Dont you think FOB parents are just tooooooo fricken strict? every summer my parents want me to go to summer camp they force me to learn chinese they keep telling me to read books everyday to learn[ u dont learn sh*t from books, i got on a School Spellingbee and got 10 place out of like 50 students. They still b*tch at me. saying i didnt read enuff books...seriously books dont teach me crap. TV and Internet teached me...not these stupid...stack of papers i hate being son of a FOB whats even worst is that my dad complains of me watching japanese anime saying "Dont watch japanese shows, they are bad, they killed chinese a long time ago. Dont watch" Anime is not a fricken taboo or something. what the hell is wrong with him. And they think Ecchi or girls in bikinis are on the same level as porn. cuz i went on my dad's comp. he had girls in bikinis and he instantly deleted em stating "Too young" im pissed...i wish i was white or something..
-lol I think you BELIEVE your parents are too strict. My parents use to bury me in books as well and set some strict rules, so I kinda know how you feel. My parents eased up as I got older tho because they trusted me and my decisions more and more. Course now that I'm an adult, they pretty much only give me advice when I'm headed for disaster or when I ask for it. I came to the realization that my parents were so strict because that's how things were done back home and how they were brought up. My mother for example was not blessed with a proper education, she made it her priority that her children would not have to suffer the same fate. So even if it's not the best parenting according to you, it's the best parenting that they know of. I've never "wished" to be white... and actually the older I get, the more I respect and cherish my culture. You're luckier than you know, you get to experience both Chinese and "White" American Culture. So tough it out, I'll be cheering you on How old are you?
Wow, I totally agree with Avant. I never left home when I was a kid. Now I'm in college, and things are completely different. I am pretty much on my own. I realized my parents worked extremely hard to give me the best chance possible to succeed. This is one reason I try to get myself through college without help from my parents. I believe it's your own responsibility. I'll sometimes refuse to take their money when they try to help me out. It's a matter of pride and respect.
Sometimes you have to be in yr parents shoes too. They brought you here to give you a better life and hope you will do better than them therefore their expectation for you to do well is higher. They probably never got a chance to study here or go to high school or Univ they hope you will do really well and put pressure on u. Sometimes, just listen to them and that will make them happy and they will leave you alone. You will thank them one day.
Just deal with it till u go to college then u can do whateverz and ignore them. They will miss you and u can say whatever you want and they will agree.
My parents used to be more strict when I was younger, but as I grew and matured and they saw that, they let up...I think that's the important thing is to show your mature side...if all you do is complain and whine and throw tantrums at their over protectivness...it only proves why they need to be strict in the first place...
bah all parents are strict..you get used to it....you could just move out once your allow to or sumthing it sounds like me that your parents are abit outdated and just stubborn??
First off, don't ever call your parents FOBs... it's rude, ignorant, and jus plan disrespectful... I'm sure they didn't raise you for 12 long years just so you can call them Fobs... You still young so it's understandable. Some books really do help you learn new things. Like the text in college, which is gonna help you learn whatever your studying. While others can help improve your interpretive and analytical skills. Of course you can learn all kinds of things on the internet, but ask yourself... do you really take the time to use it productively?? As for the anime, yea your parents probably just think it's all cartoons and really some anime have some suggestive themes. And I believe ecchi does contain a bit of nudity, no? I'm sure your parents just don't want you to be exposed to anything to sexual for your age. And it's not like White parents are any open about letting they're younger children watch movies with adult content.
ANY parents would be strict....because they want you to success in life...You will thank them ...when you reach your goal...With out them..i wouldn't be sitting here at my desk and reading this forum..and STILL getting PAID...
as you grow up you'll realise that they only do that for your own good...the fact that they didnt have the same education as we do now..the fact that we should be grateful that they care about us...see i used to think that too..how my parents are strict but i realised that it's only for our own good...the learn chinese thing that's cause manderian is a major language now & alot of non asians know how to speak that...telling you to read & actually do some educational stuff during the summer is actually helping you because from experaince when you go back to school after summer break you tend to forget a lot of stuff..like i have to learn french and over the summer i totally forgot everything there is to know about it..=/ ...haha actually by now it's about the time where you get used to them being strict..there's this one guy that i know..he's like my friend and all but like his parents arent strict on him and he sucks at school, he watches porn alot and like he doesnt try at school so he just screwed up his future because his parents didnt take much interest...so be grateful that your parents actually care! ^^''
LOL yeh they can be strict but thats the way they were brought up... Yeh and the japanese did invade china and commit war crimes which they like to deny so i wouldnt be suprised if most of that generation didnt like the japanese. [read "The Rape of Nanking" good book]
Yeah, I can understand a little of how you feel. I have a best friend who complains to me about her fobbish parents. I do think that parents can be quite demanding sometimes, but I think in time, you'll find out that your parents are just as cool as any others, if not the coolest. Personally, I don't like how white families are ran. I like the chinese traditions and how you always have a home to go to. I really dislike the whole, let's kick our son out after he's 18 deal (though I guess that's only a stereotype). Anywho, FOBs rock!
To be honest, there is no manual on how to be a great parent to kids...I mean, there are self-help books, but it's different for every child... parents have to work hard to figure out what to do with kids and being strict is part of disciplining kids and giving them boundaries...
How old are you? I can't believe you said you want to be white (your a fucking disgrace) because your parents are strict. you don't know now, but your parent are actually helping you i know cause my parents are like yours. I reason they are doing this is because they want you to get a better education and stay out of trouble. you will be thanking them when you get a respectable job instead of fliipping burgers.
i see this everyday. and im no fob. my parents arent fobs either. in fact, they are probably the whitest asian parents you will ever meet, even tho they were born in vietnam. and they are as strict as yours. you dont need to have fob parents to be strict. i know white parents and white-washed parents (like mine) are strict too. just as strict as yours.
