Hi all, I got engaged with my gf last month and just yesterday, the following has happened: When we woke up at her house, i said to her i wanted sex and she said no. Then i'm like ok, and I asked her what she wanted to do today and she said I don't know. So ok, I told her I am going home, since she don't knows. Then outta nowhere, she says she wants time off from the relationship (3 weeks). What is this supposed to mean? I asked her why she needed the time off and she said she is stressed with the kids (she's a 3rd grade teacher). This is true because I have overheard her crying to her sister about it at around 4am in the morning while I was sleeping. She also admits that after 3 weeks, we will be going to Las Vegas as planned. I know I will feel very awkward not seeing or talking to her for 3 weeks and just suddenly go to Vegas. Please, I need some advice, what is going on? Should I just move on? Additional Info: We have been going out for 3+ years and got engaged last month and I brought her a $6200 dollar ring and we have plans and tickets to go to Las Vegas during Christmas for a small trip. I am extremely upset because now I don't know if she really wants to be with me and we are going to get married. WTF? Time off when you're engaged?? WTF??
maybe the break suggests she needs tiem to think about the marriage and if she really wants it first...talk to her over about it and confirm its stress.
OMFG. U scared her when u said u wanted to s-censored at her place. Git the ring back quick cause it cost $$$$-rolleyes
maybe she's just scared of the commitment to married and having cold feet, so just need some time to think it out ?
Take a break from relationship once in a while is alright. But after that go vacation I don't think such a good idea. Who know what going to happen in 3 weeks. In real life things can happen in 1 second. I suggest you guys sit down and really talk taking a break for 3 weeks is too long try shorter it might be better. Anyway wish you luck.
maybe u'll get married in vegas since chapels r everywhere and then u both can have a "memorable" night
lol dont buy the wedding ring yet.. jk.. um.. iono i think the best is to just go grab a drink at starbucks and have a nice little talk.. just before you guys do have the actual break.. relationships are about communication.. see if theres anything at all you can do to help besides.. giving her time alone.. PS.. dont ask for the ring back.. YET.. LOL.. xD
No personal experience in that department, but here's my best guess. Wedding Bug jitters, the reality of "i'm really getting married!" hits. Back off and give her room to breath. Purposely let her know that you're being respectful to her by giving her time to sort things out, but that you'll be available if she feels she needs someone to talk to. No pressure. Remind her of what an awesome guy you are by bringing up old happy memories via small gifts/trips/etc once a week or two weeks while doing your own thing in the mean time. Use this time to get old projects you've been meaning to do out of the way, hang out with old buddies, etc. Just keep yourself productive and fun. My guess is that she'll run back to you and be thrilled to be married to such an awesome bloak
you should give her time. doesnt matter how long you've been together or how expensive your diamond ring is. before she makes a lifetime commitment she might need to make sure what she's doing is right. don't give up on the relationship, if she comes back to you, she's a keeper
I say get rid of her. She wants to go beg her to come back. She will do it every time as a weapon if this works... don't fall for it. Make her come back herself to see what she is missing. Then tell her "About time, come to suga daddy' B. haha
This is what i say... don't listen to the idoits above. Just read the situation and go with the flow, no one here knows your fiance better than you do.
1) He came asking us at PA because he hasn't come to a clear answer. Vicious cycle isn't it? 2) A third person perspective can often yeild very valuable information. Just because they don't know the people as well, it does not mean their advice is invalid. Lastly 3) "Going with the flow" can suck ass. Many people have an incorrect set of instincts to "go with the flow". There's a reason why our elders (who have more experience) always tell us to think before you act. So unless you're perfect and can prove it, don't always "go with the flow" on life changing decisions. 4) Who exactly are you callin "idiots"??
