happy
Someone once said to me, "a sign of a good gf/bf is that she/he brings you closer to your family". I think that's excellent advice.
Agreed, it depends on the situation. I know friends who are always in conflict with their parents / brothers / sisters. In this case, they will definitely put the bf or gf on the first place. I personally have a great bond with my family, so family is for my very important.
In my opinion, I will place my family/parents first then my girlfriend. Even though for some people, they may have some conflict with their family/parents, but this cannot change the fact that they STILL are "their" parents/family. Without your parents/family, you would not have come into this world. BUT...without your bf/gf, you can still come. It is our parents who brought us into this "beautiful" world, and not our bf/gf and there is no doubt that I will put my parents first. Before making any decisions, think about who is more important to you, YOUR parents/family, or your bf/gf.
agree, girls/guys are everywhere, your not even sure if you'll be with them forever but you only have one family. unless your adopted then i dunno.
adoption parents also have raised you for a long while... you (if you're adopted) should see them as your family... that's one fact.... so... can't see any reason not to choose for them.
