Marriage can be such a routine sometimes. Especially after having a child. I feel bound and there is nothing much I can do, especially with no family around. How do you spice it up?
Lol...just like the old saying marriage is the love killer. However, I have to oppose to that fact. Come on honey, before committing urself into a marriage I am sure you gave all this a good thought and you can't have everything, marriage and saucy life. What do you mean by spicing it up as in sex life or just marriage life? If sex life, just go buy the book called Karmasutra hahahha or role playing i gues... For marriage life, spend some nice time with him like get a nanny for a single night and go out and have a fun time with your partner. Thats what most married couple I know do. They have a him and her day at least once a week. So, try that out and good luck with it -^_^
OMG... that's wot i was afraid of... there're 2 critical points when a relationship is most fragile... a) marriage b) first child both parties may feel the relationship is very routined n empty... n u dun feel the passion there anymore... n lots of married couples only make love like once a month... n that's very normal... n u must understand... that's not just ur marriage... that's ANY marriage... n u really need to have a strong mind telling urself that u love ur husband and ur children unconditionally... all u wanna do is give them all of u... i'm not married... nor do i have kids... but i do understand wot it's like... n ur not alone out there... try to catch up with ur GIRL friends as often as u can... it's better when u have friends to support u since ur family is not around... but make sure they r not guy fds!!!
married life can totally be a routine sometimes but like pinkapples said, find a friend that you can trust with your child and go out on a date. if that is not possible then -you can stay home and cook a really nice out of norm type of meal -take the child with you and go out to a "fun" restaurant" for dinner and then go for a drive or something -go away for the weekend if it's in the budget and of course you take your child -you and your husband take turns to come up with a theme night for your dinner and that person of course does have to cook. you should also try and dress up according to the theme i know that things seem like a drag because it is such a routine now but it'll get better as your child gets older.
it sounds more serious than that... a lot of married ppl just feels like there's no romance there... n believe it or not... some ppl mite walk out of that church loving each other to death... but a yr after marriage they can't even stand the sight of each other... that's really sad... but luckily cadeline doesn't sound as bad... but wot ever u do... don't go talking to ur ex... or write abt him in ur diary or even think abt him... ur ex will only stuff up ur emotions even more
haha... yeah... part of the reason... n i dun c wot the point is since i'm not planning to have kids... to me marriage isn't abt finding someone u love n spend the rest of ur life with that person n construct a happy family for ur kids... to me it's more abt finding someone u can put up with living in the same house n someone who can put up with u... so eventually... it becomes like wot the OP said it's all a routine... so y bother find someone to put up with while i'm perfectly happy by myself -whistle
have another kid.. that will spice things up quick.. hahahah.. you're probably jus bored with your kid.. time for a new one...
Hahahaha true true, I think couples should sort themselves out first before planning for more kids, don drag more innocent individuals down....Dawn, ur opinion on marriage sounds like you havent met the right person yet, believe me or not when you find that one person you would be dying to get tied down hahahaha-blush2
hahaha... perhaps not yet... i don't believe in true love... but i'd love b proven wrong... -lol so u've found the right person n u've tied the knot already with miniatures of u n ur hubby running around the house??
Hahahaha unfortunately no....I don't believe in true love anymore as well but mine is more to trust...so, thats ma road block and I am still living in denial that its not time yet. But, thats to keep me sane hahahhah-tongue2
The married life has all the good and not good aspects.It becomes a boring routine having sex with the same girl or guy all the entire life . But any how It looks that the married couple enjoy life more than unmarried couple.
actually ... studies show that married men enjoys life better than single men... where as married women r more depressed than single or divorced women...
Hahaha you got me wrong, I meant that I have problem trusting guys thats why I tend to shy away from relationships....or better off, havent had one before....I have a major problem of trusting most guys probli i should get prefessional help hahahah
