First time writing here about my problem, so here how it looks like. Right now I'm 1st year Chinese philology student. Starting from summer, I can go abroad to study in Taiwan *and this is where my problem begins* My bf need to stay here, in Poland, and finish his studies. I won't see him for a really long time, and the time I will come back to Poland - he will go Taiwan (to get his medical license; takes usually one year). So as you can see - it looks like we are gonna be apart nearly 2 years.... of course, both of us will try to come and see each other as soon as possible, and as many times as we can... I lost my point. Do you think i should go and study abroad? Not seeing each other for a year is less pain than 2 years, right? I'm damn sad. He is saying to go - because it's an opportunity for me to speak better chinese... I had to write it somewhere. Otherwise I would die because of thinking process. lol
Just go, I mean if it's meant to be, no one can take you guys apart... Beside education is more important right now ^^
absence makes the heart grow fonder.. -^_^ i think you should go, like your bf said, it's a really good opportunity la-smart
Distance and time might be a problem but if you both truly love one another, you will be together in the end. Besides, with technology these days, you can always call/ webcam and if money is not an issue, fly maybe 1-2/ year to visit.
If you truly love each other, then no matter how long you two need to be apart, your relationship with him will not change. Even though he is gone, but his heart still stays with you if you truly love him. Moreover, you two can buy a webcam and see each other everyday through the internet while he is gone. Do what you like to do. If the relationship is yours, nothing can change it except yourself. It all depends on HOW MUCH YOU REALLY LOVES HIM!!
Everyone makes very good points. I think right now in life that Education IS very important because it will help set the rest of your financial part of your life. As for the love, some relationships come and go. This would be a good test to see if you TRUELY love each other or are together due to convience (i dont mean to sound mean, but those were my first words that came to my head). If you truely love each other then yes you will last it out. If you aren't ment to be, this will be a good way of finding out.
stay if you wish, don't regret. go and don't regret. education is important at this point of your life. Relations come and go, this may determine how faithful you two will be. it is up to you after all.
Personally, I don't believe in LDR because it never works out for me. But I think in your situation, you should go and pursue your studies. You shouldn't hold back cuz of a guy since you have your own future ahead of you. Ya'll just boy/girlfriend; not married so who know what will happen down the road. You shouldn't make such sacrifices so easily without regards to own well being. What "if" things don't work out later and ya'll break up? You gonna regret letting go this very opportunity. Also, I should stress that "LOVE" isn't everything. Don't count on "FATE" too. Relationship is like work .. what you put in is what you get out.
since both or u r going to TW is there a way to re-schedule so that both of u can go together?? education is very very important... but this isn't a decision we can make for u... it's something u have to sort out with ur bf and perhaps ur parents... the reality is... u cannot predict wot happens next in life... some ppl live together n then end up changing hearts... n i've heard stories when couples living apart for years and still end up getting married in the end... don't listen to wot we tell u what's important... listen to urself... wot do you think is important to u?? wot do you think is the right thing to do?
i know that education is more important, but as some of you may know, or not - i'm cancer. cancers believe in first, true, only one love. they will do everything because they follow heart not brain. my brain is telling me - go and my heart - how am i gonna make it without him?
^ well... id say education goes first a year overseas is a very good opportunity to learn a lot not just for ur studies but also abt urself n becoming independent. but hey....If u make a sacrifice n stay in Poland why cant he get his med license in poland or in another country in europe?
What?!?! So cancer doesn't only kill you but alter a person's thought.................. I would follow what both my heart and mind tells me. The path to victory! Take your education and then take a year holiday to taiwan to be with your bf?!?!
Nothing is set in stone in life, particularly not by predictions dictating how one's life should/ could be. It is "I" and the choices that are made that ultimately determine the who/ what/ how one can aspire to be. If you believe he is the "one" for you and he feels the same, then nothing will keep you two apart in the end. Besides, as some above has mentioned, the distance will only make the both of you grow fonder.
You should definitely go. since your bf said u should go means he care for u and your future so what restrained you from not going? I'm not too familiar with in-depth relationship but I do know education in some perception bring relationship much closer bonds ( at least that's what I think from watching so many chinese drama)..... Think about it, All PA members hope you a safe trip －帆風順
MissCheekS > he cannot, because if he is gonna take polish license exam he can work only here, in poland, which he can't because he doesn't speak polish. He was thinking about England, but their license exam is too easy... he is aiming higher so he has chosen USA and Taiwan, which are pretty hard. Thank you all for opinions... I'll go, because i love what i study and i want to get better. <3
well hes saying that you should go as its a good opportunity for you to converse with the chinese culture and as you put it meaning he wants you and him to further strengthen the relationship you two already have, as he wants you to further understand his background culture and traditions but aside from that you should be thinking about why do you want to go to Taiwan? and what would you be doing if you didnt go? distance isnt an obstacle if you two want to make it work. its a good opportunity to learn about another culture through experience but also it helps develop yourself as a person and to understand yourself more. make new friends obviously from the other side of the world. but at the end of the day, think what you feel is right and stick with it ~
its good that uve come to a decision.... like the others said... maybe u can use webcam, chat etc to keep in touch.... also.. luckily flights are getting cheaper so maybe u guys can still see eachother in that period.... ur both still young n u should pursue ur own dreams... dont let anyone or anything hold u back... all the best to both of u -flow
good to know you're gonna enjoy it in Taiwan ^^ my friend from Hong Kong always go to Taipei, Taiwan all the time and never gets bored of it. im not sure why, but she says its beautiful and loves it a lot ~ post pix on PA when you go over there ^^
We all go through trials, it builds characters it will be difficult without him, but you think you will die? of course not. IT will be hard, but not impossible
