Has anyone felt this way before? Have you ever been in a relationship when you felt like it was a dream? And every time you see him, your heart beats rapidly and the butterflies in your stomachs just don’t seem to go away? Even after so many years, the sight of him, even the thought of him stops my breath. But what do you do when the dream comes to an end? The end came due to some fears, his. Long distance, commitment, even he is unsure as to what exactly, perhaps the intensity was too much…yet the attraction was mutual. Life just kept at us. We’ve remained pretty close. Thought I was moving on… Few years later, he came back into town for a visit. He told me he might start dating again. ‘It’s been hard but I think it’s time to try again.’ He mentions the need to get back up after falling down. Yet as we talked, we both knew, the feelings were still there. ‘How do you feel about this? Does it bother you that I’ll be trying long distance with her?’ He asked me. …what could I really say? I told him, while fighting back tears, I was happy for him. And I wished him well. Is it suppose to hurt this much still? I’ve been trying and actually thought I’ve succeeded. I’m currently dating a really nice guy. He treats me well, but I’ve expressed my fear of commitment due to my history. He’s been and still is very patient. Very sweet. Etc. Yet, a part of me, really don’t seem capable of letting go of something I don’t even have anymore. I feel like I’ve tried everything possible, but maybe there’s something else. What am I suppose to do? I’ve been anticipating this moment (him deciding to be with another girl) but it feels like my scars got cut open again. How do I know I’m doing the right thing? How do I feel normal again? How do I stop the tears…
your heart aches for his, its all about risk now XD will you take the risk, in most cases you only get one chance, make the decision and don't regret it. hope it works out for ya
Are you talking about the risk to tell him? If so, he knows. If you are referring to the guy i'm dating...? How do you know how to make the decision and NOT regret it? How do you know which one is the right decision for you?
If you think there is a chance that you two can have a future you should try, if the love between you two is true and deep you can tackle any problems that destiny may throw at you. I do not know the conditions that ended your dream, but if you both share such passion for on another you should at least try, or you may regret it. Even if it doesnt work out between you, you know you've tried. He may seem to have moved on, but from a male point of view, if he has taken so long to get back there will be a part of him the still wishes to be with you. Over time it may have faded but it still will exist within his mind. At the end of the day your fate is in your own hands, so take control and listen to what your heart says. Follow your heart.
We've tried, but during that time, we were both struggling with our education/careers...we tried for a few years, but i'm not even sure what it was, we were both too afriad to label it anything, then he got a job elsewhere... Should i wait and give him a chance with this girl he seems interested in first? (He figured since i was trying, he should too...) It's been so long, that i don't even know what my heart is saying. How do i figure it out again?
I know theres loads of implications but at the end of the day do you know how you feel about this person? Theres just a simple question: Do you want to be with him?
I still love him. I think no matter what, i will always love him. He's the guy behind my dreams. Before i met him, i recall several dreams with a guy whose face i could not see. Later, when i met him, i recall my dreams during 'deja vu' moments. Might sound corny, but those moments really got me to feel like it was a dream coming true.
Then you should at least try..........try to work our problems in the past that ended it previous. This is coming from experience it is very hard to find some who you love, and for them to share this it can be rare. Timing is also vert important, if you leave it, and he finds someone else. He may work in another city, and a distant relationship can be hard but you can try and work it out in the future.
Are you saying i should tell him now? ...he knows it, we both know it. Is it worth it to open up another can of worms? You think we should try again...now? Or give him some time with this new interest?
Time waits for no one, like time people will change, and if you both feel the same way I cannot see what is there to stop you. If you both have such deep feelings for each other then you should hold each other and face the future. There are loose ends to tie up e.g. the guy your dating, its unfair to him if you heart is somewhere else.
The possibility of him rejecting the idea is a huge factor. And then choosing to go the other route. That's a lot to... You're right about time... Do you think it's possible to have a relationship that's so intense it holds you back on your full potential in other aspects? From a male's perspective, could you tell me why commitment/LD seem like such a fear factor? Why do males tend to let go of something that they claim is so good?
well u have to take the risk to get the reward as they say. just take the risk. besides at least after then u will know u will stand.
Yup.Love is like a mystery sometimes.U wont know until u try it. But juz bear in mind it is a risk....All d best my PA fren...
Not all guys fear commitment, but long distance is a something else, some males will attempt it but it is very hard. When you are far from a loved one they will be on your mind all the time, wondering how you are? what are you doing? and so on. This feeling not only is nervracking but it all put a strain on him. Another thinking (from experience) women needs a sense a security from their loved one. Being so far away from each other it is very hard to provide security to the other.
why being so unfaithful ? past is the past! stick with your current bf. you dirty h*e if i was him i wouldnt even wanna bother thinkin about you. girls like you are a big turn-off
Dude there is totally a reason why she feels this way ok. They ended their relationship because of difficulties that arised not because they lost their feelings for each other so it's not wrong that she'd still feel that way about him when she sees him. It's not cuz she's a hoe ok, people like you generalize too much. Perhaps you havent cared about a person enough to understand that that shit aint always black or white. get some more experience.
