Well...I have a best friend...and i knew her for about 8 months...but we're really good friends...she lives with her *9 goo jie* (mother's younger sister) and everything was fine after summer break...but then...her stupid * 9 goo jie* started making her *ah 4*...which means modern cinderella....she had to clean the dishes even she didnt take part in eating the meal...she basicly thinks shes an adult.. and treats her like school is nothing...makes her work from monday-saturday...and she also has a starbucks job...she practically is broke...she pays for her school fees and saving for her university money...and other basic needs.. and telephone bills...and shes still needs money for extra stuff...infact shes a very idependent girl...she just swallows her *9 goo jie's* bitching and still does what shes told...but lately...im afriad shes has depression and im scared she mite just shut herself in...as a friend...i cant do anythign to help her...i feel useless...and i REALLY want to help her....i dunt wann see a close friend go through what a 17 year old shouldnt go through... i know that there are much more people worst than her...but if u really do know a person like that...it breaks ur heart...so i told my parents...and in the middle i bursted out in tears talking about her story cuz typing is not as emotional as saying the actual words and...to my surprise...my mum also teared...shes sed if her parents let her...she can stay at my place... but i dunno if her mum will let her...since her dad died of cancer...and her mum is in hk...she hasnt see her mum for 7 years...and this time she wants to go back to HK to relax...but if shes planing to move out of her *9 goo jie's* place...she'll need money...so i offered her a deal that if she came to my place for the remaining school year...she can save money to take some time off...i really dunt want her to turn into a shut in or infected by depression.... can anyone please give me advice....this is a serious situation...so do hope there will be no spaming...
You did the correct thing by talking about it with your parents and having offered her your place. Maybe you can also be her shoulders to cry on... sometimes, just by listening and not commenting helps a person when they go thru a depressed phase... you would need to alternate between getting her to talk and just be there silently by her side... hope that your friend will pass thru this stage
I guess it's good for her if she knows that you are going to be there for her. You are doing all you really can (offering her your place, etc...) And as a friend find out what she really needs from you. It could be you listening to her, helping her with school stuff or maybe just giving her space. Some people might not like to be around other people when they are going through a hard time and you did mention that your friend is independent. But not giving up on her is the most important. Good luck...
just be there for your friend. Be the best friend that you can possibly be through her obvious time of need. Tell her to be strong.
Yea i think you have done the most u can, the final decision will always be up to her.. its good that you are by her side all this time, i think she is very fortunate to have a friend like you =)
i agree with wat the others have said. u can't rele do so much more, the rest is upto her. by offering her ur place and stuff should be fine cos she can now threaten 9 goo jie about it and she might change. so she might not need to move back to hk.
Encourage her to be open and talk to her mum. Then they can make a decision which is best for her situation. You can only do so much. Don't get caught up emotionally. You've got to be strong and think out of the box. Take care mate!
You are really doing great sacrifice to offer her your place..She is really a blessed girl having such a true friend..Try to make sure her that you are always there to help her.I hope things will be fine soon for her.
