Need some suggestions

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by uryu, Sep 1, 2008.

  1. uryu

    uryu Well-Known Member

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    okay, I didn't think I'd ever post in this section, but I'm no good in this area, and some "suggestions" would be appreciated :).

    So I've never really had any experience or anything aside for when I was in grade school (haha..) cause I went to a single gender school after and never got any exposure to develop any extremely good social skills (haha aside for like one or two times, but I've improved quite a bit after highschool).

    But anyways, usually the girls I meet I'm pretty cool with as in getting to know, because they're generally older and/or I have friends introduce and we just chill or whatnot(I hang out with older crowds usually) but this one girl, I met in one of my college classes. She's cool, and we talk like usually beginning/after class and we walk together to the our next class in the same building which is only like a few minutes walk. But afterward, I don't really talk to her afterward unless I see her around campus, but even so I just say hi, where you going/etc, and go on with my way cause she's usually with her friends from high school who goes to the same school (this is community college local) so this is generally pretty awkward...

    My question is, how do I get to know her better, and etc etc. Not necc. to show off any interest (although I do have some interest), but just in general be better friend, because I have the issue of not knowing how to get to know people who I meet on my own better without any link from another friend or whatever. Should I be like, hey can I get your number or email or whatever for some questions on h.w. and just go from there? I've only known her for like 1 and a half week basically. yup yup thanks any suggestions :] sorry for such a long post :jump:
     
  2. Natsu

    Natsu Well-Known Member

    try and hang out together in a group if you have friends which are also her friends and get to know her better through that and eventually chat to each other through phone, MSN whatever.

    but the fact she knows who you are and you know who she is, maybe do something together in which you got a common interest like the class you have together and let it develop from there.
     
  3. Flames

    Flames Out of Date User

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    Act natural and ask, you're just thinking too much man!
     
  4. reno

    reno Well-Known Member

    hang out after class =)
    eg grab a drink or something
     
  5. sars4tw

    sars4tw Well-Known Member

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    try to find some common grounds, start from there.
    be cool, act natural.
     
  6. mr_evolution

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    Communication, make her laugh :)
     
  7. negiqboyz

    negiqboyz Well-Known Member

    Ok .. community college atmosphere is totally different from regular 4 years university. 4-yr univ have better social club/frats for people to network and meet new friends; not to mention dorm.

    Anyway, for your situation, I would suggest you ask her number or email to discuss hw and then move in from there. If you're interested in her; again, ask her directly. Just be sincere. Ya'll adult now, why beat around the bushes. If you're not confident at all, email would be a great way to start the conversation. This will move on to online chat, then phone, and then in person .. that's the steps. Of course, personally, I wouldn't take this long route .. waste too much time. I'd go straight to the point. When you're do this or that, might end up creeping her out. Good luck!
     
  8. anti

    anti Well-Known Member

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    when u see her again just ask her out for a drink or a meal and start from there
     
  9. MissCheekS

    MissCheekS Reconnaîssant ❤

    if i were u just ask her msn first... n then chat.... if all goes well u just ask her out lor... hehehe...
    dont be too scared to ask la... whats the worse that could happen...
    like flames said... ur thinking too much....

    Add oil!
     
  10. an0nymous

    an0nymous Well-Known Member

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    Just ask for her number. you can say i wanna talk to about school work if i need any help or something like that, email works as works like MSN. Then you slowly chat her up and she is yours !!! HAHAHAHA JKs.
     
  11. you are going to college together? im sure you have her facebook right? lol gotta find out if she is single or not if you are planning to pursue.... after that just inivite her out off campus sometime, could be anything but possibly pick a bigger social event, with a crowd so it isn't that awkward with just the two of you
     
  12. uryu

    uryu Well-Known Member

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    haha, thanks for suggestions everyone! the only problem i think i have is that I've never really matured in this area of socializing for a women in which I've had interest in, which is why I'm shy and afraid of risks/embrassment

    i think imma go w/ the msn/contact thing /facebook so i'll take it from there, invitng her out seems too difficult ^^, cepally because i dont know her friends, and hanging out with a larger group is pretty hard option :x
     
  13. it takes time, slowly build on the friendship and then go from there.
     
  14. ProjectD

    ProjectD VIP yay :]

    the only way you develop is from experience... so just go out more often with ppl and so on
    then you will be able to talk to her more naturally
    but first off get her facebook, or msn or soemthing, get some convos in
     
  15. reno

    reno Well-Known Member

    go eating snacks or go get drinks with her between/before/after classes
    =)

    then get her number =D
     
  16. emawlee28

    emawlee28 Well-Known Member

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    umm . y not ask for her aim/msn and talk to her frum there . and try hanigng out wid her and find common interest