Me and my GF have been goign out for about 4 years. We have little fights occasionally, but last summer, i did something that hurt our relationship. I kinda liked this girl, and we hung out alone and stuff. I confessed it to her after, and she forgave me. However, 3 months ago, i think she got fed up with the fights and she met this guy on myspace and started to like him. She went to the mainland to meet her close friend, and also decided to meet up with this guy too in the same city. Well, technically we were broken up when she went there (because she was hiding something and wanted a break). 3 months later, i foudn out that they got drunk and slept together....... she lied to me the whole time. i literally asked her every single day. I love her so much but i dotn know what to do...
^ aw man that sucks -hug it really depends on how much you love this girl, do you think you can forgive her? does she still love you to give your relationship another go or does she want to break up with you and go with this new guy?
well she lied to you and she slept with another guy... break up time! ur not married u dont have babies and u dont share bank accounts? good to go ^_^
she is really regretful.. she does things that she would never do before for me... im really flattered.. but honeslty.. it will never be the same again. i stil love her so much.. but i can never forget this.. i know she is not the type to sleep aroudn with guys ..... but i think it was for revenge for what i did? even though it was over the line... :(
^ yeh but you gotta give her points for being honest about it as well, this really tests how much you love her if you can forgive her for it
i dont think that this was a revenge... if it was a revenge, she also hurt herselt by sleeping with another guy... well its your relationship... but if i were u, i would break up because i cant love someone, who slept with another guy
well difficult to say as everone has their own point of view...but i would say..whatever happend, happend....just let it go...able to love someone is also able to let go someone ok easier said than done...but is it worth it? can u two forgive each other and live on?
Guess admitting it is a plus but it doesn't take away what she did.... Even if you can forgive her, will you be able to forget it?
"She went to the mainland to meet her close friend, and also decided to meet up with this guy too in the same city." she probably used that as an excuse just to meet up with him anyways its really in ur heart to choose
she did it once` what makes u think she won't do it again``? but 4 years is a pretty long time so u guys must have had some kind of strong connection to last that long..buh..are u willin to let that go? i dont think so...so just forgive but don't forget`, if she does it again..then yeah man...ditch her then``` love` mon
everyone makes mistake, so did you. some might argue that the mistake you made weren't as bad as hers, but i don't see much difference, both were cheating, weren't they? despite what has happened, does she still love you much... as much as she wants to grow old with you and stop keeping in touch with that dude? if she does, i say give the relationship another chance. and whether or not you're gonna give you guys another chance, i think you should forgive her. living by not forgiving someone you love so much is just gonna make your life difficult and miserable. from your words, i think you actually have forgiven her, you just have a wound that isn't healing because you can't keep that out of your mind. just do what you really want to do instead of doing what you or other ppl think you should do so you won't have any regret. good luck dude.
im sorry for your situation. this is quite similar to the tread "is drunk an excuse to cheat?" 4 years, thats a long time. but even after that length of time, and a trust bond cannot be made between you and her (the fact that she lied for 3 months) theres something going on. regarding the revenge plot, in psychology, when a person is devastated, they will tend to try and connect that situation to something they did in the past, to blame it on themselves. but sometimes, its not quite true. maybe it has nothing to do with what you did. and also, what she did cannot be of revenge to you, because she slept with the guy, you did not sleep with the other girl you met. you see how its unbalanced? now breaking up is your call. altho you still love her, would you like a gf who lies for 3 months? its your call to interpret if "being drunk is an excuse to cheat". maybe, the hardest thing to do is to let go. just sit down and think about what you want in a girl, and if she doesnt fit what you want, its your decision to leave. the answer will come to you when you sit down, relax like meditation, and just think.
I agree with that. I'd personally forgive her, you have been going out for 4 years and the small fights are normal so you shouldn't keep those in mind.
yea they're not married.. but 4 years.. I dunno.. First off.. it seems to me that you put too much ddamn pressure on the girl.. I mean come on.. if she felt guilt already.. confronting every time isn't going to make it easier on her... Seems too me she's the only one doing any kind of forgiving around here... Bottom line.. you screwed up first.. she didn't know what to do. You're the one who hurt her and she finally decides to take a break from it all and probably made the mistake of getting drunk and having sex. So what you probably need to do now is talk about it and see what both of you want to do and see if you guys can look past this whole situation. Because if you 'forgive' her but still thinks about or bring it up, then it's not gonna work out.
I wondered how you responded so fast.. no actually I did those manually.. forgot to use the new feat.
