Okay, here is my situation. I'm freaking shy as hell and I can't be myself around girls that I am really interested in. This is the same problem I have as Wolf (who posted something like this earlier). I just can't seem to make myself marketable... I don't dress nice, I don't have nice hair or anything, hell I'm not even good looking. I just don't think girls are interested in me. Or maybe my standards are too damn high. I have this thing for this white girl (I'm Asian - Cantonese) and I just... can't seem to bring myself to her to talk to her or what not. She goes to Columbia University with me and she is in my Macro class. It's a big lecture hall, and she always sits in the front. I always sit in the front as well, but I'm in the left wing, instead of the middle. So, one day I decided to sit next to her in the middle wing, and I said hi and everything, because I just wasn't into her at first. But then, I kept stealing glances at her throughout the entire lecture (fucked up in the next week's recitation quiz because of that) and I started becoming really aesthetically attracted to her. The thing is, she asks me questions from time to time about the class and I never see her anywhere but in lecture or recitation sessions. I don't sit next to her everyday because, well because I don't know. But now, I have this crush on her and I really want to know her more but I can't even summon up my balls to just talk to her. I always wait for her to talk to me. What the hell is wrong with me? What the hell should I do? Someone please give me some pointers on how to improve myself, not just asking and talking to girls, as I have had one REALLY bad experience with another girl and I just can't bring myself to want to be with someone, but I do... Anyway, sorry for this long ass post, I know it was confusing, but damn. Sorry people. Help me out.
Okay Pal, this is what u have to do! READ CAREFULLY, or u gonna mess up. She WHITE rite? (u r over 21 rite?) Go to the Pharmacy and git a pack of lifestyle Condoms (Super thins ones) Then put a six pack of these in your wallet ***very important **** continue reading. Make sure u sit on the same row as her next class. When it comes to break time walk right next to her and fumble in ur wallet pretending to look for change. Then intentionally drop the "six pack " on her lap Then hestiate to git it back (try to turn red or be embrassed) and instead then ask her to do it. hehehe. That should break the ice!!! Why do this u ask? Cause WHITE girls think sex and if u show em u do it, u have more chances. P.S. I don;t think u r gonna git slapped. Do this n tell us how it went. hehe
Uh, dude. I'm not trying to have sex with anybody right now, I'm not trying to get in her pants if that's what you're thinking. Sorry buddy.
haha that plan? im guessing if she's in college and serious it wont work lol probably will scare her away doing that, just take some time to get to know her better
Damnit. Amateurs never went out wit White Chicks. They have no respect 4 u if don't show 'em u have experience. American white girls start getting xp when they r about 14. White Girls don;t think like asian chicks. oh ya, buy the ultra thin ones to show u really know what u r doing. hehe
If you can get to Columbia U, you must be smart enough. In addition to your brain, show that you are kool too. Maybe after class you can invite her to join you at Starbucks for a friendly cup of joe? White girls like people who can make them laugh but at the same time a good listener. Be patient...
Well the thing is it's really hard for me to summon up the courage to even speak to her! I could ask her to go to John Jay Hall with me for something to drink... or study for finals or what not with me but damn... it's not that easy. I wish it were as easy as everyone put it to be.
-noclue . Never heard of Columbia U. Only Harvard, McGill, Oxford, UofT, UBC. Damnit, MY plan is awesome, man. Highly adaptable Think bout it (u being a Columbia U Grad wanna be), could Ultra-Ultra Thin lactex be X-changed wit somethin else instead of Condoms? Like, if you r afraid to drop Condoms, drop your IPOD, USB Key, Set of keys, etc on her and then start a conversation. make sure u don't hurt her or nuthing. U gotta do something different to make her talk to u and break the ice. Cause every other guy is gonna do the same like u, trying to talk her into studying together. (Damnit, what kinda of date is that?) where r the ladies neway wit there opinions and advise. I just google Columbia U. Th one in New York? -cool
adrianc smart plan, i thought it was a nice ice breaker. problie he won't do it cuz he's too asian buh whatever man. every grl likes sex wen ur at that age and in college. so man up and talk to her. white chick hmmm smart ierno, just cuz she's in a good school. maybe daddy bought her way in, if she was smart then why she asking u questions??
Well Macroeconomics is pretty damn hard here at Columbia University, it's normal for everyone to ask questions about the class from time to time, nothing wrong with that... and yeah, it's the one in New York City. 116th Street baby, haha. Well anyway, I just got back from an on campus club event (Columbia holds club events even during finals week... to relieve pressure I guess. It's a tradition), and guess who I bumped into there? That's right, I bumped into her. We had a good conversation and everything, she's really nice and pretty at night time with all the lights and stuff... yeah. Well, I got to know her a bit better and everything, but I didn't say much. She was the one telling me all this stuff about herself as she and I were walking back to our residence halls (we're actually in the same residence hall, I had no idea!) and damn, I just wish I told her more stuff about myself and maybe I could have made her laugh more, but I was just saying stuff such as "uh, yeah, that's cool, yeah, me too..." with no emotion or anything... damn I'm a fucktard. Anyway, so now I know her dormitory room and stuff, and besides her asking me about the Macro final and if I was going to get some studying done (which I will, and I don't want to get ahead of myself, but I think she wanted me to ask her to study together or something, I don't know) and she told me to drop by from time to time and stuff... but I was like "yeah, yeah, naw I'm good. See ya on Monday for the Macro final." Damn... I'm so fucking stupid!! Someone please give me some real tips, I want to visit her without looking like a stalker... should I buy flowers or something? Or a Christmas gift? People please help me!!!
lol if ur not trying to get in her pants, then start........ well don't make it ur goal or anything just at least be ready cuz u do know that its normal nothing less attractive then a man that doesn't' know what they're doing ummm doesn't know what they're doing doesn't just mean in bed also mean stuff like donno how to carry urself in front of ppl donno how to take up career changing opportunities donno how to step up for someone sigh*** i can list all the unattractive stuffs but i honestly donno what makes a person attractive so can't help u there besides ppl will be naturally attracted to a leader don't u think, whoever would go after the lesser girl that hides in the back of the classroom so instead of being the sissy hiding in the back, do something about it if u ask me i think the, u want grab some coffee is way too old if it were me i wouldn't want it, lol, jus take her when u have a project together, sit down chat a bit, get some work done, then get up and get urself a coffee well get her one too, and obviously dont take her money even if she insists at least be quick minded and come up with somethin quick to say, at least it gives her an excuse to not have to pay u bak...............being a cheap ass is pretty unattractive in my books especially over coffee...... o yea i think ur doing great with her, its pretty unattractive if u make urself too available or make urself too obvious that u like her, lol, jus put usrself in her shoes and say "can i actually like this person if he does this" if u've watched HITCH u'll learn plenty lol my last advice: DONT GIVE HER A REASON TO NOT WANT U lol, best wishes buddy
Haha. Amateur. If I was there, I would cut right in and u lose da girl. In my first year bio class, there was this white girl that sits next to me all the time (she was average looking) and I never noticed but chit chat a bit sometimes. So when the mid-term came, she really needed help, and guess what she did. She called the professor for my number -cool He didn't give it to her though Why don't u try that ? hehe.
Well, you shouldn't ask her out for coffee, cause thast to old fashion. Ask her for lunch....everyones gotta eat rite. Then you can start asking Q's like what kind of food you like and stuff. You already made a conversation wit her which is good. Keep doing that. act interested, but not stupid. And put some emotion into your replys, dont act dead, put some energy into what your saying (Not too much, will seem that your high or something) just talk to her casually. If theres Something you have in common, then say "Oh really Me too" and give your side of the story so she starts to know more about you. I.E: Girl: I hate bad drivers because there was this 1 time.............etc You: Really!! I hate them too because i almost got run over........etc Sorry for the bad example, not good at thinking of stories. lol Good luck, tell us what happens. Heyyy, You have a similar name as mee, HAHAHaa
What he really should b e doing is to be HIMSELF and do/say what he is thinking. Cause it is NOT him that the girl gets to know and love, but the community that comes up wit the ideas. Otherwise, it will be short lived relationship anyways
well i definitely i want to be myself, but its just so hard because "myself' is a super shy person who can't even strike an interesting conversation with her. she was doing all the talking, and the only time i'm going to see her will be tomorrow... for the macro final. after that, im done, she has one more final (Japanese final she has on wednesday). i dont know what to do or what to say to her before she leaves ... i mean ill see her next semester because we're in the same residence hall but i mean,.... damn i dont' want to think about her all the time throughout my winter break.
should i just give up? i mean, how am i ever going to be able to court a white girl? im asian and im not even good looking.... damn...
Keep trying man. I understand what your going through. At least the girl is showing some interest at least. Don't give up.
Dont give up, You have this. Its just like giving up in the middle of surgery!!! Since being yoursself is shy. You have to get over that. I use to be shy, but i loook at what the outcome mite be if i overcome that shyness (if thats even a word). You just have to loook at the bright side of things. Strike up the courage tommrow and do something you wont regret.
this like my first post lol ... i sorta know how u feel... 2 me if a white girl likes to talk to you and if you feel if she has some feeling for you (only you know know it). you should start flirting with her instead of being a nice boring guy. like tease her on how she look n stuff. nice guys dont win... all girls like flirting azn or white. hope its useful.. glad 2 give more advice if u need
