Hello, fellow compadre! I feel compelled to post this since it is stressing my friend and she's dragging her feet on the issue. My friend is intelligent and 'sweet'. But she can be very indecisive and clueless when it comes to interpreting love signals. There is this guy, lets call him Mr A. From what my friend tells me, Mr A. has been making calf eyes at her; he "happens'' to be there where ever she goes - its like he's stalking her; my friend only has to mention she likes something or wants something - and voila her wants are met. Mr A. downloaded MSN just so he could chat with her; and he has been making suggestions like lunch, dinner or hang out at his place while his parents are away. From what she tells me, Mr A. doesn't have good social skill and hence she is shrugging off this attention. She thinks its his way of showing his friendship. As someone who is studying Medicine, my friend isn't very bright or she lacks the courage to take the plunge into the unknown. Therefore, my request to you is what view or advice you may have in this predicament. Does he like her or not? P.S I'm stepping out of my comfort zone here. It's not something I would usually post in a forum
From my experience, I'm pretty sure he's at least interested if he's getting her everything that she wants. Usually a guy won't go out of his way to do something for a girl unless he's at least wants something out of it....just to be straightforward. P.S Yay for havoc for being a good friend
He is showing his interest in your friend and is testing the waters. He is trying to win her over or attract her attention and see if she would fall for him. Mr. A is doing the proper attire and just waiting for a response from the girl, I just think that Mr. A is overdoing it a bit.
Why not make the guy confess? First, make sure your friend has feelings for Mr. A. If not, just leave things be and stop taking gifts from him. If you friend likes him and can see him as a boyfriend, she can persuade him to confess. She can give Mr. A some signals: sit closer to him, accidentally touch his hands, lean close to him and whisper something, make/buy him a gift. If he is not thick skull, he should get the signals. If Mr. A doesn't confess after all the signals your friend sent, there is one more thing she can do. Tell Mr. A that it may be the right time for her to think about a boyfriend. Ask him if he knows anyone who may like a girl like her (look at him very sweetly when she ask this question). All the steps above should give your friend an answer whether Mr. A likes her just as a friend or as a girlfriend.
Mr A. merely wants to send signals but not so aggressively, so he leaves room to be friends should he be rejected. He does all these things just to spend time to do things with your friend. there is no way he is disinterested and would do dat at the same time.
mms i believe the guy does have interest in ur friend cause its kinda like rare that a guy jus 'happens' to be there... so jus tell ur friend to step up and have her ask the guy or tell "mr. a" to ask her out
hmm... i think i be in the same situation before. this guy too i think used to stalk at me... no matter how i bully him, he will jus smile and stand at there, help me do many things. but he like to ask same question everyday like wat time u will be in college?, wanna hav lunch together? wanna go out for a movie dis holiday?.... and thing get worse when i realise wherever i go, what i do (in college), its like a pair of eyes following me! he jus look at me, staring at me for nothing! the proof? i walk round the class n i can see his head turning n eyes sticking to my movement...=='' for many times! and he also like to sms me... asking stupid thingy... and when i din reply him, he will go n ask my fren wat happen to her? y she dun reply my message? y? she din pay for her bill or wat? she mad at me or wat? when im having lunch wif other gal, he go and ask the gal... hah.. she eating wif u ar... y like dat 1? she din tell me dis yesterday! these only a part of his attitude dat freaks me out! hmm... at first i thought he was a good guy a good friend... at last i found that he was annoying, n trying to get into my life... now i draw a clear line, never talk to him again... phew~~ free i dont think i handle this matter well... cos i lost a good friend and god bless him cos he got a cute gf edy
Hmm... interesting situation. In fact, if your friend does not show interest then she has a couple ways of portraying her feelings indirectly through gestures and actions. If your friend has no interest she can have conversations with him online and throw in the "you're such an awesome brother figure." Saying that line already puts him into the friendship ladder in her life and it will send a msg to the guy that she is interested in being friends and not anything more. If he still insists on being more than friends then she needs to do something along the lines of reassuring her point of only friendship by hinting him "you're such a great friend" or something along that lines. If that doesn't work then I suggest she can do the silent option, where she just gives him the cold shoulder and not answer the phone calls or any form of communication. Usually if that happens, the person will get the idea and walk away from the situation. Hope this helps =)
