ok so get this my cousin who's dad is a doctor, her to be husband who's dad is a doctor obviously rich people their getting married over 600 people invited and she had the nerve to ask me not to bring my bf???? we're FLYING IN, and the rest of the cousins are bringing their partners just becuase i live two states away and only saw her on vacation when iw as growing up i'm not as close, therefore my bf is less important than their bf/gfs?? and it's not like i'm just bringing a date, or some guy i just know, no it's a serious relationship here I mean this wedding is so HUGE that they have to split the wedding reception into two nights one night for the youth/friends of the bride and groom (westernized) and second night for the family, and family friends meaning parent's friends (chinese banquet) cousins will be going to the first one, cause we're younger and ABC, therefore westernized but cousins might (not sure yet) also go to the second one because they are family we're TONG cousins, not bui cousins @*%&$!!! she finds that her friends bfs are more important that her own family yes, my bf is taking up an extra seat that your friends and their bf/gfs could use damnit, your dad's paying for this, and he's not going to care in fact i know your dad care more about meeting my bf, than to notice your friends and their partners in fact your parents are even expecting him to come!!!
i think there would be a chance that he can come along...think u shd speak 2 ur cousin about this, since u feel pretty strongly about it
oh he's going, i told her that's he's already made plans to go she basically said if you haven't told him yet, dont tell him now, but if he already knows, then oh well and like i said, if her parents found out that he wasn't going becuase she told them not to, that will brew up some trouble the fact that they are paying for everything, and have a whole banquet to cater to their own guest, that say something
awwwwwwwwww....maybe she thinks he'll cause an embarassement? i unno... the one gettng married is always rite...its not fair ehhhh.....so when u get married invite her and her husband...make her feeel bad
Well I can understand her, cause your are only a family member who she vagually remembers. That she find her friends more important isn't that strange though, since she got more contact with them. However since she invited you she can't expect you to not bring you partner with you, how come you are treated diffently then other family members (cousins). Asking you not to bring you bf with you seems unreasonable, since i doubt that she knows the partners of your cousins better then your bf. I think that you can always talk about with your cousin about this matter. But then again, she got the nerve to ask you not to bring your bf along,....... so...i dunno if talking will solve this, might end up in a conflict...which it's already is I guess (you with her) Anyways you can always try-unsure edit: I am to slow, nice that you solve the problem already =)
i thinking more when i get married, i'll invite her and ask her not to bring her husband it's not like i know him or anything
man thats tough, should bring ur bf anyway though. thats wat i would do lol. what difference will one person make.
^ well it is her wedding and if she says its not okay then deal with it.... i have to side with your cousin ... sorry.... but if your cousin said it was alright or the bride and/or the groom said it was alright to bring them and your mother said no then that is something to bitch about (happened to me)
i agree with you, because it's over 600 people i mean if it was a small wedding of 50, that may be different, but six hundred!
why not, it's not like she's going to have time to say anything more than 'hi' on passing at the door. I want him to meet my other relatives who will be there.
it's her big day cause it's her wedding, and since you're not that close anyways no wonder she will favor her friends who are more close. since it's her day i think you should listen, but if you really want to bring him, talk about it before the wedding and don't just bring him there to piss her off or make a big fuss about it. If you really piss because of this then just don't go then, remember this ain't your big day, it's her's, i think she has the right to say what she wants.
you didn't read down did you she's not inviting him because she doesn't like him, she's not going to get angry when she see's him she's just not going waste her time talking to us, yes even me, because she only invited me out of obligation she's just doesn't want to deal with adding more seats (trust me when i DO say that money is not an issue) and once again, she can't say a lot because her parents are paying, and her parents do want to meet him it's her big day, she can ignore us i wont care, but it's obligation, just like i'm obligated to go and if 80% of the family wants to meet this guy, but one girl is too lazy to move a chair over in a table mapping, well i'm going to have her move the one table, cause even if i dont, her mom will do it for her
I don't see the big deal since she said if he already knows then oh well. Unless if she is worried that since you stated that she is not really that close to her family and she may be worried that the family will pay more attention to you and your bf (since you seem to be closer to your family then she is) . If she thinks that your going to steal the spotlight on her big day she might get really pissed off but since the rest of the cousins are bringing their bf or gf I don't see the big deal if you bring your bf... I would ask her why she doesn't want your bf to come and make your own decision based on her reasoning...
hmmm entirely up to u...i wouldnt do it tho...i wouldnt bring my bf if my cousin asked me not to n if i was ur bf i wouldnt wanna go either.... i dont wanna go somewhere i havent even been invited to.....id feel uncomfy.... doesnt he?
If you're bothered and pissed that she asked you not to bring your bf, and you're not going to go without him, then just don't go. It's her wedding after all. You can't bring an uninvited guess when everything is planned. There's gonna be a missing cover at the table, missing chair, etc. You gotta respect her and her wishes. It's HER wedding. No matter how big it is. It's still her to decide what's going on at her wedding. And won't your bf feel awkward? And yeah, if you like to live with revenge, when you get marry, tell her not to bring her hubby.
lol same response haha...she doesn't care if he's there so why bring him, maybe if the family wants to meet the guy, introduce him to them after the wedding. it don't matter if her parents are paying, it's still her day. Its like your birthday, if you parents were paying to celebrate it for you, does that mean you won't have any say in anything. lol how bout you just ask her parents to make extra seats for you guys then if you said they are in control... but just to remind you again this is not your wedding. put yourself into her shoes, if you were already all stressed out by this planning and you finished but left out one guest that you don't care for, would you redo things and make it harder for yourself just to make a person who your not really close to, happy? Also i bet everyone wants their closest friends to be happy and with them at their wedding. for relatives, i mean if they don't really know them, then it would just feel like a tradition they have to follow. They can care less. agreed.
look, if u cnt bring him then dnt go urself, cos ur obviously very bitter about this and i guess i would be too if my so called relative doesnt see the importance of my partner in the family. U'll go and end up hating her anyway even if she agrees to let u bring ur bf so i would jus take the nite off and spend it doing something romantic with my partner with the money i was gona spend on getting to her wedding and/or presents
