I don't know why, but lately I've been feeling so insecure about the way I look. I do get compliments from other people from time to time, and I have nice skin, I'm slim and fit, but I still feel as if I'm not pretty enough when compared to others. When others stare at me, I feel oddly uncomfortable. There are times when I look into the mirror and see an attractive girl staring back at me, but there are also times where I see a very ugly, unattractive girl staring back. Sometimes, I refuse to go out in public (school, parties, outings) because I'm afraid of what people would think of me when they see me. I know this has a lot to do with my lowered self esteem from a past experience. What should I do to be more confident about the way I look? Does anyone else ever feel this way?
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I used to ditch class whenever I didn't have what I felt was a dope outfit or if my hair looked like crap. I'm not used to walking out of the house without fixing my hair or sporting a new cap. I have to look in the mirror at least once every hour. I usually remedy this with the reassurance of girls. I'll tell you something, though. When I'm talking to another person, I don't care what they look like, how many zits they have, if they have bad hair, blotchy skin, are overweight, or anything. And when girls ask me if their shoes look weird, or if their hair is messed up. I never notice it. Bad breath is a different story, though. I usually stop talking to them or face the opposite direction if I notice they have stinky breath. But out of all the girls that say they're having a bad hair day, I have never noticed it, and still don't notice it after they tell me. The only time I actually care what a person looks like is when I'm talking to a girl I'm interested in. And even when I'm interested in her, I don't see her flaws. But I can relate because even though I remind myself that no one gives a $hit about what I look like or what I do, I'm still self-conscious of everything I do.
I'm assuming you guys are relatively young. I've never had self esteem problems, at least nothing major. I've wondered how I looked before I walked out of my house, but ultimately, it didn't matter. Who's to judge you by the way you look? If they look down upon you or give you an odd stare, it's their loss as (I'm assuming) you are a great person. People who won't give you the time of day aren't people you want to know anyway. Being self concious of what you do is a good thing. It's respectful and shows ettiquite, much of what America is lacking these days. If you're keeping your self in check by not littering, doing things in public that other people would consider crass, you should be aware of yourself and display self control. Why should it matter what you wear before you go out. If you like it and you're comfortable, then that's all that matters. My friends judge me for the clothes I wear (sometimes. There are days where I dress very nicely and they agree with that, but then there are days when I wear very very odd things that I personally like), but who cares? They laugh at me, but it's one of my favorite shirts (Remember Randy Savage? Basically it's a t-shirt with 1 sleeve cut off and 1 sleeve cut into strips and braided, lol). It has history (old basketball team shirt) and I love it, though everyone looks at me with a raised eyebrow as I walk down the street during summer. =T Bottom line is, who cares what other people think. =T
^^b of course everyone, if not most of us, are conscious and insecure about how one look. But my remedy is to shrink my attention space to like a 10-inch radius I just ignore the world as they know it
jus think of it this way... even Ugly Betty is actually pretty... well not really.. but thas what they all say.. -lol ok bad example... but yea.. go on n post that pic... my homeboy Kdotc wants to hook you up wit a make-over... -coolio -lol
Use your insecurity to benefit yourself, as motivation. Why do you not think you're attractive? Is it your hair? Then go to a stylist and ask for advice on what styles would look on you. Is it the way you dress? Than go to a mall and check out what guys are wearing and if you would like that look on you. For things like your height, which you can't do much about, know this. A guy that knows how to take care of himself can score atleast a 6-7 on the 10 scale no matter what their height maybe. Most women will give 6-7's a chance. If you don't like who you are, then people won't like who you are.
Stop paying attention to television commercials, telemarketing etc they purposely like to make women insecure to sell their products. and also learn to think for yourself and don't follow every stupid thing people do to look good. Usually the very problem is inside not outside... fix that first. Self conciousness is good if you use it in a postitive sense to improve your person.... Are you sure its not paranoia? because thats different.
Lately I've been reading much of the topics in PA, and I have noticed that so many of the people here seem to lack a certain aspiration of self esteem. I know its perfectly okay to ask others for certain advice on particular things, but it saddens me to see how materialistic people are leaning towards these days... its perfectly okay to walk out knowing that you aren't buffed like Arnold or as popular as Freddie Prince Jnr. lol. Come on guys, I think that more and more of our generation is letting society shape our lives. I'm not against looking nice or being into fashion, because I myself, love this area in someways. But, hmm...take it as this. Its cool to be able to look nice and all, but its also cool to be comfortable with who you are, nobody is judging you. Its just that i personally know people who go so far into these things, and in the end, they are completely different people. They try to look a certain way or act accordingly to certain people etc. in some perspective, I guess its okay to do all that, but the thing is they PRIORITIZE themselves with this Superficial BS before ground morals like respect. Just appreciate yourself for who you are.
^ It's easier to say then done... Like you say, more people are move toward the path of materialistic and once you're in it, it's pretty damn hard to get out... Even if you're not, people will judge you and thus you change and act like someone else to those what consider to be "Perfect Image"...
wow... dude, this is exactly the same as how i feel... I dont give a shizzle about how other people look at all and i know that they, in turn, probably dont really care about how i look, but regardless im always concerned about my image. Its kind of a sad reality, because I fully understand my own character flaws and yet there is still nothing I can seem to do about it. and dont rag on about how i post the same shit as you lol, this is fo'realz.
you probably don't have much friends. You gotta socialize more. Your confidence will build up when you have more friends.
well.. i used to feel insecure... but then.. now ayehh i cant be bother anymore.. i mean when i look at the mirror.. n i see the person staring back at me looks like a human.. then i'm all sweet... if u feel insecure cause you just had a volcanic breakout....well u SHOULDN'T be! even pretty hot celebrities have break outs, so who cares? n give it a few days(maybe weeks) n it'll be gone i believe everyone's made pretty so r u
That's not true. There's plenty of "popular" people with plenty of friends, but when it comes to the opposite sex, they crumble like an overcooked souffle. More friends doesn't build confidence. Experience builds confidence. So go out there and be somebody.
OMG...thats exactly how i feel at times like people say...wa...u have very pretty skin or ur very pretti...i just say..oh thanku but i dunt really feel that way...i feel im very normal..a normal gurl...i have lowself esteem too...i dnno how to fix it either... lol...dunt worry..ill help u by having the same problem as u...so anyone can help us? lol
Men fussing over their appearance is really unappealing -- leave that to us women for we've been doing it for centuries. You guys? Your earning aptitude is your best feature. Bonus if you are well read.
