So i've been wondering... it seems that guys have a higher tendency of falling for their female best friends or really good friends. Whereas girls tend to not want to ruin the friendship and never have feelings for the guys. I'm just wondering how common it is and what people have done in the situation and what resulted from it. If you are a guy, have you ever fallen for your girl bestfriend? Did you end up confessing and what happened? If it's the other way around and your girl bestfriend confessed to you or hinted you that she likes you, but you don't have feelings for her, what did you end up doing? And other way around for girls. I think that girls usually tend to avoid or distant themself from the guy if she senses some hints that the guy likes her. So as a guy, i'm wondering what makes girls do this since i don't think guys usually avoid someone who has a crush on them. Also for girls, the most common reason not falling for your guy bestfriend is because you don't want to ruin the friendship. But is it true that you have ZERO feelings for the guy, or you actually do have feelings but don't express it? Or would you start distancing yourself from the guy because you're afraid of rejection later on?
hmm well I have this guy that I've been best friends with for like 4 years .. and we were kind of going out after we met, but we didn't really click much and after we broke up, we kinda got really close and eventually I got feelings that were more than best friend feelings .. but I didn't say anything because yeah .. didn't wanna ruin the friendship, and besides I don't like to say anything because I didn't wanna be rejected =\ but then he moved .. and we both kinda got other people, but we were still best friends then turns out that when I liked him, he liked me too ... O.O but oh well ... we're still best friends
ive fallen for friends before, it kinda adds a whole new level of complex relationships though when your gay and your friends arent, or even if they are for that matter. it usually just ends up quite ugly. the first time it happened, i just felt i needed to tell them and get it off my chest, but in the end it just made things awakward, so was probably a wrong move. the guy was gay as well, but just wasnt interested like that. i think when it does happen, its really complicated as you rick losing the friendship if you say anything, but having to spend time with the people as if everything is the same as it always, is soooo tiring. its all very complicated. sometimes it works out for people, but then you end up with the other problem of if/when they break up things can be very awkward. another awkward situation on a similar line, flatmates. last year i lived with 2 other flatmates who ended up going out with each other, and there were times when she got to the point of wanting to break up with him, but didnt want there to be an awkward atmophere in the flat, and decided to put up with it as she was moving away for a year after the achedemic year anyway. having said all that though, now they are still together as far as i know at least in a long distance relationship while shes away on her industrial year. but yeah, friends/flatmates, and crushes, or fancying them just makes things complicated as far as im concerned.
i have fallen a girl whom i considered as my best friend. everyone told us we were treating each other more like boy girl friends rather than normal friends. but it didn't seem that way to us. haha after around like 2 years i realized i liked her so much and she did too. haha xP defying the sextist views of society, she confessed to me and was the one to ask me out. sadly it didn't last that long. basically we were tore apart by our friends.... haha i guess sometimes treading over board with friendship isnt that good. we ignored each other for like 1 year but then we became best of friends again. we still flirt sometimes. But we're careful not to go beyond best friends...otherwise things would get complicated. haha. ^____^
wth mannn u let your frdz tear u guys apart??!!! < what kinda frdz are those.. <_< go get back in there!!!
loool nah we did afterwards, and we figured we're more like best friends than boy girl friends so we chose to let it stay that way. we're still best friends xD
If your girly best friend is attractive, then yeah you'll surely fall for her... it's natural don't say crap like "ooooh she is like my sister" it's why I don't have closed girly friend at first
i didn't fall in love with my best friend back then....even now...my goood firends that are girls i wouldn't think of falling in love with them...i consider them like sisters....theres plenty of other girls for me to fall in love with =p
yeah i totally agree with kdotc...but at the same time...out of those girls i'm close with...there are a number of them which are considerable applicants *nods* cept i try to dismiss this idea asap after my first gf.
I think having feelings for the guy and reacting on it is very different. I definitely don't want to ruin the friendship but sometimes when you are very close friends, you can get your feelings confused. I think girls and guys have the same tendencies to fall for each other when they are close friends. I just think we deal with it differently. Girls tend to talk themselves out of it...or at least i do...
It has happend but i would say that the more time u spend with someone regardless of best friends or not, feelings will always come in to play! thats just how it works! u enjoy there company and the more u see of them, the more comfortable u are with them, sometimes, it moves further but usually from one persons perspective first. u end up liking them more then u should. its true girls would not risk losing a friend then take a risk. i understand that but then i would say, if its not worth the risk, then its not ment to be! but taking a risk is what life is about! people more so these days go from one relationship to another and they sometimes just never find the one they feel is right. if you have a friend who has all that u want but u don't want to risk it, then its your loss!
Nah, I have not fallen for a best friend. Remember, there's a difference between a girlfriend and a female soulmate / intimate friend. It's understandable for someone of the opposite sex that you can share with.
i never fell for my best fd coz she's a girl n i like men -lol but my close fds r mostly girls so there's less confusion... makes life easier for me...
lol yer, some times its feels better as friends than BF GF, its like when u turn BF GF , ur under a lot of pressure =P
agreed. lol. but i think even if u do start and it doesnt work out, the positive would be that ur bond with ur friend would be even closer, assuming both sides agree that staying friends is the best way.
i've fallen for one of my close friends who's a girl. and well i think i'm still falling deeper in love for her everytime i talk to her. i'm to scared to admit it to her but one day that day will come where i do tell her how i feel. and i really hope one day she'll feel the same back.
aha its like rare as anything that a mate of the opposite doesnt want more than the other was really close and like best mates with these 3 guys but they all ended up asking me out i said no and they were just being idiots unless a guy is gay, i wouldnt count them as a close mate or even get too close to em if i didnt wana get with em not worth it lol
lol this shit never happens to me. even tho theyre pretty hot, i know when not to cross the line. reason why i would never go out with a friend is because most likely she and i have the same friends, and if the relationship fucks up, it affects the rest of the friends. actually, something similar happened to two of my friends. now im friends with two sides, those who are friends with the girl, and those who are friends with the guy. trust me when i say do not fall for a friend, or do not let a friend fall for another. its going to fuck up your circle of friendship.
