Hong Kong singer Mag Lam‘s (林欣彤) life has been full of turbulence. Suffering from depression and anorexia earlier, the 24-year-old revealed that she was also physically abused by her long-time boyfriend, Ben. When Mag first met Ben in high school, she was attracted to his quiet exterior. The couple had an on-again, off-again relationship after Mag entered the entertainment industry. When they reconciled last year, Ben’s personality took a 180-degree turn. Becoming suspicious and paranoid that Mag would cheat on him, Ben began monitoring Mag’s daily activity and whereabouts. When Mag began noticing Ben’s strange behavior, she ultimately ended the relationship for good. Ben Claims Mag Cheated After their breakup, Ben fired angry posts on Facebook, listing Mag’s alleged faults. Ben claimed that Mag was frequently emotionally unstable, had cheated on him and remained unrepentant. Ben posted, “When you cheated the first time, I thought I wasn’t being good enough to you. The second time, I also blamed myself for not knowing how to handle the problem. This is the third time and you still get angry that I check your phone. When you were sick, I took days off to come see you. I even quit my job to take care of you.” Continuing to unleash his anger on Facebook, Ben wrote, “When I scolded you for cheating, you had the audacity to tell me that having the freedom to love is not wrong. I thought [being cheated on] was an embarrassing thing. You wronged me three times – I’ve done what I could for you already!” Repeated Abuse Ben reportedly began hitting Mag last March. Since the couple has been together for years, Mag did not want to call the police. Staying silent in hopes of saving their relationship, Mag even planned a trip with Ben. Unfortunately, Ben was unable to control his temper and hit Mag once more. While Mag tried to keep the secret to herself, many noticed Mag’s constant habit of wearing sunglasses this past October. As it turns out, Mag’s eye was severely bruised and she used the sunglasses to cover the injury. Mag expressed, “We’ve been together for so long that I didn’t want to let go. I tried so many methods – when he needed my help, I would do my best. I tried changing myself and we even planned a trip together in hopes of renewing our relationship and resolve the hate. But it’s still the same – an unhappy ending resulted and then there was some physical pushing and shoving involved. I can’t suffer like this anymore. I’ve tried my best. I feel hurtful that he would badmouth me – it’s scary. I never thought the opposite of love could be this extreme hate.” Artistes’ Responses Mag’s ex-boyfriend Sheldon Lo (羅孝勇) trusts her character and believes she would not cheat in a relationship. Since Sheldon currently has a girlfriend, he also shot down speculations that he had come between Mag and Ben’s relationship. No matter what had occurred, Sheldon berated Ben for hitting a woman. Fiona Sit (薛凱琪) commented, “Men and women are equal. Men shouldn’t hit women, and women shouldn’t hit men. If you love someone, you should treat each other well.” Creds: ihktv
