I have two friend that have been together for over 3 years. During the past weekend I found out that they broke up and guy was the one who said it. But after a few hours he regret it and wanted her back. But the thing is why he said that he wanted to break up with her was because of a rumor going on about his gf seeing a other guy that is why he said it. This weekend I was suppose to have dinner with the girl she came 2 hours late and with a new guy..The subject of why her and her ex broke up came up.. And she is with someone else now even thou they have only broken up for only 2 weeks. Sigh...I feel really bad and that other guy is from BC...Cuz when both of my friends were together they seem so happy and so in to each other. I didn't like the new guy she was with he was really rude.. But my two friends still live together and in a house full of the girls cuz, leaving the guy in a tough situation....I remember about 1 month ago both of them told me how in love they were with each other seprately but now this happens..Its kinda hard for me to accept, because i saw how their relationship start and from the beginning I heard so much about how they are so in love with each other and I can see it too by their actions.. But then now the girl doesn't even give him and chance after 3 years of being together when they look so great together.....On top of that she already gots a new guy and told me not to tell anyone because I am the only one that knows..I just don't understand it..How can you be in love with some one for so long and suddenly fall out of love and move on so quickly..I understand it if it was the guy that did this but he seems so lost now. He told me he kinda knows she has someone else but he still wants her back he begged her so much yet she doesnt want him anymore.. sigh...What should I do as a middle person? They still live together but now in seperate rooms and when they do talk they argue...sigh
life's never easy or fair not really sure what u can do, especially if shes set on being with the new guy plus getting back 2gether after breakups are never really the same again anyway... guess should just spend time with them and talk to them more, and hopefully everything will work itself out over time
Do you like him? Anyway it doesn't matter b/c the gut knew his girlfriend like someone else so just let her go instead of caring for her too much b/c she won't care as she have new boyfriend.
but the thing is the new guy is from BC like 7 hours away for where we are.. and he was rude when 1 st met him.. I am pretty sure she is not serious with the new guy because she would only speak to me in english instead of chinese when we were taking cuz he doesnt really understand it..I have a bf already..I just feel bad for the guy cuz it was his 1st serious relationship and it lasted for 3 years and they broke up all of the sudden and he was the one who told me they broke up...not her when I knew her since elementary school...
the answer to that is probably she hasn't been in love with that guy for a long time... but just putting up a happy face for him n the rest of the social group... maybe... maybe she's been sreaming for help inside for a long time... sometimes action speaks louder than words... if they were a happy couple there wouldn't b the rumour of her dating someone else... i mean she'd rather date a guy that's so rude n so far away than keep her 3 yr relationship... to me that sounds like that relationship is really suffocating her... my best fd dated her bf for 4 yrs... then suddently one day she was dating another close fd of mine... a 4 yr relationship went down the drain in a blink of an eye... n later on she tells that she's liked my fd for 2 yrs while she was still in her relationship... she couldn't control her feelings any longer... it seems like there's nothing u can do to pull them together... just help the guy to move on n try to b happy for the girl... she'll probably regret this one day but at least she's happy now... n maybe one day the guy will find someone else better... -flow
some (lucky) girls just don't realize how good they have it OR she realized that she has been with this guy for 3 years and doesn't want to be tied down cause she's still young. there really isn't anything u can do about it. it's their lives and their choice. ur guy friend will eventually get over it and find someone better for him. how about u hook up with him? haha. i'm joking i'm joking.
the only way i can see this happening is because the girl didn't really love him as much as everyone thought .. or else she wouldn't have moved on that fast but then again, she could have her own reasons that no one else knows of the human mind is a complicated thing
the girl seems kinda shady from a male point of view , best thing u can do is tell dude to forget bout her and that there is other fish in the sea?
maybe shes just using this new guy to get over her old relationship? or get her ex mad or jealous or something. But yeah it does sound like you're in a difficult position. I think you shouldn't try and get them back together, if only 1 person wants to make things work, then it's not enough. Best you could do i guess is just try and help the process of getting over everything more better and quicker for both your friends.
Probably find a good chance and make them two talk peacefully....with u around?since u noe them well...
no hope. even if the girl isnt serious abt the new guy..she'll be playing for a while with him at least during that time the guy would've been told and considered many things and wouldn accept her back even if it did arise. what do u mean u understand if the guy does it? i only understand if the girl does it. im sure the girl feels guilt...but she'll never turn back. at least not for the first few months.
Well I am meeting up with the girl again tonite cuz I told her how I felt about her break up with her 3 year relationship...I mean I watch it when they 1st got together and now it ends sadly i just feel like I was being lied to because they did seem so happy....In a way I just wanna leave and never had found out about their break up because I feel so sad since, I looked up to them...I even cried for them when I 1st heard..because they really looked good together and I thought from the way they told me about their relationship in the past they were gonna get married in the future and have kids..Now everything is shatter and its kinda hard for me to accept the truth about them two...Its kinda different then seeing this relationship break up then my other friends because they have been dating for a long time longer then all of my other frds.
^ well, just because they seemed so in love doesn't mean they really were there really isn't any way that you could know what either of them are thinking i guess it's good that you're meeting up with the girl, maybe she'll clue you i n
ah................................. seems like your emotionally attached to their relationship.... just like a couple of my friends was attached to my relationship with my X. you'll be over it....throu time... i never knew someone else's relationship can indirectly affect the ppl around them... until mine broke up.
it's never happy to c couples break up especially if they r close fds n they appear to have a fairy tale like relationship... but it's their lives n their choices... if they choose to get back together in the future it's gotta b because they want to... not the make everyone else happy... do u feel deceived coz ur girl fd never shared her feelings with u?? n she didn't tell u till the last minute... till she can no longer keep it as a secret...?? ur fd was probably feeling too guilty abt it... that's y she kept her feelings all to herself... for some ppl it's hard to say "i love you"... but it's even harder to say "i don't love you anymore"... i hope u'll b able to accept it soon... n hope seeing ur fds breakup can make u cherish ur bf even more... coz u'll never know how much time u have together... get well soon!! xx
total rebound!!!!!!!!! anyways, tell the guy to back off i've made many observations when people are on a 'break' and they continue to be in contact they dont experiance what it is like without the other person, they just continue to see the issues to why they broke up but for those who cut off contact during their 'break' they tend to miss the person like crazy and end up running back into each other's arms the girl is probebly pissed because she the guy broke up with her because of a rumor (did they even talk about it?) and is lonely rebound rebound if it were me, i would 'kinda' help them first step, lose the new boy toy
