My girlfriend she recently made friend with this guy (& this guy initially has an interest in my gf), she told him that she's involve with some1 & he said its fine he's not interested in her that way. But the thing is if i was that guy i wouldn't keep asking the girl who's currently involve with some1 to dinner and then take her for a drive around to the beach ect... Basically he ask her out at least twice a week to dinner. I find that this guy is not right becos he should understand that no guy or girl like it if their partner keeps going out with some1 who they just met. Also thing is if he is reasonable he should ask her to take me out. My gf she's the type that is absent minded, i know she isn't interested in this guy like that & i trust her but i still dont' feel comfortable. I told her i don't feel comfortable but she said i'm trying to be the controlling type of bf ect... Can any1 tell me if i'm doing wrong? Becos i'm just letting her know how i feel and i don't c that as a problem
well i know the feeling sux that ur GF is going out with someone else.. but do u spend enough time with her? and btw.. u cant forbid her to see friends..
She and I we spend heaps of time 2gether. I dont forbid her to meet up with her friends. Like i always try to make it so that we spend time with other friends. But i just don't feel comfortable what this guy is doing. But the thing that upsets me most is that if she knows i don't feel comfortable she should do someting like take me out with them to show that they r just friends. But she didn't even think of doing that until i told her how i felt then she said she'll take me out with them.
u know... females and males are both hard to understand.. sure u sometimes say about ur GF that u dont know whats up her mind.. well maybe its the same happening to u? u just need to be straight to the point sometimes in a relationship.. ur partner maybe wont understand all the "hints"
well, like u said, she's absent minded, so can't blame her for not thinking of it. i think u have every right to feel uncomfortable but there really isn't anything u can do. ur gf has the right to make friends with him. regardless of what his motive is, u just gotta trust her. the more u bug her about it, the more she's jsut gonna get annoyed which will just lead to more issues. bottom line: trust her. or u could go and beat the guy up. haha. (jj. he'll just go to ur gf and tell her what u did.)
next time when she goes out with that guy ask her if you could come along. if she asks you why, just say you want to meet him and be friends. I think it will work, you said she's absent minded, maybe she won't think much about it. better yet, if the guy picks her up go up to him and ask if you could tag along, i don't think he'll say no. If she won't let you come along there's something happening. Your are doing the right thing telling her you are uncomfortable, but don't keep reminding her about she will get annoyed.
Yeah you can't really do anything about it because if you try to approach the guy, things might get worst. She has a right to be with her friends and you just have to trust her like the others have said. But yes its very hard on your feelings though and its good that you have let her know.
get over the fact that u can't control wot that guy does or wants... he definately likes ur girl... n u might not want to believe it but ur girl enjoys the attention from him reguardless whether or not she's likes him back... only thing u can do is treat ur girl nice n hopefully she stays with u...
just go with em once... and show him that your her man . Im suer she wouldnt mind... and IF hes not interested in her "in that way" he wouldnt mind either...
lol.. stop putting brainless tots into his mind.. have a good talk with her perhaps. but be really tactful.. you wouldnt wanna give the impression that you are being narrow minded or sth..
It's good that you trust your girlfriend, but that guy is definitely trying to move in on her. He asks her out a lot, but does she go out with him all the time or just a few times? If they are going out a lot, then she should me considerate of your feelings, what if she was in your position.
its over he's taking over your space. Dinner and a walk on the beach.... i don't know if thats just consider being nice. Next is you bed ...
you can get the guys number and threaten him and let him piss in his pants... or you can try the nice guy method where u folow them on every outing and during the outing get lovey dovey with your gurl... that will piss the guy off
this guy is interested in your girl. going out for dinner or a meal is fine, i do it with my guy friends all the time. but going to the beach too? sound like a date to me. talk to your girl, she should know that he interested even if she aint, she shouldnt let it continue on and basically give the guy hope. if that dont work, than ya join them together in their activities, he feel uncomfortable and hopefully back off in the end.
try to ask if you can join in their activities.. if your gf not allow.. then the problem is with your gf there.. not on you
Thanks for every1s input. I did have a talk with my gf & i did say that if she was in my shoes how would she feel. She said that she wants to take me out when he ask her out so that i can c there is nuthing going on. She said that even when she was with him she talked about me a lot ect... The thing is my gf she is still very immature & clueless, you need some1 to tell her for her to realise. I think i should get use to that flaw of her.
