Well...I...am a *guai guai lui*...good gurl... and my best frd which i knew for 4 years now started turning gansterish...we use to share the same values...but now...she likes to go clubing...dress sexy...not that i have a problem with that...do drugs... drink...smoke...go beefing up wif some gangs...ah...its scaring me... Once i went to this big mall wif her...and she met her gangter frds accidentally... (by the way...they look scary...gurls have blonde hair...guyz...*shivers*...) and they told her bout some person starting some S***..so she told me to go along wif her...wow...i made a wrong choice...they all had bars and knifes and other weapons...it was scary... i told my frd that i dunt wanna be apart of this...so she told me to go...wow...it took tons of courage to leave that place... Ahh...wut should i do bout her...-unsure
just look out.. if i were you i would stop seeing her that much.. or else mayeb youll change like her Oo
nah i doubt it, if she's posting about this problem on this forum, then i think she wouldn't be easily changed like her well one option is to just stay away from her and let her learn her own mistake, of course this is bad if she goes in too deep and is unable to turn back. but depending on her age group she might just get over it soon, like it might just be a phase for her? not too sure. but one thing i'm sure of is that if you try talking her out of it, she might not see your POV clearly abd have a clouded vision to all this, and it might become confrontational trying to convince her if you know what i mean.
i'm just saying what i would do ive done this to to a friend of mine when he changed to a "ganstah". i just stopped meeting him since i know he will change me a bit.. just depends how much.. after his friends got caught by police for destroying properties he got scared and also stopped meeting his "gangstah friends" and now his back to himself and im again going out with him etc.
same thing happened to me. basically what i did was just cut the ties. i know its hard, but better stop yourself from getting into messes you wont want to be in. my "friends" wanted me to take part in some beef after class but i left. ive seen fights, and its not pretty.
welcome to one of us phyphy =) lol jks just remember once u start geting close to them there's like no turning back..or its hard to...so either u're friends or not friends
Ahh...its not theat easy...im a really emotional person....and especially to cut ties wif someone iv know for 4 years...its kinda scary...shes drifting apart from me and my other frds...it jsut makes me shiver when she shows me her scars from fighing... i feel really sorry for her mum tho...her mu gets yelled at by her dad for letting their daughter into this mess...i tried to talk her out...but seeing that shes *nang gang*stuborn...it doesnt work...
the only way i say u can bring her friend out of the gang stuff is prove to her that she can die and that those kids won't lead her nowehre..and she mite get locked up....if u don't show evidence of the consicoinsence its hard for her to quit..since being with those peple is prob more fun thatn u lol jks
yea. kdot is right. given the experience we have with ghetto friends cuz we're torontonians, and i myself with lots of gangster friends, it would be best if you dont do what juni0r said (im sorry juni0r, but having had such experience, talking wont help, esp after her values changed) see if you try talking to her nicey nicey, gangster peeps will go like... wtf is wrong wit u.... the best way to persuade her is for her to really find out what gangster life is about trust me, its hard, im not sugar coating it
well ur friend needs some counselling and also if u do not want her to touch the stuff tell her what happens when she gets an addiction or knocked up or killed or jail and trust me its not that hard if ur willin to do it
confront her and let her noe how you feel... if she bitch at u for that then she's not worth it..even if you're friends for 4 yrs.. i've personally cut the tie with people i've known for longer than that due to their change in behaviors... it's hard to let go of someone so close to you for so long...but you just have to..
that sounds pretty much like my guy friends now. *sigh* is it all that great to start shit with people and create fights? it's pathetic. try talking to her, i guess. remind her of all the good times you guys had without drugs or gangs.. and if she tries to get you to do something you don't want to do, just don't hang out with her so much anymore. nobody deserves to be forced into doing things they find wrong.
forget about her. there are others people in ur life that are waiting to meet u, and all u need to do is make new friends. If a girl that will risk they owns friends life, just to be "part of a group" should not deserve to be friends with anyone.
Have a sit and explain to her the road she's going down and if she doesn't care then you've gotta stay away or who knows? Maybe one day you're all kickn it and a rival gang catches your friend slipn and decides to do something? What are you gonna do? Like a few years back some people thought I was part of this one gang cause they saw me chillen with em and I almost got shot in a pool hall but luckily they didn't come back with a strap and just talking that sh** but what if, ya know? So choose your friends wisely and look out for you. You don't wanna be in that situation.
Keep yourself out of trouble and compare her to a friend you've had for more than 4 years then it wouldn't be that bad letting go. Think realistically, which, unfortunately is selfishly, "man as innate desire to survive" (from some guy), so unless you want to get messed up. yea. And show her this site Faces before and After Meth Or don't show her and just be afraid yourself.
just be careful around her and try not to hang out with people like that who make you feel uncomfortable -^_^
not to start beeef with ur firends or anything..YET lol jks....but wat gang r they in?? since u in uptown..u heard of 18 buddha?..kl?
