Hi, I asked a girl out like two weeks ago. I realized now that she went through about a good 3 year serious relationship. It has been about a year after they broke up. Last quarter her ex asked her out again but since it was long distance it never happened. I can kinda tell that she hasn't given up on her ex yet due to some of the stuff she still keeps. We've known each other for a good 3 years and I was able to jump out of friend zone for her to say yes when I asked her out. The reason why I feel like Im still in the rebound is that she hesitates when she leans on me. Only leans temporarily almost every time. I kind of feel that the relationship isn't progressing as if she's holding back. What should I do to get out of this rebound situation? Advance? hold back? Im also concerned that if I pull back from the situation, I might slowly become in the friend zone.
Advice is hard to give in this situation. Honestly, just because a girl goes out with you doesn't mean ya'll are "together". My advice, don't get stuck to her. Go after more than one girl. This alone will give you more confidence as well as other benefits. You don't have to cheat or do anything immoral just keep your options open. This will keep you from being attached and etc. I was told, once you're in "the friendzone" it's very hard to get out of. You may be still there.
Difficult one to call, you could just be imagining things, but also she could well still have feelings for her ex.. Either way, you need to be a little more confident, her Ex, is an Ex for a reason!!!
She may still need time to get over her ex, even if it takes a while. Give her the time if you think she still feels hesitant when she's with you, and don't push her into a relationship with you until you feel she's ready. If she's interested in you, she will naturally try to pursue you when she feels the time is right. At the same time, continue to show her you're interested, and if she reciprocates her feelings toward you, you won't be friend zoned.
You are complaining about being a rebound guy? Thats like the best relationship ... do her when she wants it. Leave it when she goes back to her ex.
If you really like her I reckon you should keep at it with her.. It doesnt sound like you guys are serious yet if she is still hung up on her ex, theres nothing you can do to make her see otherwise except mayb see other people aswel? not saying you should be a player time but they say you dont know how much you like something until its not dere... or less available. haha.
