What to do if a friend of you killed himself without given any clear reasons. That is the current situation I am in. I have asked around after a week of shutting myself inside of a shower and try to think about why someone would end a live that is near perfect to others that sees him. Of course there were some issue that we all know of. Some arguments with his Girlfriend work that is not really what he wanted. But life was still good for a 25 year old with a master decree under his belt and for 4 years a Girlfriend which he loved. Is not that things were that terrible for him right? After asking around I know some of the reasons behind his death but I still needed to post this for my own sake..... Sorry.
There are a myriad of clinical reasons "why" people commit suicide, but your question sounds more like the trauma of survivor guilt; ie. "why is my friend gone and I'm still here?" I would suggest that you too, seek professional guidance during this terrible psychic turmoil. Your statement of "...a week of shutting myself inside of a shower," on the surface may sound benign, but from a mental health perspective, certainly is worrisome. My condolences for your friend and his unfortunate choice; I wish you well, and good luck. Some links and resources that you may find helpful: The Six Reasons People Attempt Suicide Teenage Suicide Reasons For Suicidal Behavior
Sorry to hear... like Ralph has stated, there are a plethora of reasons your dear friend chose such an abrupt solution. There could have been a whole side of him he has hidden from the public eye; masking feelings of depression, anxiety, trauma and many other possible detrimental emotions. It's sad to hear that it seems he did not try to reach out to someone as confiding in someone can deter a persons thoughts of suicide, just feeling truly appreciated goes a long way. My condolences for your friend and his family and friends.
@Ralphrepo The problem of me is not that severe is just is easier to think under a warm shower and normally i will stand there for 15 minutes but that whole week I stood there for like 45 minutes....
I see. Well, if that's the case, then sometimes, deep introspection may be healthy, so long as it doesn't lead to profound morose withdrawal from the real world. Grief can make people do strange things; what may seem odd and alien previously, to someone in profound grief, may suddenly appear not only right, but almost compelling. But, as you've obviously recognized that you have been taking an inordinate amount of time from your usual routine, that's a good sign that you're still in the real, here and now. Again, you have my deepest sympathies over the tragic loss of your friend.
Some people are sensitive. It happened to a man who lost his job after many years with the company and he killed himself and his family as well. Financial, peer pressure, family reputation, love, etc, etc. People need to be carefuly when they say something. Words are very powerful to some people. Be nice and kind to everyone. Yes, including jerks, a-hole, idiots, and the likes. Usually the second approach is better.
To be honest, I still think that suicide is not the good choice and is not the last resort that you should choose. Things can be very hard sometime and I understand that. However, killing yourself in order to avoid those problem is a weaker sorry i have to say that.
You said what I wanted to say... Sorry to hear that... I hope I don't offend, but To be honest, LOVE is as dangerous as it is great... I've seen people do crazy things for love, when they could have done crazy things for other important aspects of life.
I've done crazier stuff being in love...way more than I imagined!! but no matter how rough, the experience left me with a lot of scars and a painful heart, I never thought of killing myself. It takes alot of courage to take your own life. I'm pretty coward when it comes to that. My heart will heel and my crushed ego shall rise again..but what's important is that I am alive..and ready to show Mr. Perfect what I am to become. Even if he calls me a nutcase at this point...It's OK..I can take it anyways...my life is way more important than what others think of me. Besides..who among us is perfect anyways?! In the case of your friend, it was his choice. A person who has suicidal tendencies can be tough to deal with..there is no stopping them. Even if you had the chance to talk with him..I believe he would still do it. Sorry for what happened. I hope we all can learn from this..
I would go to a consellor , go to church, temple, or victim support to get some wisdom and advice. Visit not once but many times until you see the "light".
