Meeting and knowing the one

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by negiqboyz, Feb 16, 2010.

  1. negiqboyz

    negiqboyz Well-Known Member

    I had an interesting chat w/ one of my cousin over the LNY holiday. He asked me whether I had "naughty" thought when I first met my wife. He felt that for any relationship to start and last, the "sexual attraction" component has to be there.

    Funny but when I looked back on how I first met my wife, I don't recall any sexual attraction towards her. We just chatted and felt comfortable talking about anything with one another; moved on closer after she was introduced to my family, and the next thing .. ding ding ding... so yeah .. it's romantic and all but nothing sexual. I think that's what let me to the post about sex earlier on .. lol

    Anyway, do ya'll think of "sexual attraction" first when you meet a gal??

    I admit what I had with my wife was more of a mental and emotional connection, physical was secondary which was weird .. lol Regardless though .. I am content with my relationship and life. So I guess, everyone's different ...
     
  2. ralphrepo

    ralphrepo Well-Known Member

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    Damn... I have naughty thoughts about missus Ralph even after 20 years, LOL... :laugh:
     
  3. kontradictions

    kontradictions Well-Known Member

    Okay. That comment can be either really funny or really gross depending on how old you two are. :ugh2:
     
  4. ralphrepo

    ralphrepo Well-Known Member

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    One is never too old; you'll eventually see, LOL...
     
  5. Flames

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    ^ I don't get it =S
     
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  7. bbgirlsum

    bbgirlsum Well-Known Member

    Everyone is different I guess... Some of my ex's I never had any sexual attractions to them to begin with and ended up having one. Some others and my BF I had a sexual attraction to. I think it genuinely depends what your mood is, whether you are out on a pull or genuinely was just meeting someone as a friend to begin with etc

    Ooohh Rowdy Ralphy! -woot2
     
  8. negiqboyz

    negiqboyz Well-Known Member

    wow .. how many sexual partners do you have .. gee ..

    i disagree w/ you about the mood thing though.
     

  9. behbeh you make it sound like you been round the block quite a few times..


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    physical attraction is not always necessary, physical attraction may decide whether you bother talking with the person but thats it. there have been times when ive found a girl to not be to my liking but after getting to know her for who she is she starts to look nice too.
     
  10. bbgirlsum

    bbgirlsum Well-Known Member

    Sexual attraction and physical attraction are two different things. Hence the fetishes that are known, coz some people maybe the ugliest in the world for some, it may be the very arousing for some people to see certain features of someone.

    And no I haven't been around the block and I have said "exes" and genuinely fancied them for who they were not just because they had the looks or whatever. Although most were not hot lookers, shows that I ain't shallow. lawl

    Everyone is different to how they discover their partners, some people do genuinely get to know them and some people do just sleep with each other first then decided whether they want to get to know them more. That is how I categorised my friends coz that's how I see them get their BFs/GFs. Yes my friends and I are very open with what we talk about hence I know..
     

  11. i didnt know that
     
  12. bbgirlsum

    bbgirlsum Well-Known Member

    Let's just say you have met the ideal girl that you have always dreamt of, like perfect body, features, style and personality and you are "physically" attracted to her. But yo two get together but for some reason you don't want to have sex because something in the back of your mind doesn't want to. (Lack of sexual attraction)
     
  13. ^ maybe its a girl thing, makes no sense to me -shrug
     
  14. bbgirlsum

    bbgirlsum Well-Known Member

    Because boys only think with their penis -smart
     
  15. bbgirlsum

    bbgirlsum Well-Known Member

    well I don't see a normal girl with a penis? Do you? :shifty:
     
  16. ^ wat!!!! anyway, im gona watch 'only fools and horses', it back to back atm.
     
  17. negiqboyz

    negiqboyz Well-Known Member

    Ya'll should just get a room .. lol .. perhaps bbg can you master the difference she was talking about .. lol
     
  18. bbgirlsum

    bbgirlsum Well-Known Member

    Proves me wrong, not all boys thinks with the penises..
    Seems like negi understands what I'm talking about -clapclap