Hey guys, so my story starts out by meeting this girl from one of my friends during school. At first sight I was attracted to her, but sadly I never had a girlfriend and because of that I am quite shy. I like other girls before too but it always ended up not working out, or I gave up, or the girl I guess was not what I initially thought her to be etc etc. So, I got her Facebook and it led me to getting her email. We chatted over MSN and had one or two small phone calls. Again, I really prefer to use MSN to talk because I feel more relaxed whenever there is no open contact, but i DO realize that talking on the phone shows that you are chill to talk with! So about a week and a half in, I muster up the courage to ask her out on a date over MSN... and she said YES! :biggthumpup: So being me I was pretty happy about it and a couple days later we watched a movie together. Along the way though maybe I lost the point of it and maybe misled her into thinking that we were only hanging out... whether that makes a difference, I dont know. During our date/hang out we talked and enjoyed the movie and I ended up not eating dinner with her because I had to go home-sweat so I took her to the bus stop and stayed with her till she left. I cannot drive yet! Such a bummer but I will be able to soon. Along the way to the bus stop I told her that I was interested in her and she said she would think about it. I had only known her for a week and maybe it was just too fast. At home when I asked her what she thought of me, she logged off for a good ten minutes and came back. She told me that I was a gentleman and very sweet and that she did not know what she wanted and that she probably would not be getting a boyfriend anytime soon. She ended it by saying that she hoped we could be still be good friends. Now, fast foreward a couple months and now we talk quite a bit now. I recently called her to hang out with some friends and she agreed and now she is coming to my birthday party. But truthfully, although I try to forget about her, I just can't because she is the only one I am interested in, even after these months. I wanted to know, if there are second chances and how could I go about doing so -huh. It sucks that I have no experience in this area...but I really think I like her all this time, what can I do!
you just got owned lol. "think about it" those three words are deguise to say "you don't interest me" haha. anyways, go get some experience because woman do not prefer shy guys, why? because they fail in experience and wisedom. I don't know where to start, in order to help you lol. learn to play the game, is that all i can say.
Explanation = You are too good for me explanation = Not interessed You should open yourself more http://www.dramasian.com/forum/showthread.php?t=49109 What people think about shy guys http://www.dramasian.com/forum/showthread.php?t=48079
yeap. unfortunately, good friends mean ur in the friendszone n shes not interested in having a romantic relationship with u :(.... i dont think that there is a chance... if yes, she mustve given u hints already.... it could be hard to forget someone at first but theres not much else u can do i guess.... unless u wanna get lost on a one way street n waste ur time id say... go n look for another chick... plenty of fish in the seaaa... gluck la
If she couldn't give you an answer right away, *ouch sorry it already means she doesn't feel the same way you feel. Then she logged off for 10 min, even worse, she has to think of a reason not to hurt you by saying those words. Even after several months, she's not gonna be pay love interest to you, sorry to inform, no chance. It really is ok to be shy & no experience whatever, there're many others out there & people keep producing babies, out of many possibilities you can find someone who actually understands you & wants to be with you.
LOL... I find it rather ironic that someone with a screen name of Demon's Blood, needs advice on dating. If you rather act like Canine Urine, then you're going to suffer eternal pain, humiliation, and spend half your future income on porn. :rolleyes2: So, make your move; Grab Her and Kiss Her. The only possible thing that can happen is: 1. she slaps you and tells you to get lost and you'll never see her again; or 2. she'll stick her tongue into your mouth too and you can trade spit and hopefully other body fluids like the rest of humanity. Either way, at least you'll get to stop agonizing over it and move on with life... headbang2 ***Sidebar*** No offense but, after a date you took her to a bus stop ? OMG, that is so lame... Even if you don't have a car, catch a taxi and you drop her off home... -roflyawn
^ dude -nono a guy who i rejected kisses me on my mouth... def wouldnt appreciate it...id be like wtffffffff FRIEND????? hahaha.... remember now my dear demon: rejection means: no, no means: NOOOOOO
rofl nooooob, as grandpaa ralph said, you should have phoned a taxi Hmm thats easy for girls to say, i remember saying NO and it did no good, she actually tried to get my cloths off, luckily my cousin was there to get her of me. if a dude did that (to a girl) he would be in prison :naughty:
tbh u never know, people might develop feelings and she rejected u after knowing her for a week which isn't a very long time. then again u should only go for her if she gives u hints that she is attracted to u though and be patient i guess. otherwise just stay friends, nothing wrong with being friends. however, u shouldn't spend all efforts on her as there are plenty more fish in the sea but if she does happen to develop feelings for u and ur single then there is a chance. u could also try ralphrapo's idea but do it when u have both been drinking and after she has drunk a bit too much then u could try it then. u never know there could be a spark after u kissed and besides she said she didn't want a bf at the mo, doesn't mean that she might not be up for a fling lol. then u could just get over it. though u rele shouldn't do that if u were a gentleman but that could be the reason why ur not with her, ur too much of a gentleman haha.
Thanks guys for your responses! Well, after much thinking I decided that probably just keep my eyes peeled, and move on. I'll just stay close to her and maybe in the future it could workout, but for now I think she only treats me as a good friend, nothing special, it seems like she is not always excited to talk to-unsure. Also, how can I get over my second thoughts? You can say that I always double think myself when I decided on certain things. Like when I phone her, sometimes I sit there staring at my phone, being almost...scared of phoning her. It is so hard to overcome this obstacle!
OMG totally understand how you feel........have the same problem too, even worse like i wanna write something on "someone"s FB but i have to think how should i start....redic>.< I would say, go for what your initial thought was, first instinct is always right (or at least 85% or 90% right), that's what you wanted to do the most. I second thought on basically many unnecessary things, in the end i still go for what i chose/thought initially.
definitely rofl...you probably cut contact with her.... you have made a good choice,she wasn't interested... i can't help you on your second thoughts because i always had this prob myself
you just got owned, u were a bit too fast in ur proposal she kinda likes u but u r not perfect in her opinion, she rather stay single waiting for a better one to come up so its better to only stay friends for now
just try it second time, never give up if you really like her. just only give up if she ignore you totally love is just a game, just like the other say learn how to play the love game. it look difficult, but how more you practices how better you are
about the second though, why second thing at all. nothing wrong with phoning a friend or message of fb, freaking you do those thing because you guys are friends, and that is what friends do. like many has said, she rejected you, there is plenty of people out there to meet. first get some more friends that is girl. that will start you off in a good start.
