How much do you apologized after repeated apologies to a female Japanese co-worker for a misunderstanding. Should I just stop apologizing and forget this friendship is over. It's going on three weeks since I last spoke to her we work in the same office it's really hard not being able to talk to her.
you got to give us the details. did you sleep with her sister? or did you act like a jerk to her? two different situations with two different results
got drunk and hand his hands up her dress... There's really not much you can do.. if you've put in the effort and she doesn't accept it, then you just have to let it go.
AFTER WE HAD GONE TO DINNER ON A FEW OCCASIONS WITH HER TWO CHILDRENI, I WAS SUPPOSED TO MEET HER FRIENDS ON A WEEKEND IT NEVER HAPPENED..I INVITED HER TO DINNER WITHOUT HER FRIENDS THAT'S WHEN SHE SENT ME AN EMAIL NOT TO CALL HER, EMAIL HER OR ASK TO TALK TO HER CHILDREN, SHE'S SINGLE SO AM I. I HAVE NO EMOTIONAL OR PHYSICAL ATTRACTION TO HER. HER RESPONSE WAS WHAT I'M UNABLE TO EXPLAIN, MAYBE IT'S A CULTURE THING. I HAVE ALMOST GIVEN UP.
so she was setting you up with her friends? and you didn't show up? no call no show? i would be mad too if someone didn't show up and didn't say anything about it and i was waiting for a long time...just give up trying to to talk to her...when SHE IS READY she will talk to you
hands in my pocket. hands up her skirt. all seriousness, not worth your time or energy if that's how it went down.
I say fuck her...and you shouldn't even apologize, it was a misunderstanding and she took it the wrong way. you're spending way to much time thinking about it.
There was no friend hook ups, I'm thinking she thought I wanted something more than just a friendship reason for my apologies or that she thought having dinner without her children not involved I don't know. There's so much tension in the office she now calls me Mr. It feels awkward but I would have liked if she at least would tell me why? From speaking to others who have had relationships with Japanese girls they've experienced the same lack of communication, then cut you off completely, so it has to be a cultural thing. So I should not say anything to her. My two male japanese co-workers haven't spoken to each other for over 4 years after a misunderstanding on a job promotion. I don't ever see myself having a Japanese G/F or evn think about marriage with one. I now see why they call it the sexless nation but that's another story.
did u try asking your co-workers? i assume ur in japan maybe they would know the cultural difference. so i re-read your reply, seems like u stood her up in front of her friends? not a good thing assuming close friends make powerful influences and in alot of asian cultures, when you make someone lose face, its almost unforgivable.
Yea.. it's possibly a culture thing.. do we have any Japanese PA members? I mean it just seems odd you guys are friends.. and then she just cut you off completely. Also, they might not be willing to talk openly about any tension or misunderstanding and would rather just ignore the person. You didn't do anything wrong.. and you apologized.. what more can you do?
She stood me up on Saturday and Sunday first by going with her friends to a festival on Saturday when she had invited me to meet her friends at a different location, gladly I called before I went. The make up day was on Sunday she refused by not answering my phone calls. I'm done apologizing I've met some people from Taiwan who really are out going much more friendlier.
