I have recently noticed something that didn't phase me before. I noticed a lot of asian girls/ women are really rude to me cause I am an asian male. but it is really a certain batch. They are usually jobs working with whites. Here are some incidents: 1) When I when to the post office this I noticed this asian chick was at the counter and she was overly friendly to this white guy in front of me. For some reason I sensed that she was going to give me an attitude. Maybe it was the poster that gave me this stare that kinda looked pass me as if I was invisable. At that moment I determined I was going to be very polite to her but if she gave me any shit, I was going to reck her. So I walked up to her and said good morning very nicely like how the guy before me did and she ignored me. I then asked her nicely that I wanted to ship for next day and she gave me shit about not filling the paperwork before. I then told her that I came to ask her a simple question on the process, cause I want to get it right and that she had an attitude problem and we can talk to her manager about it if she wants. 2)Then I had 2 friends that are both asian guys that are having problems with their bosses which are asian females. They tell me that their bosses treat them like shit. 3)Another incident is that I was hiring for my company and this very intellegent asian girl came for an interview. I brought my assistant in for the interview and I noticed she having a hard time having eye contact with me but not with my assistant and was kinda ignoring my questions and then elabrating more on her answers to his questions. Maybe he was older and she thought he was the boss but I felt annoyed because the whole time she was trying to establish a connection with him till I excused him out of the office, then she looked kinda confussed. Maybe I live in the backwoods of massachusetts but does any other asian guys out there have this type of experience with asian women. And I know someone is going to say its cause of my ugly looks. I guess this is racism against your own kind.
yeh well i notice with asians they tend to be more polite to white people... especially the overseas type asians. especially if they are running some sort of business too. they sometimes think white people are all that etc. i get it too sometimes, asians sometimes treat white people better because they spend more money at their businesses. don't know if that has anything to do with what you mean though. i think that when an asian female is friendly to an asian male maybe it can send the wrong message out. but with whites it doesn't because they are not as conservative as asians.
Whether you're ugly or not, I certainly can't say (unless you're willing to post your picture for us to see). But frankly, I don't think that's at issue, because you stated that you seem to engender a certain negative attitude from Asian females (I'm taking for granted that this phenomenon only occurs with Asian females and does not occur with females of other races). I find that Asians who feel uncomfortable (or inferior) to whites (and or to others) will often take a very defensive and subservient attitude when dealing with them. However, since they don't have that same inferiority complex with members of their own race, they tend to revert back to their own nasty assed normal selves (that is, they don't feel the psychological need to be extra nice to you; "Heck, you're just another one of us, so I'm not afraid of you ..."). My suggestion would be to send up a few Asian females to test if they too, are being treated the in the same negative fashion as well. In larger cities, there's probably less chance of that happening as the Asian populations are generally larger, with a wide range and degrees of Americanization (that is, how much you sound like the white man versus how much you sound like the yellow man). The whiter you sound the better the treatment, and the more FOB you sound the worse off the treatment, regardless of who you're talking to.
You got some great points ralphrepo, I get the feeling that some asian women put up their defense right away because they feel that you will ask them out or something or convert them back to being a fob. Some really have some security or social skill problems. They have to prove a point that they are somehow better. Well to tell you the truth, I think it is great that they got where they are if they are doing well. I remembered a few times we hungout with a few buddies of mine and they bring their girlfriends over and a few times they were Asian girls, I can hold a conversation with their non-asian girls even non American girls but when I start to take with a buddies asian girlfriend to be friendly this is how the conversation goes: me: Hey My name is Bill non asian girl: Hi I'm April asian girl: Linda me: I'm know Steve since our freshman year and boy did we have a great time in college. non asian girl: What do you guys does do in the middle of nowhere? asian girl: Oh, I meet him online. me to non asian girl: once we tried to go cow tipping but we found out cows don't stand when they sleep. total myth. then Steve stepped on some cow shit and made the carpet in my car smell for a week. non asian girl: Steve never told me about that before. me to non asian girl: that is only the tip of the iceburg by the way where are you from? non asian girl: Pennsulania, I'm half german and lrish and little cherokee. me to non asian girl: my boy sure knows how to pick em that sound like a great mix. Let me get you something to drink. non asian girl to me: i'll take something light. Me to non asian girl: tell me how you got that mix. conversation then goes on and we are still friends even after they broke up. me to asian girl: what's the site just in case I get devorced. asian girl: yahoo, Steve's a great guy we have a lot in common. me to asian girl: like what? asian girl to me: I'm not you typical asian girl I only date white guys - she is trying to find steve and looks over me. Me to asian girl: Your right you guys do have a lot in common. I tried to ask steve out in college and he told me," sorry bro I only date white guys." Asian girl then laughs and losens up we enjoy the party and became friends. But I get I'm not you typical asian girl or/and I only date white guys and they have to prove that they get along well even if they have been on one or two dates. And one of my favorite respones is when you ask them about their back ground, they like to say American or chinese but they are American. Non asian girls can have a conversation with you outside of their relationship and not have a point to prove. I am only saying some asian girls do this not all especially not you, Aoes, JK
errr what? i think there was a bit lost in translation there... newayz... honestly, i've yet to meet an "i only date white guys" girl... i know of an asian guy who dated white girls only for a while, but that's cuz he was a stuck up army prat... but now he's more "open"... but yeah, i've always had good and easy convo's with the asian females...
na man, this is true. Asians r much more nice wit whites than they r to their own kind....that's y i got a grudge against my own kind. IS there a reason for this? I really dont find them to be "all that". instead, i find asians to be "all that". that's y i'm more polite when dealing wit asians.
Funny thing is that when these girls get to know me and sometimes girls from other races they tell me that I am not a typical asian guy. I'm like thinking to myself is this translating to, "You are better than the tipical asian guy because all they can relate to is to the people that work in resturant or the asians that are trying to make something of themselves in college." I often just say, "right, its the rice cooker I use at home that makes the difference by the way you know I can cook pretty good I use to work at a chinese restaurant for 8 years." Wife comes over and says to the girl," Is Billy taking about his rice cooker again, FOBs."
