My girlfriend just told me that she had oral sex with another older guy. One of her ex boyfriends and there still friends. This has happen twice. She tells me that she was tricked into doing it. IM so mad and I've been crying my eyes out like hell. I punched the wall till there was a big hole and my hand is dripping blood. I...Im upset but I love her but I can't believe she did it. what should I do?
just take a moment to assess the situation before you do anything irrational. think about it, at least she was honest about it and told you! she didnt have to, and could have gone with the idea that 'what you dont know wont hurt you'. Moreover, you need to talk to her about it. there could have been many factors contributing to why it happened; you need to hear and understand her side of the story. let us know how it goes ok? take care.
She told me how it happen. Where the first time was at the mall and she did it cause she was tricked him. As she said to me, "I was tricked, subdused." The second time was basicly a freaking sex sence from a stupid movie. WHere they were going to watch a movie but the dvd player was gone and and they watched tv and the snuggled and the got on the floor and did IT! She told me that she felt guilty and she wouldn't ever do it again.....like she said the last TIME. She did cry about it. but I feel its as if she doesn't love me. But she told me she loves me. She told her friends before me. We had....HAD a honest relationship. I believe were still together, this just happen a few hours ago that she told me this....
if she rreally feel guilty, forgive her then.. but remember this is already the second time, so she can do it again and again.. but if you believe her and you believe that she feels guilty, forgive her then!! or else.. dump her take care
ahhh dammit Tao_LUNG!!! did I not warn you about the girl or what!!!! Damn I had a hunch... Ever since the beginning when you first told me about your fight with your girl... I told you to watch out for her!!! I hate to say it... but I told you... damn I told ya she could be cheating. Well finally happend... she did cheated huh... that is a super bummer... I seriously think you need to move on... that girl seems like bad news... First she made you feel like a total ass and had the nerve to cheat on you!? She is not sorry but at least she feels a bit of guilt and was able to tell you... I mean damn Twice!! it was Twice... so how could it be an accident!? You know that saying.... Fool me once shame on you... fool me twice...shame on me!? Anyways... she had no business seeing her ex... wtf friends!? Friends don't do that kinda stuff with other "Friends." I mean dude knew she had a boyfriend... she knew she had a boyfriend... and yet she still did that to you... Seriously... Leave her... and you were thinking about marrying this girl!? Move on dude... I mean if she was drunk thas one thing... but she was freakin' aware of what she was doing not once but TWICE!!! Obviously she didn't care about the consequence cuz she probably thought you would just forgive her... Like I said before you are too soft man... I mean even during that fight you guys had... she totally took advantage of you, cuz you didn't do anything wrong... yet she made you feel like the bad guy... which is why she probably thought she would easily get away with what she did.... Now it's time for you to move on... or atleast take some time off of the relationship... cuz you really need it. And if she cares she'll wait for you... and also you can test her to see if she'll screw up again.... so yea... damn man.. I feel for ya.. hit me up if ya need anything... take care... -Ecko
Can someone kindly explain to me how this would be an accident? Because it sure as hell doesn't sound "accidental" to me. She wasn't drunk, she wasn't even drugged, so how can it be considered "forced"? And WTH was she doing snuggling on the floor with him in the first place???! You haven't provided us with very much info, but from what I can tell, he's A LOT more than just "an ex". Don't you see what you're doing here? You know fully well it wasn't a mistake.. but you refuse to aknowledge it because you're too deep into the relationship and you don't want to let it go. Let me be frank... Stop clinging onto something that's no longer yours! You have no future with this girl.
pretty much sum'd up what I said.. goodjob girl.. want a cookie?? -bigsmile But for reals time for you to step up and just leave her sorry ass... and take that aggression elsewhere... or maybe that be a bad idea. Alls I'm saying is leave her or the next time something like this happens you gonna prolly end up getting yourself in trouble for having to choke a bitch.... Blow the Whistle... -whistle
-shock Is it a sugar cookie??!! Yeah, I think deep down, he knows what he needs to do. He's just too weak emotionally to want to admit it. It's time he faces reality. If there's a second time, there will be a third, a fourth, and a fifth time. Break up with her and seek elsewhere. Life sucks, but you have to learn to move on.
What she said... Dump the GF and find a better girl. I have no idea how she could be "tricked" into oral sex... did she think it was a banana?
aww that humor was a bit sick n twisted... At times like these I think AVANT should sing us a love song... -whistle
Basically what Peachey, Avant and Ecko said, Dump the Bitch!!!! Sometimes you have to look at a relationship as running a business. If you were the boss, would you ever hire someone who has a history of lying, cheating and other inappropriate behaviors. Now if you had an employee would you keep that person around if he or she has broken one of the company's most sacred rules and policies?? The answer should be no. That person should be fired. Same goes with a relationship. If that person you are with cant be trusted or has violated certain ethical agreements than that person should be out of your life. There is no filing for an appeal because past behavior is a good predictor for future behavior. That holds true in your case because she did it twice to you. You also have to understand that your girl flat out lied to you about what she did. she wasnt tricked or suduced. She walked right into knowing that it was going to happen. She let it happen and did nothing to stop it. Was the guy holding a gun to her head and made her suck him off??? She had a choice and she wanted to do it. She told you because she felt guilty. She felt bad about cheating on you, but she has no regrets about having sex with her ex while she was still with you. What does this say about her?? Your girl has no integrity and she doesnt love you. Ask yourself, would a girl in love with you ever put you through this, not once but twice?? A girl in love with tell her ex that she already has a boy friend whom she loves and respect and will never cheat on him. See the key word there is "respect". She does not respect you. Only a girl unsure about her feelings for a guy will do this. Another thing is that if your girl was in love with you, she would of never put herself in this situation by being around her ex. A girl in love will say this to her ex, "I already moved on and found someone. We could still be friends, but should avoid hanging out with each other because I love my man and I dont want him to have the wrong idea." So to summarize things, get out of this relationship now. Lingering on will only cause more confusion. Keep in mind that past behavior is a good predictor for future behavior.
Yeh I think you should move on, first time you forgave her but she done it a second time, thats really unforgivable...
If it happened once, then perhaps you can believe that she was tricked into it. Even so, how do you get tricked into having oral sex? She has to come up with a better excuse than that. In any event, it happened twice, so it's absolutely unforgivable. She is obviously not taking you seriously... if she did, she wouldn't be consciously snuggling up on her ex boyfriend and doing this kind of crap. Stop making up excuses for this poor excuse for a gf. Who cares if she cried? Think about all the tears you're shedding for this girl. She's just trying to make herself look like the victim at this point when she knew full well what she's doing. I say that the reason why you won't let it go is that you fear being alone, which is a big reason why a lot of people stay in relationships. Trust me, it's not worth it. Please, do yourself a favor and dump her like yesterday's garbage. Trust is a big issue for me in relationships, and if somebody takes for granted the trust I have in them, then I have to kick them to the curb. Trust takes a long time to build up, and for her to have betrayed that not once but twice, I say this girl is not worthwhile for you to even work anything out with. You'll never trust her the way you used to, no matter how much you force yourself, because it's not in your nature. Once trust is betrayed, it can never be regained.
I agree with all the other posters, you should definitely break up with your girlfriend. When I get into a relationship, I cannot condone my boyfriend to cheat on me, and I'll definitely respect the relationship and my boyfriend by being faithful. Seriously I would have broken up the relationship the first time if it was me. Get your hand looked over. And I hoped that you'll get over this ditch in the road soon.
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