Ok...so I met a guy... Tuesday we had dinner for the first time and we met again last friday... Now we are going to meet up again at Tuesday... I don't really like the guy in that way yet (dont know if that will change?)... we only met up twice... but I just enjoy hanging out with him... Cuz hes nice and funny and I am bored >_<.... and I never ask him out... hes the one whos asking me... My friends tell me not to meet him that often if I dont like him or else I might give him wrong signals.. but to be honest when we hang out... I dont really have the feeling that its a date...The first time we went out he paid everything but the second time we went out I paid the bill... I didnt really see a problem hanging out with him that often until my friends told me not to go out with him that often... I don't know if he likes me... he might be looking for someone to hang out with like I am...? I really have no idea...sometimes he says stuff which makes me think he treats me like I am his lil sis(e.g. pinch my cheek and tell me im cute like my brother would do)... Is it ok to out with him so often if I dont have feelings for him yet? Should I say something to him about it or should I stop seeing him? Any SERIOUS advise... welcome...
hEy you'rE from sydney tooo! lol Hmmm.. now... I think it'd be ok to continue hanging out, BUT, you should make sure that the guy isn't taking things tooo seriously or that he sees the relationship the same way you do, otherwise someone might get hurt =x (probably the guy if he likes you more than a friend). Another approach would be: to just go with the flow and let it be =] If you both enjoy spending time and company with one another, then i dont think that theres anything wrong with it (you might even eventually become a couple some day hehe).
@Angie: As long as the guy hasn't hinted to you or confessed to you that he likes you; I think it's fair for you to treat him as just a friend and continue going out with him. Besides, like you said it isn't really a date. He pays for u and u pay for him, no obligation whatsoever to treat it like a date. After all, he might be thinking the same thing too you know, like bored and just wanna haf sum company and maybe he thinks you are fun to be with. You said you don't like the guy in that way YET, which means you may ... so just take it easy and let things develop naturally. If they don't, then too bad.. but at least you still got urself a good friend. I don't think you are considered to be giving him any false hope coz as long as he's not done anything obvious to say that he likes you; you can play dumb and continue going out with him. If you enjoy hanging out with him, just do it. Don't worry about what your friends tell you and just enjoy his companionship & friendship. Just don't be over-friendly or flirty or he might think you like him romantically
I dont like that one xD. Thats like stringing the guy along. I mean, its the guys choice wether he lets himself fall for you or not, but by saying "not looking for a bf at the moment", the guy might think he has a chance and continue to try (and possibly just be wasting his time if you're not interested ).. but then again, I guess its a good thing from a girls persepctive.
Heaven: Yeah I am from sydney =) but not for long...just doing internship here.... Anyway... I dont think we can become a couple...even if we end up liking each other I will have to go back to the Netherlands after 5 months... If we start something here... we will both end up hurting >_< He knows that I'll be leaving after 5 months too... and he probably wont stay here forever too... hes korean and might be going back in a year or something Babyrain: No he hasnt really shown any signs...and no I wont flirt with him until I am sure I like him too... 無得頂: I have thought about giving hints.... but what if hes not even interested in being my bf... haha... that would be so embarrassing for me
I think he's looking for more than just being a friend. How long have you known him? Hints that the guy was dropping was the fact that he pinched your face and said that you are cute. Generally speaking, if you are complete strangers (maybe in your sense not really), would you pinch someone's face and say they are cute? Also, the amount of time that you scheduled to meet seems to indicate something, heck, i could be wrong but from those signs, it points that way. Besides, you might develop feelings for him later on, its your call depending on whether you want to have a relationship with him or not. Also, distance might be a slight technical problem, but if love do develop, who knows, maybe he's the Mr. Rite.
Ive known him for about 3 weeks... but like i said last week was the first time we met up... Pinching in my face and telling me im cute... i took that as asign that he think I am a kiddo... he always tells me I am a child because he is 4 years older Hes 25 and I'm 21 ... like when he was drinking sochu (krn whiskey) and I told him I didnt like that taste... he said its because I am a child...
@Wind: That action could be a playful one too... Doesn't mean it has to be romantic rite? Meh I used to like patting my guy friend from Mauritius's stomach (he had a slight gut) lol.
BR, could be, but...... doubt it. Met for only 3 wks and then 3 "pseudo" dates in a week kinda points somewhere no? But then again, guess angie, you have to see for urself, since time could only tell.
Hehe... i know... I wont be in town next weekend so we are only gonna meet up this tuesday an then we will see what happens...
looks like you like him, but knowing that either one is leaving....in a year or two. If it is just friends, I think once a week is ok, but more than that, it is like a date...you prob need time for yourself anyways. No need to rush and get sex if you a girl. hehe o yea. does he turn you on? If so, you like him
jsut go out, have fun. you only lived once. both of you are leaving Sydney sometime; he's probably out to have fun too. so if you are having fun, i say go for it.
Like I already said... i am looking for entertainment..I dont have a lot of friends in Sydney... and he asked me out so imlike...hmmm why not Wuahahaha...what makes u think I like him... I am telling you... I dont like him now... but i think hes nice and funny... He does not really turn me on... but he is ok looking hehe What u mean by get sex if u a girl?????/
i think he's meant don't have sex since you are a girl. or to be more accurate, don't rush in to have sex.
i think you like him cuz u r thinking bout him, that y u posted. well, everyone like sex, right? if it is gf/bf then there is at least some affection like kissin. (sex)...to clarify. my definition of sex could be just kissing. , etc I think there is an opportunity to get to know each other and MAYBE you would like him in that way. but I would not go too far if to see him everyday cuz you will bore him, and vice versa. once a week or even two weeks is enuff i think
I think you should talk to him about what type of relationship you two both think you guys are at. If you get what I'm saying? Make sure that it is clear he knows you don't want a relationship like that yet. I don't see anything wrong with hanging out with him if he understands though.. lol :] its quite fun to find a guy to flirt around with sometimes-- no feelings involved.. hahaha
why define things if it doesn't come up? it's like opening a can of worms. if both of you are having fun, then just go out and have fun.
