Girls Help Me!

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by prelude321, Dec 4, 2007.

  1. prelude321

    prelude321 Active Member

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    hey everyone, well i been with my gf for 2 years now, and i got to say i can't handle the relationship no more,
    i'm really busy im in college and i go to school during monday,wednesday and thrusdays, the days i'm off im either working or spending it with my girlfriend and i feel like i lost all my social life like my friends and going out to parties and drinking and etc. i can barely even exercise at all. i also have to take care of my yorkie and it's going crazy for me. i live by myself by the way. HELP! what should i do!!!! suggestions? and another is my girlfriend whines and complain so much!
     
  2. wind2000

    wind2000 Self Schemata

    Looks like you simply have to organize your life properly. You can include your gf in your social life with friends.
    I dont see how having a gf can limit your life unless if shes the type that has to stick to you 24/7.
     
  3. shw

    shw Well-Known Member

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    maybe its an option to discuss this with her.
     
  4. just suggest a break up if she doesnt give you more freedom.. and btw, when you go to college what do you do after college?
     
  5. prelude321

    prelude321 Active Member

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    after school i need to work and exercise and i got to cook for myself and do my homework is so stressful and i sleep earlier now days and after college i'm planning to get my mba then yea then i'll be free and keep in mind i gotta take care of my dog too
     
  6. lee-lee

    lee-lee Well-Known Member

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    how much do u like her? i think u should talk to her first. maybe she would understand. just tell her u need some space. maybe she'll understand. unless she's one of those really really needy and clingy girls. then she's prob just gonna think ur cheating on her. haha
    back when i was in uni, i went to school, worked 2 jobs, lived on my own, managed to get in a workout AND also dealt with the daily pains of keeping up with all the hassles of being a girl (don't ever underestimate how long it takes to tweeze eyebrows-->it's a pain). and on top of that, i managed to keep a relationship. it really is about balance. but ur significant other also has to understand and be patient as well. good luck to u!!!
     
  7. well, i kinda think you gotta choose.. ur current GF? or gonna do ur college 100%.

    if i hear ur talking you dont seem able to give 100% towars school cause of her, but be sure of ur decision, cause if you really love here, it wouldnt help at school at all if you only think about her when you break up
     
  8. prelude321

    prelude321 Active Member

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    damm lee lee how can you manage to keep your grades UP!!!?
     
  9. skid

    skid Well-Known Member

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    damn wish i could help but according to the thread title...you only want girls help

    hah just playing...

    but yeah your situation is a hard one...if you;re not getting enough time for your social life you should talk to your gf about it. Tell her to spend time with her friends as well, so you can spend time with yours. Or bring her along to your outings if you or her doesn't mind that. Sometimes in relationships you have to make compromises, just depends whats more important to you. Only you can decide
     
  10. anni1804

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    Hmmm, I guess you maybe don't love her enough, otherwise you won't wondering it you better can break up with her? Or she is too sticky that she makes you feel bad... I think it's a good idea to discuss with her. It's possible that she feels the same, but don't dare to tell you... Wish you luck :)
     
  11. reno

    reno Well-Known Member

    its more of just self management / time management i guess
    and also how much she means to u

    u've been 2gether long enuff, and i'm sure she'd be considerate enuff to know and understand what you're going thru. i don't think she'd expect to have ur time like 24/7, but atleast that shes there for u wen u need, and atleast someone to talk to...

    i did uni full time, worked full time, and i survived, still went out, just not as much as i used to
    but thats part of life. its like wen u start working, u don't really see much of ur friends too much anyway... usually like fri nite + weekends is the main time to go out n party

    i'm sure seeing ur gf a few times a week, or even just talking on the phone, she'd appreciate that.
    just take some time to think it out of what u want, and what u expect

    u say ur living by urself, do u have to pay off the rent or wateva urself? cos if ur only working a day or so a week, don't think thats gonna help cover it right? mayb u could just not work ur current job, and find something thats more easy to fit into your schedule? eg something thats at college/uni so u can do it between classes or after classes, so u don't waste as much time
     
  12. MissCheekS

    MissCheekS Reconnaîssant ❤

    maaan..ur girl sounds clingy....or is it just me?
    anyway...if it bugs u just tell her u need some space...assure her it has nothing to do with her but u just want to reoganize ur planning cuz it seems like u never have time for urself.

    i mean ur not that old right?
    she needs to relax and accept the fact that u have the right to have a life of ur own besides her...
     
  13. xmichelly

    xmichelly Well-Known Member

    haha that's like my sister. she's sooo clingy. she doesn't want her bf to hang out with his friends AT ALL. when her bf doesn't seem to want to spend time with her, she gets soo mad, and then ends up complaining to me, and I always defend him cus I know she's just clingy
    when she's not clinging to him, she's clinging to me. if I say I'm hanging out with friends, she's always like "no you have to hang out with me" -_-
    don't get me wrong, love her to death, but seriously ... -noclue
     
  14. MissCheekS

    MissCheekS Reconnaîssant ❤

    sounds like a pain in tha butt :D.....sorry
     
  15. vintage

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    Heres my honest suggestion:

    Do whatever it takes you make your future great. If that means studying hard in school, so you can have good future than do it. Screwing up your future for a few drinks with your buddies is foolish (no offense), just put the phone on hold and every few minutes say "uh huh, yep" your gf will be fine. Be on your path, whatever that is. But don't lose sight of it. Don't get distracted.
     
  16. Sephiroth

    Sephiroth Well-Known Member

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    Freedom is one of the deepest and noblest aspirations of the human spirit.
     
  17. liltigger23

    liltigger23 Well-Known Member

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    talk to her about it? lol
    if ud rather spend time with your friends you probably don't like her that much anyway :p
    plus clingy sucks hahah
     
  18. Gurly

    Gurly Active Member

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    If you love her, you will make time for her. If you want more time for yourself, then you have to talk to her or think about how you have to organize it.
     
  19. lovinglyxx

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    if you're even thinking about these things then don't you think it's hinting something? i guess if you wanted to be with your girl you wouldn't mind abt all that social stuff..

    but if time is just what you need then you can make it. i don't have much time either cos i hv uni 4days a week and when im free he has work, but we manage to spend quite a bit of time together :)

    2 years is a pretty long time and if your relationship is getting a bit dull (couldn't think of another word sorry!) and if it's not what you want anymore then... call it off. but think about it because she must be pretty special if you've been together for 2 years?
     
  20. j0sephine

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    haha clingy is bad.

    i dont mind my bf spending time with his buddies.
    and neither does he mind that i spend time with mine.
    he wont sms me too much when im out with my friends cause he doesnt want me to neglect them.

    but i believe occasionally u can bring ur girl out with your friends too.