How do guys feel about this? I'd find it kinda hard to make the first move because I'm extremely shy around people I don't know. -sweat But I'm a girl so I guess there's a lot less pressure on me. I think guys have it harder because a lot of people still expect them to make the first move. I do think it's cool when a girl has the confidence to approach a guy first though. Even though it's the 21st century people still think that it's the guy's job to do the "asking out" and that girls who ask out guys are "cheap". So what are your thoughts on this?
Girls making the first move aren't cheap. Maybe except for the VERY VERY traditional guys because I don't have any peers that thinks that. Fear of rejection is normal (instinctive) and can make anyone shy. In our society tho, there really is no need for this fear. Some get all tense and want to avoid the embarassment, but there are so many reasons for a person to reject another (already taken, not in the mood of meeting people, gay/lesbian, etc) that there's nothing to be embarassed about. Knowing this and forcing yourself to overcome this minor obstacle can make this a lot easier on the person. Once you get use to approaching people, that fear will just go away. You planning to ask someone out?
I don't think there's anything wrong with girls making the first move. Seriously, it's time for the girls to step up to the plate. Why do they always have to depend on the guy to ask them out?? How your life turns out is entirely based on the decisions that you make. If you want things to happen, you should be proactive!! And I don't agree with those who say that girls who make the first move are cheap. Some girls, like me, just prefer not to beat around the bush and waste time. If I'm interested in somebody, why should I waste time wondering whether he likes me or not?? You waste so much time playing the waiting game. I might as well find out on my own, so I can either move in or move on. I'm definitely not a cheap though. Also, girls who make the first move are usually more assertive and know what they want. That said, if you like a guy, casually ask him to have coffee with you or go out and get something to eat. Treat him as if he were your friend and not your love interest. That way, you take the pressure away. It doesn't have to be this whole big ordeal every time you go on a date with a guy. Asking somebody out doesn't have to be such a circus. It's a very casual thing. It's really not as complicated as everybody thinks it is.
It's not cheap but usually guys should make the first move.. I think that guys doesn't reject so many as girls reject guys that's why it's not cheap....
its very refreshing if a girl does bust the first move. Rarely does this happen. When it does.. it says something about their personality. That they assertive and GET to the point. These kind of people are usually realistic! the best ppl to have a long term relationship with...
I think girl has to be careful when making the first move or when the guy does it. Better do some underground homeworks before asking the question or answering. Nowadays, it's not like the 60's, 70's, or 80's... With the net around, there are new breed of predators. Ouch.
Honestly, if I met a guy that I really liked, I don't think I'd be afraid of asking him out. Problem is....I haven't met that guy yet, which is quite frankly, the hardest part of all <_<
I don't think it's cheap...it's actually rather sexy! Why waste time telling your friends not to tell his friends not to tell him? I've been asked by girls before and I rejected every one of them. But looking back, I really regret...I've even vowed to give a chance to the next girl that asks, even if she's fugly. But of course...now, I make sure I don't treat "girls I don't like" nicely anymore.
Its becoming more common these days for girls to make the first move and I dont see any thing wrong with that. If the girl is confident in herself she will show signs that she is in fact interested in the guy. She can do so by suggesting to go out for lunch or coffee to get things started. Beware of girls that just flirt for the sake of it. The last couple of girls that I dated pretty much made the first move by either asking me out or asking my friends about my current status. Its definitely not cheap. Let go of this traditional way of thinking if you expect the women to have the same equality as men. Girls if you want to break the glass ceiling then you have to be confident enough to take charge and get what you want.
well...i did make a first move...first i feel really nervous and then i feel ok....cuz i said it...wow..im proud of myself
I think it's really cool for the girl to have the courage to ask the guy out.... though I'm the shy type ^^ so I may be biased. Of course being the shy one, I really find it hard for myself to have the courage to ask someone out especially since I have been rejected before in the past. It's really nice when the girl gives you some sign so that you know if it's ok to ask but then again, I may just be a whimp. ^^''
guys always makes the first move..it makes it easier for us guys if the girl makes the first move lol
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU. I don't get how people can think of a girl asking a guy out is cheap! I really think if a girl likes a guy, she should make the first move because it shows she isn't scared to tell the guy she likes him and she isn't afraid of what might happen. I hate how my friends think so one minded when a girl asked me out and they tell me to reject her! I think those are not really good friends because they do not stick up to me and instead they believe that girls should not ask a guy out. I did not reject the girl instead I just continue to talk to her and pretend nothing happened because I don't think I am ready to date just yet.. but maybe I am wrong. Well, I am a guy and I believe if you like a guy.. think about who you are.. if you got the confidence then ask him out and trust me that does not mean you are cheap.. it means you are STRONG!
If only girlz can ask the guys some time... it would make life a lot easier.... guys need help also.. hehe
I think girl that ask guy out show that she has confidence in herself. Girl that have confidence in herself is SExy!!
