Okay, I'm going to be blunt about it: I absolutely love this girl in my tutor. The day/night dreaming, the wishing she was always there, the thinking of her always, etc is all happening. Here's the problem: 1) My parents are absolutely overprotective. I am not a single child and She is just !@#$%. There is no way she wil let me have my way 2) I don't know if she likes me. I made it pretty blunt that I loved her. For starters I stared at her non stop, gave her 700(us) dollars which was all the money I had saved up since 2nd grade, took full blame of something she didn't do at all, and simply told her I loved her. She just replied lol. 3) I am what you would call a "nerd" Nobody likes me, they all pick on me, and scream for help to me yet turn around and backstb me. I can be compared to and superseceded yet redefine the meaning of unwanted. I know she won't like me so its nearly equivalent to walking into a brick wall. 4) She means everything to me and I can't, won't and couldn't give her up. I love her so much. Additional Cases: She's around alot of guys so if there was probably going to be a line starting from New York, I would be around the side at Canton. She's the kind of....."bad" girl. But not that bad as to go do something extremely unmoral and stuff. I need help.
Yes, you do... and the only thing i can prescribe if you insist on not giving her up is a heavy dose of morphine. First of all why did you give her $700 and why did she take it... how long have you even known her? And if you know you're a nerd... then do something about it. I have SUPER nerdish qualities, yet i dont consider myself a nerd that no one likes. But i must say, bad girls are pretty hot.
I thank you for replying..... I'm pretty sure I love her...or infatuated or whatever.....*sigh* I dunno what I'm going to do. I am well aware of the significant amount of money I gave her...but it makes her happy so...I dunno. She is probably indeed way out of my lead...but I'm satisfied with my..."relations" with her now.
I can't believe she accepted the money. Taking advantage of people like that just doesn't feel right if she was indeed a "good" person.
I think you've mistaken infatuation with love. You probably admire her because of the lifestyle that she has, as you said, she is kind of bad, and you are on the nerdy side. I'm thinking a part of you wishes that you could be the male counterpart of her, and that's why you're so obsessed with her. But when you think about it, what is it that you like about her? Why do you think that you're in love with her?? I must caution that if a girl likes you because of the material things, once the material things stop coming, they stop too. What you're doing for her is not reciprocated. You can't put yourself out there like a doormat to be used by others. When you let it be known that you will do anything for somebody, they will most likely take advantage of you and not respect you at all. In the end, you will be hurt. As for being the epitomy of unwanted, things change. It may be because you're a pushover, and you're too willing to do things for other people. Just be happy with yourself; don't get so caught up in trying to please others.
Dude... I'll let you say "I Love You" to me for $700 bucks. I can write you a receipt that says "lol" also! If what I just said sounded rediculous to you, then good, because it was suppose to. Reality check, girls don't love boys that grovel at their feet. It's a good thing you don't have special powers or you'd be another Cary -dead I don't know what you need help with as you didn't say. If you came here looking for help to get this girl, sorry to tell you, but it's never going to happen or work out between you two. If you came here looking for help getting over this girl, then take a seat young one because you have a long journey ahead of you. You are being played but you are so obsessed with this girl that you don't see it. If I didn't care, I wouldn't be here writing all this. 1) Your parents care about you. They have something you don't, experience. Because of that experience, your parents know this girl is bad news. It's time to open you eyes boy. Hell, everyone that has responded to your post knows this girl is bad news just from reading your short description. 2) I'll answer this for you. She doesn't like you. Only she likes to do with you is to USE you. 3) You are only a "nerd" if you choose to be. You are only "unwanted" if you make yourself undesirable. 4) You're nuts. I offer free "slap some sense into you" seminars every Wednesday, so feel free to stop by. If I hurt your feelings with this post, then too bad, because it's time to start learning to become a man, not a wuss.
I agree with Avant. Just try to take it slower. Staring will get you nowhere. Since you say you're a nerd, are you trying to get her attention by staring at her? Try to pay attention to what you are doing to yourself. Try setting a goal each week for her, show your care, with time and NOT MONEY. If she likes you, it will show in a few weeks/months time.
yea like dude said above me... big pussy... with that 700 you prolly coulda bought yourself a real gf.... You sprung like a mf on her... First off Romeo never had to spend no money to holla at Juliet... and it seems you know nuthin bout this girl... it's just that she the first piece of fine ass you've run into... so... my advise. Take the "Slap some sense into you" seminar from AVANT on Wed. Then Join my "How to get your game tight" on Fri. through Sun. Mon. if you offer some extra cash... Blow the Whistle... -whistle
you deserve better madlyinlove. Girls like that wouldnt make good girlfriends anyway. Move on before you get hurt even more than you are already.
Being the Nerd taht you are.. you should already know that girl is bad Investment... It's time you diversify yo bonds nigga... Protect ya god damn Neck son. Blow the Whistle -whistle
Im not going to be too hard on you since I can tell that you are still relatively young. I will not call you any names (I'll leave that to Ecko and Avant). Im not going to sugarcoat anything and let you know straight up. Let this girl go!!! Its not going to workout between the two of you. You mentioned that you are happy with the type of relationship you have with her, but you failed to describe or provide any details on how the two of you interacted. I am assuming that you tried your best to talk to her, but she ignores you most of the time. She talks to you briefly just so she wouldnt seem like a total bitch. She takes your money and then pretends that you are truly her friend. She then gives you a little bit more attention, maybe an acknowlegement that you actually exist in her world. That gives you hope that one day she will like you.Well buddy you have a lot to learn. First of all you said that you are unsure if she likes you or not. Well if a girl really likes you, she will never take that much money from you. Instead the girl will tell you to keep it and spend it on yourself and use it to take her out. So what does that say about her? She is just using you and you are just a tool to her. Shes being nice to you so she can squeeze every ounce of digntiy and asset that she can get from you. You also said that you already expressed your love to her (which is a big mistake, but again you have a lot to learn). What was her reaction to that? Again you fail to mention how she responded. Again Im assuming it wasnt pleasant, but you didnt see past the unpleasantness because you are in denial. Okay the one positve thing is that you are acknowledging that you have a problem, but the problem is not how to get the girl, the problem is how to improve yourself so you can see yourself in a more positive light. So for right now forget about this girl cuz you are officially in bootcamp. Erase this girl from your mind. Write her name on a piece of paper and then rip it up and burn it. Stop staring at her in class. Dont talk to her because it will lead to further confusion. shes gone. Now the focus is on you. Change your name from Madlyinlove to something esle, anything because you are not madly in love with this girl. You are just infatuated and lost. Here's the thing there will be other girls, girls that are a lot prettier and nicer than this girl. Keep that in mind. Think of the possibilities of improving your self image and your confidence. But you have to take little baby steps. You cant run before you learn to walk and right now buddy you cant even crawl. But again thats okay because everyone has to start somewhere. (Its not how you start, but how you finish) Im sure you play video games. You cant get to level 5 before you pass level 1. I hope you understand this concept. You cant get a girl whom you believe is out of your league when you lack the qualities to be in her league. No matter how much so called love you show her or money you throw at her it wont work. I suggest that you start slowly by socializing with other people such as classmates, neighbors, strangers on the bus. Start with a smile or just a hello. Get to know girls, any girl. talk to them. Make friends with them. Understand them. Dont fall for them cuz its not time yet. You are still in the stage of self improvement. Im not going to go through with every single step, but I hope you get my point. Again dont focus on getting the girl because this girl is not worth it and you are not ready for this. The result will only be disappointment. Focus on yourself. The money was yours. You shouldve spent it on new clothes, cool gadgets, and anything that suits your interest. Right now dont worry about other people's happiness. Think about what makes you happy (Dont give me that "If she's happy, Im happy crap")Get control of your life. Once you do that and continue to improve certain aspect of yourself you will be more well off than you are right now. WIth control you will realize that your happiness is determined by you and not anyone else. One last thing is that your parents are overprotective for a reason. They know that you still have a lot to learn in life. You cant have it your way because your way is not logical. Listen to your parents. They know best. Learn from your mistakes.
yea to sum it all up... forget about the girl and move on... ok so Avant's and my way was a lil direct -lol... but hey sometimes ya jus gotta tell 'em straight up.... But seriously dude... like you said she's around a lotta guys... so basically she'll most likely bang the few hundred guys who are closer in line than your are.... just give her up... simple as that... she doesn't mean the world to you and you are not truly in love with her... you haven't even got to know her on a more personal level... so you basing all your true from how good she looks... So STOP! don't go talkin' all that nonsense about how you ain't gonna give her up... that's gotta lead to some kinda mental disturbance.... what you shoulda done was take that 700 dollars and talk to a psych... or fix yourself up so maybe you'd be atleast presentable to other girls who may find you attractive.... -One
you know hot girl don't get with the nerd... they just using the nerd...or the good way of saying is...just being friend with the nerd... change the way you are now...maybe she might get with u or just 4get her..and go for another girl
how old are you man? you seem like you trying to spend the rest of your life with her. I have an idea, you never see her again, then you will get tired of thinking bout her -
I thought nerds were supposed to be smart, this doesn't sound smart to me. Why do you like this girl so much, what kind of good qualities does she have, are you just going for her looks? By your post she does not seem to be very nice, and secondly if she is good looking, there are tons of good looking girls out there. Giving her money was a foolish act, her taking it makes it worse. Sounds like she is using you. Move on.
yea obviously he's not a mathematical nerd cuz 700 dollars minus no dates.. equals bad investment... and the probability of you hittin' that... is 1 in however many guys she's already hollerin at...
