So i have known this girl through a friend and she plays this game online also. We both didn't realize it at first but we went to the same schools and University, but we didn't really know each other until that friend that introduced us. She recently broke up with her bf that was like a 10+ year relationship. I have really gotten to known her for about 2 months. I really like her personality and other things like that but the problem is i think its too soon to tell her anything. Recent Activities i been doing with her over the course of 2 months: 1st meeting: just went out for some sweets 2nd meeting: dinner and movie 3rd meeting: had dinner with her on her bday (only the two of us) Story of what i did: After dinner told her to wait at her car and pretty much showed up with a present and while she was opening it. I lit a candle that i placed on a cupcake and sang her happy bday. 4th meeting:Went out with her again to have cake and lunch 5th meeting: was cancelled by her Story of what happened: As i said she plays an online game, and i have been playing this game for a while already before i even known her. I was lvling my character along with her friends and her also. But suddenly i get a text message form her on my phone saying that she is not in the mood to go see the movie anymore. Everything went back to normal in 2 days. Then this past 4 day weekend: We hung out at the anime convention after i got off of work and stuff like that and of course i purcahsed all the stuff that she wanted for her. Tonight: We are heading to a concert just me and her because her friend cancelled out on her. Oh we talk everynight on AIM! Question are: What do you guys think about the current situation i am in? How long do you guys think i should wait until i ask her to be my girlfriend? From all the activites do you guys think she likes me or she thinks me as a really really great friend? Thank you all for all of the opinions and comments ahead of time. I do really appreciate the help from anyone and everyone who voices their opinions.
did you even tell her you like her? if not, i feel like the things youve been doing are just hang outs, even tho its been just the two of you. maybe she gets the idea, idk. need to talk
Confess now before you regret waiting out too long & lose your opportunity! But if you want to really give her more signals before you confess.. go for it.
From a female's point of view, I think she needs sometime to think about it too esp. when she has just come out of a 10 years relationship. 10 years is very long, she seems a faithful person and not like those who are just fooling around. Give her some breathing space, don't push it too much. Just let her know that you are always there for her. Yeah agree, more signals needed.
Fuck it. Don't beat around the bush. Ask her now. What's the worse that can happen? -She says no, fine make friends with her and move on. -She says not ready yet, man up to it, give her some free space and be there for her. -She says yes.
Her friend didn't cancel dude, she just wanted a one on one. Ok in any case a wise friend one told me, "hit the metal while its hot" A lot of people look back and regret or are disappointed for not doing something. Just try it, if not, oh wells still friends. I don't post often, but when I do, I'm serious.
I already asked her the night of the concert.... I am just giving some space for her to think thats all and while i wait for the answer! Thanks for all the input guys! I appreciate it!
"Oh we talk everynight on AIM!" this is BAD BAD!! do not talk to girl everything in AIM!! you could just tell her some joke, interest thing happen on today. KEEP IT SHort too "Then this past 4 day weekend: We hung out at the anime convention after i got off of work and stuff like that and of course i purcahsed all the stuff that she wanted for her. " Been nice is good but been too nice you are just another MR. Nice man. Which you won't get her. She just think you are a credit card and you buy wahtever she want. Keep that in mind. Remember you are not her Boyfriend yet. Okay how is everything now? any response from the girl? If she saying let me friend first or some BS answer. Then you should just move forward and dont waste too much time on her. Especially spend $ on her.
She actually is still trying to make her decision and its still undecided as of last night (we had a face to face chat). I can understand that because she has a issue of trusting guys. But i know the answer seems pretty clear its a yes its just that she needs to get over this one main issue. Also, Each time i pay for stuff she insists on paying me back, she even tried to treat me out once but failed because i got the cashier first lol. So from my judgement she is no gold digger. She is a very sweet girl =)
lol 'strike while the iron is hot'? anyways.. great story op. thanks for keeping us posted rather than leave on first post.. lol. and congrats.
Nice, see how just getting to the point makes things so much easier...... hope things are going well!
