There's this guy who sits behind me in saturday school and all these years, [which is a lot] we've never interacted before. That was because he was always with his friends. Well, this year, he sat behind me and we would occasionally talk. He says he forgets his book or something of the sort and would sit next to me to use my copy. Finally, he asked for my screen name and I gave it to him. From then on, he would im me everyday, for like 2 weeks straight. He would make these dumb bets and would ask me to go out to make up for the bets. I don't know why I was so blind and didn't see it. But finally, he said it and made it clear that he liked me. But I was in doubt and I told him to give me time. He does this all online and when he sees me in person, he doesn't ask or initates anything about liking me. I feel like I'm speaking to two persons. Now he occasionally im's me, like once a week, and I'm confused. I feel like he lost interest. I'm utterly confused.
umm maybe it's his brother IM you... or someone else -shock -lol. Yea I know a lotta pple who are... hmm how you say... more "open"... ok les just say they're not as shy... I couldn't think of the right word... >_<. But yea... if he only seems that confident when he's online... maybe he's gonna be shy and hella boring once you do go on a date wit him...
Oh and if you like him aswell... I don't see why you can't make the initiative to directly talk to him?? Maybe he jus needs a lil confidence or assurance that your at least somewhat interested in him in real-life rather than just online IM...
You asked the guy for some time to think about it, right? Maybe he's not IMing you as frequently anymore not because he's lost interest in you, but because he is respecting you and giving you space to breathe. What I don't get is... are you interested in him or not? Stop playing these cat & mouse games. One minute, you tell him to give you time, the next second, you're stressing because he won't give you the time of day. You have to be straightforward with guys... they're not mind-readers/psychics. If you wanna chill with him after school or something, just tell him. Don't depend on him to bring it up again... YOU asked for time... how's he gonna figure out when the time is up???
lol or he prolly thought you just straight shot him down... and so he probably doesn't know that your still interested...
if you think that he doesn't want to talk to you or IM you, ask him out in real life, or talk to him more often. then he'll definitely talk to you back.
he's a guy that only has confidence when he's in front of the computer. he feels as if he can talk to you more openly because he doesn't see you face to face. when he sees you in person he gets a little shy and doesn't want to say anything. the reason he probably stopped talking to you was cause you told him to give you time. in the mind of a guy it basically means you don't like him and so he has no reason to continue the "chase."
Well, if you like this guy than when you see him in person make him laugh so he can get comfortable around you, then his personality will come to light. If he's funny online chances are that's his personality and it's hiding behind the shy appearance. If not then iono.
There's a thing with guys and their pride. They hate being rejected or being dumped, so to make sure he doesn't get rejected while you think about it, he's probably pretending to lose interest in you while secretly admiring you still. This of course, is simply a guess and I might be completely wrong, but trust me on the part about how they hate being turned down.
haha.. i was in the same situation.. i'm guessing you have something for this guy too.. but you really can't depend on the guy to take initiative.. it's okay if you're shy to make the first move.. but at least encourage him let him know what you feel.. ask to hang out with him as friends.. and hope he takes the hint =T good luckyy!
Hahah, he doesn't talk to you in person because his shy. And what he is doing atm is a good thing, didn't you say you wanted more time and his giving it to you by staying out of the way.
He's giving you the space you requested. It seems to me that your interested in him too, otherwise you wouldn't even cared if he was talking to you or not. Am I right? You better start to do something otherwise he will eventually forget about you and move on. I suggest talking to him more and throwing some hints in their too.
the post's been up for almost 3 months ish... so i guess by this period.. its either u r already goin out with him or.. u both are just great friends
Just act natural and don't be too bothered. There are more important things in life than to second guess somebody's interest !
