sorry i just want to let my feelings out i dunno i'm not ugly, in fact a lot of people think i'm pretty (i'm not braggin, i dont feel this about myself) but i know i am cute, more personality wise i try to act cute, because it is fun i know how to dress professional, sexy, posh, rugged (pick and choose for different occasions and situations i am smart, i know how to do things, ok maybe sometimes i am a little strong willed i'm not a gold digger, i like to hold my own i'm not sufficating, i like my own friends and my own space sometimes too i know how to cook, clean, love kids these are alot of attractive qualities for a female right? lots of guys tend to have crushes on me . . . . one problem with me is i'm rather picky (about personality and drive, not about looks) i dont like dating for fun i only date if i see potential in teh guy if i'm going to date i guy, i want to know i could be in a serious relationship with the person (ok maybe not marriage, but at least it's not a hey let's have fun for two months and break up) so i've been in very few relationships why? it seems that all the guys that are into me, i am not into (often they see me as this, oh let's hop into bed, because they have seen me party and assume things, OR they have the personalities that scare me) and the guys i'm into, either are not into me, or they dont see a future with me i've had guys i've liked, and liked me too, but just could not see us together for long, so didn't even start trying i think i would make a great gf, fun to hang out with, open to lots of new things but why do i never have the opportunity to show someone this all just fustrates me
damn` so...are u promoting urself here? i think if there is a mutual feeling between u and any person then u should go for it instead of hangin back just cos u don't see a 'long' future together``how would u know if u haven't even tried it? ur just limitin urself to opportunities...anywayz..goodluck? love` mon
yea you're too uptight.. seriously if it was jus two months of fun... at least ya had fun... but what do you do now... waiting miserably thinking that guy is "the one." Date around while you still can.. cuz you're not gettin any younger.. -lol and who knows the "future" you do not see might not turn out so bad... so stop acting like ms cleo predict what your relationships maybe...
LMFAO... ahahahha damn Mon n I was thinkin the samething and typed the same reponse at the sametime.. damn thas jus weird...
Umm.. another thread! Boy meets girl, girl meets boy. 70-99% of the time, going deeper than casual acquaintance, things don't work out anyway so do not loose hope, don't despair and certainly don't loose faith in yourself. Whether it is left of 70-99%=80% or right of 70-99% = 99% depends on whether the two are easy going or extremely demanding. The "99%" people are ones mostly dissatisfied and may get pissed off at other people 99% of the time. One day after trying 99% of the time you will come upon this 1% fellow, or sooner if you two are less fussy and easy peacy and better, try to keep one "eye shut" and use this eye to look at undesirable things and life will become more rosey! I think you have at least another 6 years to try this so plenty of time! Forget about Valentines, find the partner that is always a Valentine, all year round and till eternity! Have you consider non-Chinese bf, you may find that you have more choice and may be more to what a girl would wish for.
Sounds like it is nearly good enough to be a dating column in the local classified! OK, all it needs is: Young caring, sentimental, beautiful talented girl WLTM boy of similar characteristic, flowers are nice to have but not essential, 18-26, 5'8+..., no time wasters and may develop to a serious relationship. -blush2
hmm cute ay *this thread doesn't deliver without pictures lol but seriously i don't believe in finding the "one", there's so many people out there in the world, always bound to be people who are a better match than the person in your current relationship. You just have to search around, though i'm not saying to move on all the time, but at the same time don't just stick to one relationship and expect it to last forever. Of course there are those people who stay together until they die, very rare though So my point is...hmm don't really know lol...more just ranting about nothing
this is not a personal ad like i said, it's a rant i knw you guys make excellent points but this is just the way i am and i dont see a need to try to change myself no need to give up my beliefs, my style, my reasons for doing what i do, my integrity because others dont agree with how i decide things more i guess i need to accept the conciquences of my decisions and learn how to emotionally handle them and accept how things are learn better ways with copeing with the bitterness and stress of all this crap an interesting thing is, if someone asks me to go out on a date as friends, i will ALWAYS go, why not? make a fun night of it but if someone asks me to go out on a date expecting a kiss at the end of the night, that's when i stop and think about who the person is, and most of the time say no i tried to avoid every making the decision to go on a date with a person becuase he is cute or handsome i dont ever want to start off because of an attraction of physcial appearance i mean if his personality is great (than the good appearance is just a bonus)
there are some people you know it 'just will not work out with' i rather avoid ending a two month fling and feeling really crappy for another month and having this awkwardness between someone that could be a really great friend haven't you heard of the concept becoming friends first, then lovers? i never go on romantic dates with someone i JUST met, i find it creepy, and notice that all those relationships when they become sour, the people never talk again but if it was a friend first, you will make an effort after spliting to stay friends, and often you are still very close and care for one another and watch over one another when in new relationships besides if it's someone you really dont know, and you get into a relationship, then you start learning about the person, you kinda get stuck if you emotionally like the person and see all these things you HATE about the person but if it's a friend first, often you already know alot of the bad traits of the person (i know not all) and you can judge if you can over look it before emotionally putting yourself in have you ever been in a relationship where you didn't learn something about the person that you HATED until after you started getting emotionally attached that happened to me once, and i freaked out it's like a girl who wont leave a relationship when a guy beats her because she is still emotionally stuck (but no worries my situatino didn't deal with a guy beating me) after experiancing this before, i'm more careful now
If you want to attract different guys, it's probably about time you tried carrying yourself differently. If you're not willing to do that, then don't bitch about it because you're the one at fault here.
jeeze, everyone is entitled to a little unhappy feelings once and a while, and it's good to release instead of having it bottled up damn, it's not like i'm the one who shoved a stick up your ass and if you felt the need to tell me something, sure fine, i'll accept it, but could you have done it a little more graciously
This is the way I dispense information and experience. I am a huge advocate of the "becoming friends first" model of dating. However, if you like to party and show yourself off that way, then complain that you only get attention from partying guys, you have no one else to blame but yourself. Period. There is no other way to put it. Double standards do not run in the dating game.
i dont party that often it's rare, but when i do, i like to have fun that's all it's just that i've have this friend that i've known for two years and one night i go to a club with him and "wooooow, i didn't know you were like that" all i did was dance really sexy and i could drink a decent amount next think i knew it, he was trying to invite me over all the time trying to get in my pants and it really annoyed me
That's not even a real problem, people have it worse then you. people would think that being really attractive means they have no problem getting guys/girls but the down side is that they will also attract the worst kinds of guys/girls too! ...so maybe I might know what your talking about. it's just a matter time before you come across the right person, you just have to know when you see them and be patient. Your not picky if you want someone that is likely to have a good future propects or even ambitious, as long as they aren't a bum and useless I guess. The club thing, seriously what else would you expect in a night club. At times, attraction is related to signals given out e.g. style, fashion, look, attitude, body language, location. and in yor case dancing sexy could mean 'hey gimme some sex!' Some girls/guys don't realise this, certain personalities are attractive to certain looks and styles. Girls/guys do have some control over what they attract at most times.
thank you kenshi for those words, just knowing that someone understand what i mean makes me feel better
