so I've got a young cousin who's set off course. skipped enough school this year to be unrecoverable. gets into physical struggles and verbal abuse with parents. like cursing them out and pulling out the english because they don't understand too much english. plays combat arms all day all night (some crappy fps shooter). my aunt is trying to exert all her options before she does anything extreme like send him off to bootcamp. she's reluctant to do so because it may deter whatever relationship she has left with the son. so she came to me to see if i could sway his thinking and actions for the better. do you folks know any children like this and have they been convinced to turn around?
at 15 it wont be to easy, its so important that you raise kids a certain way while they are still very young. as im sure you know, saying "i love you" and cuddling them aint gona change nothing. as for disciplining him, there isnt much you can do at that age, at that age you set in your ways for the most part, anyway good luck with him p.s, im not to sure what yiou mean by 'physical struggles', if it is what it sounds like then he needs his rear end kicked in
yeah he has laid his hands on his parents and they're not the world's best parents. they're not poor, and he was spoiled when he was growing up. he can be turned around but i'm just not sure how i can get him to communicate with his mom again.
1) make him join cadets 2) let him screw up and learn from his mistakes 3) set him up and make him go to juvi..then he won't wana go back i guarantee 4) get some ppl and jump him so then he knows he's not all that 5) let him earn rights to be on the computer 6) don't give him money aka don't spoil him
can't they ground the child?it will difficult but they should ground him when he misbehavior. i also think that they should send him to bootcamp because he seems way too difficult
It ain't gonna be easy. First thing that you need to do is get a bucket of cold water and pour it over your aunt. Then make her a cup of very strong coffee and tell her to smell it. The situation has already been out of her hands for a very long time and it's time for her wake up to that fact. Here is now a 15 year old, who is willing to assault his parents; what do you think will happen by the time he's 21? By then it won't be just playing his video games, but "Dammit mom, give me the f*cking money or I swear I'll blow your f*cking brains out!!!" -pirate The parents have been the malignant enablers here all along. It's obvious that they don't know how to teach kids, and they got exactly what they paid for. They need to send this kid fast into a controlled setting where he is totally powerless (like boot camp). That is, if they want him to recover and make something out of his life. Good luck. They're all going to need it.
IMO, I think ralph has hit the nail on its head. The situation is pretty dire.. I mean what options does she really have? The relationship your aunt has with her son is extremely fragile.. And any means to try and improve this relationship could just backfire.. Her and her husband have made some pretty poor decisions/have a lack of knowledge of how to teach their son... Skipping school? Is he jigging with friends or is he just staying at home? He could be hanging around the wrong type of people? Or do his parents just don't know/care where he is and its just got to the stage where they've given up on him? Lack of discipline? There's just so many factors and reasons behind his behaviour... Sadly, I know some people who have had it tough at home, and they choose to hang around the wrong people at school - their parents pretty much neglect them/or their parents are just too busy and preoccupied with work to notice/show some love to their kids... Quite a few have dropped out of school; some have been expelled for drug possession Sorry to sound so bleak, but thats what I think the situation is .. here, I've never heard of boot camps before.. but like you said, sending her son to it might not be the best of options.. but from what you've written, it sounds like the only option.
your cousin is at an age where he's got his own thinking all that shizzle and thinks that he can do whatever he wants, so there is no disciplining him unless something major like his parents left him on his own and "maybe" he changes like the others said, send him to brat camp, they actually do work and the parents could go with your cousin too to learn some skills and by the end of the prescribed time your cousin still is a bratt, he'll get to stay there untill he has changed
Puberty......, They are too late to teach him some discipline now. Since he is in an age where he *thinks* the world spins around him. But to lay hands on your parents, he must be a scum.:nuts:.... They should have teached him some discipline when he was 4 or 5, that's why you have to teach your childeren @ a fairly young age. Just like dogs You can't really change him, unless they are willing to change. Sending him off to a bootcamp, will only make him hate his parents, I think. He should appreciate and be grateful for the things he have now...... Maybe he needs to find a job......, socialize with other people, so he can appreciate why his parents are working so hard. Maybe he got a lack of love from his parents when he was young
LOL that will never work if you are geting a kid to do boxing or something that is martial arts and the fact that he is a bratt as he is, that will o nothing, he will probably jsiut want to learn the skills and start bullying people anbd beating the crap out of people especially the fact he is shouting and swearing at his parents, you never know he will start hitting them as he has no respect for them by the looks of things so bratt camp si the way forward or disown him and let him become a tramp and learn life the hard way
well im sure a boxer will think hes a little shit and say something like 'spa with me' - then hed get shit knocked out of him. and if hes full of aggro it could be a good thing. he could unleash his fury in the ring
great comments. i had a long talk with him one on one today and hopefully he gets my point. i will have to see how he progresses.
One of the things that most people don't realize is that discipline is something that cannot be put off. The longer you let a child get away with something, the harder a habit it then becomes for them to break. I don't know how many kids each of you have; I've got three, with two of them right around that same age. But my kids know that if they get out of line, they'll lose whatever it is that they find dear. Electronic grounding was favorite punishment (stay home with nothing electronic for a week; no computer, television, phone, DS, whatever so long as it had to function with electricity, they couldn't touch it). Reading (which every parent loves) then became an avid pastime; though they did get slick with reading some manga too, LOL... -whistle
