ok so here's the scenario... you're currently working.. in a job u're not liking too much and you tell all ur friends out there how much u don't like your job.. so one day one friend tells you the place they work at has a free position and refers you to her boss for the position... So after goin through the interviews and doing all the reference checks, the friends boss offers you the position.... ok.. so far so good right? At the same time as this is all going on.. you have found another place advertising for another position, so u decide to give it a go as well.. (you know .. can't hurt to aplpy for another job to see if you can get it right?) .. anyhoo.. all goes well over at this new place too.. and they offer you the position as well... OK.. so here's where the question arises... From the moment your friend refers you to their boss, you already let the friend know that you applied for another job too and may take that job if they offer.. so seeing as now you have 2 job offers (the latter one paying more) you decide to take the other one and not your friend's... so they get shitty with you coz now they look bad with their boss.. coz you didn't take it... Ok.. so that whole "scenario" was me.. I took this other offer instead of the one my friend's palce was offering... or actualli I accepted it and have since declined it .. So what would you guys have done? take the job that's paying more and great possible career path? or taking the friends' job also with a great career path but less pay and save them "face" with their boss?
Take the best possible career path. Everyone wants a better future. Your friend will understand, and so will his boss.
don't look at the pay package if you're a starter. whichever job which will give you more experience in your field is what you should be looking at.
both jobs are great.. they give great exposure to the field they're in.. i took the other one over the one my friend referred me for because it is better pay and also a great possible career.. i just told my friends boss today and omg he went off at me and my friend.. aiiz.
The fact that the boss and your friend railed on you indicates that they aren't very professional. They should understand that you never said "yes" to their offer - well, if you did say "yes" with a verbal contract that's another matter - that you are probably looking around other places for a job as well... They should realize that even if you don't work with them now, there may be a future you might so it's never good to burn bridges like that... I guess they were pissed as you wasted their time...but life's like that?! Maybe it was better you didn't work with them...everytime you do something wrong your friend will want your head!
I would pick the job that I would like the most. If the later job you found is alot better than your friend's offer I would have gone with the other job instead...
hmmm.. i guess they don't like the whole wasted time issue.. but yea i hope i've made the right decision.. but thanx everyone for your feed back~
Are you sure you told your friend that you applied for another job and that just because your friend got you a job offer, it doesnt mean you'll accept it? You know honestly, I would be pretty ticked if I were your friend, too. I went through all that trouble for nothin'. But I'm sure this will all blow over.
yea.. i know if i were my friend, i'd be totally ticked off.. but hopefully it will blow over coz yea i do feel sorta bad for her for not takign it.. but hopefully she'll understand~ can't mix professional work with personal issues.. right?
If I would you, I would probably take the same path as you. Just cause u get more money & have a better future I guess later on.
I really think this depends on how much the other job pays and when you say career like office job or like just cashier being paid more? because if it was in the sense, career career then yea, you made the right choice, but it if was just a cashier summer job, i think that's messed up cause the friend did something for you.
Assuming you kept you friend aware of your options the whole time, then there shouldn't be a problem. A true friend will come around for you.
yeah all along I told my friend that I was applying for another job as well and may take it.. the jobs aren't like a summer job.. but a possible career path for me.. the one i chose is great.. i've started it now and fully enjoy it but yea feel bad for my friend btu like i said... i don't think there's anythign else i can do.. thanx for everyone's responses..
Take the job that give you the best career path. Don't take a job because the company is looking for someone to replace another because you will inherit a big mess left by them. As for your good friend, take him/her out for a dinner. I'm sure he/she will be supportive for your decision if they are your good friend. Otherwise, forget him/her and find new friends.
