There is a girl I'm interested in, that's a little bit younger than I am so we kind of hang out with different crowds. Though we do have a lot of mutual friends as well. She's around 5 years younger than me (don't worry she's 18+), so my first question is, do you think the age gap is too big? Also there's is another guy that is interested her as well, though she said she only wants to be friends with him. He keeps trying to force his hand, and change her decision by manipulative means. Second, I like to do a lot of things for her, but my friends disagree with my reasons. I can't help it as it's the kind of person I am. She lives in another city 20 minutes away from me, and I have offered to pick her up on occasions so that she could come hang out with me. My friends dislike the idea that I 'go out of my way' to get her and think she's only using me, especially since she use to drive down here herself. The only reason why I choose to pick her up is that she's pretty quiet and shy. Getting her to hang out with just me and her is such an arduous task sometimes and other than IM chat it's the only time i get to see her by herself. So with the facts given, do you think my friends are right? My friends are also friends with her, but recently have expressed a ton of negativity about her to me, saying that I should forget about her and find someone new. I defend her against their accusations, but they say it's because I like her too much to see the truth. What do you guys think? and do you think she's worth the effort?
my girlfriend lives 2 hours away and i drive that distance to see her during the schoolyear. 20 minutes is not really going out of your way at all... your friends sound like they just don't like this chick and want to cockblock you. Why are your friends even involved in this, handle your own shit bro. :nuts:
@Fearless my friends are friends with her too. We've been friends for about half a year now, but it wasn't recently that I developed an interest in being more. They're just saying that she's no good for me because of what she does. @creazn yea the other guy has made a lot more moves on her than I have. I'm like lagging on telling her what I feel about her. My friends are telling me to either tell her now or forget about it. That other guy is just another reason why I don't know if she's worth the trouble, because she's so naive. She tells me the stuff he says, and it's complete BS at times.
My friends are male. but in any case I think I got my answer today.. She told me the guy told all his friends they were dating. When we were together today, she tells me "I guess we're kind of dating now? I don't know." My heart totally sank ;( Guess I should forget about her huh?
First, I don't think 5 years is too big of an age gap. Especially if you're both adults. Second, does she ask you to pick her up? Or do you offer it to her? If she doesn't ask you to pick her up, I don't think she's using you. You're willing to do it. lol 20 minutes is nothing..
Yea I agree it's nothing, but my friends make a big deal out of it. I offer to pick her up every time. My friends just get mad because we all live relatively close to her, and if I pick her up it's like an additional hour of waiting because I have to go there and back. hahaha
Haha I agree it's nothing. but it's 20 minutes once I get on the freeway, total it's almost an hour or so. Still I don't really mind. She did ask me if I like her before, but I was nervous and I laughed it off and said no.. T______T I'm such a wimp blahhhhhh
yeah i know how thats is, sayin crazy shit becuz ur nervous ehm becuz u laughed it out like u said, she is thinking that u 2 just close friends. thats why she tells u things about the other boy. But the choice is up to u. u have to do this shit. Do u have a picture of her haha then we can also judge if she is worth the effort
Dude the story ends here....this ain't no drama bullshit, it's real life, you turned down the chance and its all over
You said no!!?!?!?! lol like flaming said, I think that was your chance right there. She wouldn't ask you if she didn't really want to know. She asks you because she wants everything to be put out on the table so that you two can begin dating. I wouldn't be surprised if right now she feels like you're the one toying with her feelings and she's just saying shes dating that guy to see your reaction. Then of course, there could always be that possibility that she's just asking so that she can stop you right there and give you the lame 'you're like a brother to me' excuse. But, if you were smart enough you should be able to tell from her expression which one it was.
