i've been through many relationships here but they all dont last very long, i think its because everytime i ask sum1 out its usually within the first 2 weeks of knowing them, therefore in a few months down the road i'd find myslef gettin bored of the relationship and things become different. Now i think i should become friends with someone first then asking them out but is this possible?! Is this the right thing to do or is dere someone to maintain a relationship regardless of how long you knoe them?! Is it possible for a gurl to become friends with someone and also consider them as potential bf?! because for me once a glurl has become my friend i treat them liek any other friend regardless of gender and will never see them as potential gfs.....
Maybe you should change your approach as you have said it yourself. Get to know them first then ask them out. And yes, it is possible to become friends first then potential bf/ gf.
half my relationships have come from friends that I have known for example, one of my bfs (the one i've had the longest relationship with) I had know for over a year before we even considered dating, but after we did, wow even more, after we broke up, and we both went through other relationships, we ended up getting back together
i'd say becoming friends first is better, cuz then u'll get to know that person and see if she is what u r looking for...if not u still can stay friends with her
think of it like pokemon. Charmander: 1-16 ( Meet the person get to know the person, thinking about going out with that person) Charmelemon: 16-36 ( going out with that person and learning more about that person *likes/dislikes*) Charizard: 36-100 ( thinking about that future and having a family) This also depends how hard you train.. are you in a deseparated need of a relationship or just messing around ?
Thanks for all the advice.... i'm not in desperate need of a relationship and i'm notmessing aroudn its jus that i see all peopel around me having liek 2-3 years already in there relationship and i'm the person who has liek a relationship for 2-3 months.. i guess i want somethin more serious but i dun knoe where to look.....
I used to have the same thoughts as you.... go out with someone after knowing them for a few weeks otherwise if left for too long they just become friends and nothing else because i wouldnt want to ruin the friendship i have with them. But I have noticed that after a few months I got bored of them or we dont get along as well as i thought we did... and so ended up breaking up... What i do now is be friends with them but more of a special friend where they get a bit more attention more than a normal friend and get to know them better first before jumping into going out with them. then decide from there where they should just remain as a friend or more
